Anyone suffer postnatal depression after second child after being fine with first

[bitethebullet]

My mum suffered severe post natal depression with all her children (to the extent that she was sectioned) and I worried a lot during my first pregnancy that I might suffer in the same way. Everything was great however and I was very relieved. Now I'm starting to worry again about it and I was wondering what the likelihood is that I'll be affected if things were fine the first time around.

 

[littlesteph]

I think it depends on whats going on around you at the time.
with my first I was fine, got a tad depressed because of the way everything ended up being rushed and he got distress. I blamed myself for him being tiny and my placenta failing, I quickly realised actually there was nothing I could have done to stop it from happening.
with my second I did get pnd but that's partly because my dad passed away suddenly when my DS2 was 6 weeks old, I got offered help and tablets which I didn't take either of as I felt it was more because I was grieving rather then being actually depressed.
I do think pnd all depends on how the labour ends and everything that's going on around at the time of birth and after.

 

[bitethebullet]

Yes, I guess a traumatic birth along with other difficult circumstances must contribute. I just watched a programme about foster carers where the mother wanted to give up her son although she seemed to have formed a good attachment with her first child. It just got me thinking about things again.

 

[littlesteph]

try not to think about, I know its hard but just take each day as it comes.

 

[Nanaki]

I was suffered with PND with my first son and I was fine with second. But I do have anxiety that don't help at all.

Depends on what situation you are in or what cause it. For me, it was caused by my past that caught up on me. But I am fine now.

Hugs xxx

 

[o0oCharlieo0o]

I didnt suffer pnd with my first but i did with my second and then didnt suffer again with my 3rd, i think its to do with situations, when i was 20 weeks pregnant with my second my husband at the time (ex now) told me he didnt love me anymore through text message, it was a huge shock to me because i never suspected anything, however we decided to work at it anyway so he stuck around, when i gave birth it was a traumatic birth, he was bigger than i expected (9lb 6.5oz) and he got stuck, i still managed to push him out but while stuck (out to his chin) he took a breath but then stopped and by the time i got him out (only pushing 6 mins) the cord was wrapped round his neck twice and he was dark purple and unresponsive, they pushed emergency button, cut his cord without even clamping it and ran out the room with him (my heart is pounding and eyes filling with tears remembering it) i didnt know what was going on, i couldn't move they were stitching me and i needed quite a bit of stitching, i sent my (ex) husband to go and see him while i was being stitched because it might be the only time any of us got to see him alive, he tells me doctors were crowded around him and he had an oxygen mask over his face, they brought him back to me 45 mins after he had been born and he was alive and well! But they said we had to stay in for 24hrs so they could check his heart and breathing every hour, i was terrified id lose him, i clung to that little baby i never let him go, and thats when the pnd began, thinking now i dont remember much of his baby time and that makes me sad, it was just like a cloud over me, but the family tell me i never put him down or let anyone else hold him, and he screamed if i ever did put him down, i think the shock of my husband at the time telling me he didnt love me anymore and the terrifying birth of my little boy was enough to bring on pnd, my husband then left when he was nearly 1 year old i beleive. Hopefully you will not get pnd, but if you do dont be scared to say anything! I was too scared to tell anyone and left it and it got worse and worse until i eventually had to tell someone, dont wait like i did, tell them straight away hun, there is no shame in it the quicker you get help the better xx