anyone ttc with a partner with a low sex drive?

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  1. vicky125

    vicky125 Pregnant with #3

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    hey im 19, my oh is 20 and has the lowest sex drive ever.. im lucky to get sex once over ovulation and its always too late.. last cycle the only time we dtd was 5 days before o.. any suggestions as to what i can do..? :cry:
     
  2. Aliciatm

    Aliciatm Trying but not overdoing

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    uhm fertilaid for men helped my husband he is 22.. but it really helped a lot... but my husband is wishy washy one week he wants it every day next week he wants it only one time... so idk.. goodluck
     
  3. momwannabe81

    momwannabe81 Well-Known Member

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    something like that would work, my husband don't like pills and he don't like the feeling he gets from them so won't take them but yours might not mind. Maybe you can try and surprise him with some outfits or something like that. You know what he likes, and it helps to talk to him about your needs (don't mention the big O) it will lower it even more.......
    GL
     
  4. ceejie

    ceejie Well-Known Member

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    I wouldn't say my DH has a low sex drive...I think I just have a very high one.

    I have read that progesterone cream in very small doses on men is like a natural viagra. I was using progesterone cream a couple of years ago, and I would put it on my skin before bed, and I noticed during those few months we were dtd almost every single day, and it was my DH initiating all the time. I think the small amount that transferred from my skin to his did the trick! So maybe worth looking into.

    I've also heard that Maca (a supplement) can increase libido in men & women, but I have no experience with it.

    Good luck.
     
  5. gekko

    gekko Well-Known Member

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    my husband has got a really low sex drive and I find that it's started to make me feel like I am not attractive anymore and is effecting my confidence a lot. I would really like to know more about these pills... what are they doing and what are they called? It'd just be nice for him to start the advance for dtd rather than me all the time (and getting turned down 4 out of 5 times). It's especially annoying when it's around O day as I OPK secretly as he thought that was effecting his sex drive but now he doesn't even know when we bd to make a baby and when it's a decoy bonk!

    PLease tell me more about the pills and anything else that you can think of that might help those of us in this situation.

    xxx
     
  6. longing

    longing LTTTC

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    Apparently zinc supps can help
     
  7. honey08

    honey08 mum2two boys/2mc

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    maca tablets and horney goat weed tablets :thumbup: herbal stuff ... ive just a higher sex drive than him , so feel like im always asking :lol: well i am :rofl:
     
  8. SillyHale

    SillyHale Well-Known Member

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    My DH has a low sex drive. He takes anti depressants and while he needs them, they do have bad effects on libido. We just recently switched to a new brand after talking to the doc because I felt like I reached a breaking point because I was always being rejected. And it seemed to always be around O time because I would obviously try to bd more. Now we're just NTNP and taking it easy for a couple months. I think during TTC many girls have had some issues with their men. It's an understandably stressful time.
     
  9. vicky125

    vicky125 Pregnant with #3

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    hey thanks guys... ill try a few things and see how it works.. i even got to the point last night where i asked if he even wanted this child because he isnt putting in the effort.. im just sick of him promising it will happen then go to bed when i go to the toilet or leave the room for something.. then we get into an arguement because he lied about wanting to have sex.. and then he goes thats apparently how we start.. we argue but by the time we are finished arguing im not in the mood.. i told him im not going to have sex with him if its started with an arguement so i dont think ill be having any in a while.. :cry:
     
  10. Grumblebea

    Grumblebea Well-Known Member

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    My DH has a low sex drive as well with usually only 2 bd during O week. Fortunately he did some reading on his own (shocker) and put himself on some supplements. Still a little early to tell if they are REALLY working but I have noticed a little more. PS we are in our late 30's so it's usually a little harder for old guys.
     

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