Anyone with a sociopath for an FOB?

[mamashakesit]

After some recent issues with FOB, my brother told me FOB sounds like a sociopath. I knew a little about the condition, but when I started checking into it a little more, it's way more creepy then I thought! He definitely has some characteristics of a sociopath.

He keeps telling me he wants to help support his daughter and wants us to be near him and I actually have a job waiting for me in his location. He's never been close to being physically violent towards me but it scares me what he could do to me emotionally, although for the most part he just ignores me and hangs out with his other women. And this job is in my field, which is hard to find jobs in. Is it possible to co-parent with a sociopath? I think he would kill someone who hurt his child, as she is a part of him, but I also think the constant lying and ignoring would be extremely damaging too. I'm so ready to work and finally found something in my field that I love to do...and I'm probably not going to take it because of HIM. Arrrggghhh.

Anyone else have an FOB who is a sociopath (or very much like one) who can offer some insight on what you've dealt with?

 

[AbbynChloe]

Not a sociopath just a lay wanker i'm afraid xxx sorry I can't be more help xxx

 

[TiredNurse27]

I think 99% of our FOBs are sociopaths.

 

[xSophieBx]

OMG after reading up on them YES I think so... x

 

[iyawo]

Actually my Ex is a narcissist personality disorder....which has alot of the same characteristics. Little or no empathy, Power games..dehumanizing people and seeing them as only something that can feed your whims.. the list goes on. Umm i would definitly NOT reccomend you to become more entangled if you seriously think thats what he is. They are non-negotiable and you may (not to mention your child) just become a pawn to him. Yikes if you are even considering co-parenting I'd go reeeeaaallly slow and keep your distance and watch his actions, not his words.

 

[Kate&Lucas]

I've had concers FOB has shown very sociopathic behaviour in the past and thought it would be a lot more difficult to co-parent with him.
It is nigh on impossible to find compromise without 'giving in' most of the time, but I've found setting little goals has made it easier to deal with. He's turned on me once or twice but for the most part I catch him in a 'good' mood. We're pretty friendly with each other now which is a massive improvement on the situation a year ago. Focusing on the positive rather than the negative (when around him) helps a lot. He has become a much better person as far as I can tell since he's been spending time with LO.

Hope you can sort things out