I'm hoping someone here is going through the same thing I am. Well, not that I wish this upon anyone, I just feel so alone. My 8 yr old has ADHD, and he's on meds when he goes to school, and it really helps him alot. My 6 yr old is in the process of being tested right now to get on meds too to help her. Now, today, my heart just broke to pieces, and I had to leave abrubtly as my 4 yr old's preschool teacher told me about some concerns. She explained how he breaks down whenever there is transision, and cant seem to focus in a group setting, only one on one. The exact same thing I was told with my first son at the same age. So, that will make 3 of my kids with this? My baby is almost 2, and everywhere I go, ppl tell me how busy she is. She just doesnt stop for a second and keeps me on my toes. Im also pregnant now with my 5th, so I dont know if it's my hormones or what but Im just so depressed today. To top it off, my dh actually had the nerve to say, why do we keep having kids. So, I'm here for support, hoping someone has something possitive to say.
Hun, they can't diagnose ADHD when the child is 4yrs old (well they shouldn't). I have 3 sons and when they were 4, they didn't stop they were like ever ready batteries.
My youngest son who is 9yrs old, IS ADHD, he is also PDD (pervasive developmental disorder (not NOS) which comes under the Autism/ Asperger's umbrella, he also suffers (diagnosed) severe anxiety (vomits ALOT, screams and cries in his sleep), and has a speech and language disorder (he can't read, spell, add number and is in grade 4, with early year 1 level of skills), he lacks all social abilities and finds it really hard to connect with other children. he attends school Monday's, Wednesday's, Fridays 9am till 11:30am and thats it, then Tuesday's and Thursday's we attempt full days, sometimes successfully sometimes not.
Your not alone...... My elder two children are fine and have nothing wrong.
In the case of your daughter, sometimes it can come down to copying her older brother and how he behaves. ADHD isn't very common in girls ( compared to boys), but don't let them put ideas into your head. ALOT of people think because you have one child with it, then your other kids must as well, and teachers are the worst in assuming that (have seen it happen to another family with 4 kids), she is 4 and isn't meant to have a long concentration span, don't let them put ideas into your head hun, just let her grow and she how things go.
This family I meantioned before has 4 kids and her eldest is ADHD and she was in the office one morning ( I was there) and her toddler wanted out of the pram and had a little tantrum and they deputy said " Oh looks like you have another handful on your hands, lets hope this one coming isn't as well (and he pointed to her pregnant belly).
She has since changed schools and wow what a change in all the kids, non of the others have ADHD, but at one point with the school questioning her other children she started to have real doubts.
I don't know your daughter, but you do, so what do you think? Do you think she is a normal playful active 4yr old that sometimes follows her older brothers bad behaviour ( due is ADHD)?
Good luck Hun