Appropriate reaction

[storm4mozza]

Hi, girls needing a little bit of advice as I'm pregnant, extremely hormonal and don't want to overreact.


My Son is 6 years old and usually the kindest and most considerate child, lately he is being extremely ungrateful, fast forward to this evening his Dad has just spent £9 on a jumper to keep him warm since the temps have dropped and the first thing he did was moan that he hated it, it was ugly and he didn't like it.. no thank you to his Dad or anything. I pulled him aside to try explain to him that he should have thanked his Dad and he just basically burst out laughing in my face >.> not sure how to handle this right now in need of a little advice please.

 

[lau86]

I think you've handled it well. It's hard, I pick my sons clothes but I only buy what I think he will like (Pokemon or something else like that). I wouldn't make him wear something he didn't like. What was it about it that he didn't like?
For the laughing, my son does this and it's a nervous thing in his case. If it was laughing to be rude I would put him on a time out for that
My son is otherwise a very good boy but can be 'ungrateful', he gets tons more than I did as a child but has no concept of that, it's frustrating.

 

[storm4mozza]

Thanks so much, Son likes pokemon.. when we took him Primark last month he wouldn't pick (he didn't like) anything... it was the wrong Pokemon or it just wasn't what he wanted so basically we got to the point of having to choose for him because whatever we buy we can't get it right >.> I needed to keep him warm so Husband picked one (Batman) though I told him probably plain was best. His dad is hurt about the reaction :/

 

[Zephram]

If it was me I would talk up how cool batman is and how awesome he looks in it.

I haven't experienced this yet as neither of my boys really give a fig what they wear, but I'm sure it will come up at some point. If either of my boys forget to say thank you for being given something, we remind them. But if my 5 year old actually acted rude and laughed in my face, he would probably get timeout for being rude. I think in this situation he doesn't have to like the jumper, but being rude about it would not be allowed in my house.

 

[WackyMumof2]

I'm having a harder than usual time with my ADHDer doing similar to your son. Him and I have always had a strained relationship mainly because I struggle to understand him and he stuggles to always stay on task with what is asked of him (he's and Aries, me a Scorpio so that doesn't help ). He went though a similar period although not quite as severe when I was pregnant with DS3. I wonder if he (like my ADHDer) is sensing you are uncomfortable and hormonal and that's got something to do with it. As horrible as it sounds, taking advantage while it's still there because he knows very soon there will be a baby in the house. DS2 did it for attention because we'd told him that when baby arrived his needs would be very, very important and would take priority for a while though it wasn't to say we didn't love him anymore. He's acting the same way again come to think of it. He will calm down.

 

[lau86]

If your husband is hurt then have a word with your son that daddy spent time choosing a jumper for him and paid for it and your son was rude. To me it's not a right wrong thing, your son is entitled to his opinion but needs to say it politely.

 

[storm4mozza]

Thanks girls! x

 

[SarahBear]

Thanks so much, Son likes pokemon.. when we took him Primark last month he wouldn't pick (he didn't like) anything... it was the wrong Pokemon or it just wasn't what he wanted so basically we got to the point of having to choose for him because whatever we buy we can't get it right >.> I needed to keep him warm so Husband picked one (Batman) though I told him probably plain was best. His dad is hurt about the reaction :/

Yeah, you can't be hurt by this kind of stuff. If she laughed in my face like that (which she has) I'd probably tell Violet she was being disrespectful and I'd have her go to her room because when she gets like that, she's usually not able to bounce back right away without some sort of consequence. I'd then wait for her to calm down enough for me to explain a better way to react or I'd state an expectation or something along those lines.