argh..will men ever grow up?

[kodi]

now, girls you're gonna have to be honest and tell me if im being a moaner here!!


He went out 2 weeks ago and got majorly drunk, im talkin major, and ended up spending 100quid on drink (he always does this) i was out too with my friends that night, he was out all day on the saturday drinking then all night too, i didnt hear a thing from 5pm-12am when he found me on the dancefloor in the next town 20miles away! how we both ended up there in the same club, god knows, but i was obviously stone cold sober and he was a wreck!!! he started threatning to beat up anyone that looked my way!! it was horrible and he stopped me dancing with my friends who i'd been with all night and ended up going home with him, needless to say my friend were not happy with me and i had to go home with a drunk idiot!!!!

now he says hes going out tonight with his dad and best mate- i dont care about him going out, but i told him not to take his card or anything so he doesnt go mad with money that we dont have and he refused..i mean, what the hell do i say to that??

and i also said to him if he comes home stupidly drunk im not letting him in and leaving keys in the door. and i mean it too.

His dads also been all sarcy and said to him yesterday "so you been given ur pass for a night out then??" his dad is such a nob, seriously, and i wouldnt be surprised if his dad was going out cheating on his OH.


am i being a bitch?? he says i am and apparently im too controlling...

 

[Alexandra91]

No way! u have a baby on the way he needs to realise he cant just go out out and spend stupid amounts on beer! ugh they are so selfish and unreasonable! id hide his card hehe x

 

[kodi]

hmm i think you're onto something there
he says itll all change when the babies here, but i dont know..what he doesnt get is that i was brought up with an alcoholic father who beat my mum and it had a big impact on my life and alcohol and what it can do..so when he drinks it brings back awful memories, but he doesnt really seem all too sympathetic, said hes not an alcoholic cos alcoholics drink 24/7 and he'd never hit me...x

 

[Maddiee]

i dont think you are hun.
i don't know what the conversion rate is from quid to dollars but your trying to save for a baby i presume? so to go out to spend 100 quid, i'm guessing thats a lot.
just tell him that your trying to save, if you are, and that its not appropriate for him to go out and get drunk so often.

 

[lily123]

Nooo you're definitely NOT controlling!
I think you're being really sensible here. Men can be really daft when it comes to Alcohol and going out, they seem to think they're invincible

Have you told him about all the memories he's bringing back?

x x x x

 

[kodi]

i dont think you are hun.
i don't know what the conversion rate is from quid to dollars but your trying to save for a baby i presume? so to go out to spend 100 quid, i'm guessing thats a lot.
just tell him that your trying to save, if you are, and that its not appropriate for him to go out and get drunk so often.

Umm i think it'd equate to like 150 dollars?
i do, but he just won't have it point blank, i'm at my wits end, i love him to bits and he is so good to me in all other ways, its just this that causes rguments... x

 

[kodi]

Nooo you're definitely NOT controlling!
I think you're being really sensible here. Men can be really daft when it comes to Alcohol and going out, they seem to think they're invincible

Have you told him about all the memories he's bringing back?

x x x x

i didn't think i was controlling either =/...
hes mostly lovely apart from this issue, hes apologised for being an idiot the past week as he wasn't acting himself, but this he just wont budge on not even with me crying telling him about how it makes me worry cause of my past

 

[Mei190]

Answer = never grow up.

I think you have every right to do that, tbh it sounds exactly what I would do.

Having said that I have been blessed at the moment, OH isn't going out in the evening's unless I come too... means the money issue stays a little more controlled. I don't really have much experience with drinking (don't drink at all) however it sounds downright awful. I understand where you are coming from if you say there is no reasoning with him though grrr! xxxx

 

[cabaretmum2b]

Argh, sounds like he's being immature and selfish, and his dad's not helping much either! Can't he see that he needs to save for a baby?

 

[celestek89]

i dont think you are hun.
i don't know what the conversion rate is from quid to dollars but your trying to save for a baby i presume? so to go out to spend 100 quid, i'm guessing thats a lot.
just tell him that your trying to save, if you are, and that its not appropriate for him to go out and get drunk so often.

a hundred quid (pounds) is about 250 dollars (depending on how good the exchange rate is)

i dont think you are hun, its not fair and he needs to start realising he cant just go out spending stupid amounts of money willy nilly!! Especially when its every weekend!! xox

 

[AnnabelsMummy]

i don't think you are either - but it's so common!!
i know its not what you want to hear..
but that saying "a mum is a mum from the moment she finds out she's pregnant, a dad is only a dad from the first time he holds the baby" isn't there for no reason..
they don't understand because they're not going through it..

and as for his dad he sounds like a right tit!! tbh i think you SHOULD control him..
tbh in a way keep your money seperate.. and when you pick stuff for the bubba, pick stuff you like and don't bother with his opinion.. then if he says i don't like it, just say tough you should help pay for it, instead of wasting your money..
i've found they get upset cause they'd look "gay" with a girly pram or something.. but heyyy it's the fun of being a girl...
he's taking advantage of not being the one carrying the baby - you take advantage of being the one who IS carrying the baby!!
xxxx