arrrrrrggggggggh need to vent

[mayz83]

my dh and i have been ttc for 2 yrs in this time we have seen family and friends have children there has been 8 babies in the last 12 months and in this time we have smiled and been happy for the couples even though i felt like BUT i had a friend that i rang yesterday as i was feeling abit low about it all and she tells me she is pregnant and getting an abortion as her son is only 10months old.

 

[Suz]

Awe...Does she know that you have been TTC for 2 years.....That is very insensitive (sp) of her....

I completley feel your frustration

 

[justme00]

Abortion? Sad. Tell her you will gladly take the baby!

 

[FJL]

I'm so sorry hun

I think by the sounds of it you've been dealing with all of this with dignity and pure strength, but I think that phone call from your friend would be enough to make a piece of concrete break!

If she knows your history, then she is being very insensitive and really should keep such things to herself.

I am sending you all the in the world for your very own BFP ond day soon

 

[mayz83]

when she told me it was literally after i had just finished saying how drpressing ttc can be at times etc. so yer she knows

 

[FJL]

mayz, I cannot believe that! Did you say anything or were you in too much shock that she had the hyde to say that to you in the first place?

Finding friends that understand the TTC blues is really hard, thats what I love so much about this forum, the support is always there.

Only 4 of my close friends know about our infertility problems, and only one of them that I talk to about it often. One of them infact LAUGHED when I told her can you believe. I was in shock at that but just gave a big pause and she was like 'oh sorry' and I said that we didn't at all find it funny. I haven't since said anything to her now, she no longer deserves to know my feelings.

I'm so sorry that you had to experience such a conversation, but please know i'm here if you ever want to talk

 

[Wobbles]

How sad that she has said that to you! I know that some people don't understand or experience the harder side of trying for you own family but theres a little bit of sense needed only to realise that what she has discussed with you is totally unacceptable & insensitive infact I would have to let her know how you felt.

Lots of luck for a BFP soon x

 

[Newt]

Some friend

 

[ElliesMum]

What a bitch. Some friend!

 

[Iwantone!!!]

aawwww thats teribble how insenative of her xxx ((((((((((hugs)))))))))

 

[mayz83]

thanks every one

 

[avistar]

It really amazes me how people are sometimes....I am sorry this happened to you. I would have just told her how I felt right then and there. I know of a girl who got preggo 6 weeks after having her first and she is keeping it. Maybe she felt like telling you because she feels close to you <?> and perhaps didn't mean to up set you with such news....Does she know of your ttc?? Even so, that news is horrible to hear for you and her unborn child. Try to do your best to focus on what you need to do to keep strong and positive

 

[mayz83]

my "friend" had a miscarriage today and rang saying she was a little upset and thought id understand so could she use my shoulder to cry on but then went on saying lucky it was just a ball of cells still so at least it wasnt a life wasted.i just wanted to slap her, hence we r no longer friends

 

[shimmyshimmy]

That does seem insensitive.
Speak to her, and say to her that you cannot get over her bringing that up with you at this time.
I do not think she understands what is going on with your life. This is really something she should have kept to herself, or spoken to another friend about.

My sister in law has been ttc for over a year, and now I am pregnant and am really worrying how this will make her feel. It is something your friend should really have thought about.
Some issues are very sensitive, and in this case it is something that she should have been thought about deeply before announcing to you. She sounds very thoughtless and inconsiderate.Definitely speak to her.

I am so sorry for the frustrations you must be feeling, and I hope your turn is just around the corner.

Take care and g.l

x

 

[avistar]

You would think that she would be relieved, right? Maybe just spend some time away from her and talk to her about how you feel once you feel like you can. I know friends can be insensitive sometimes, but we all make mistakes. If you weren't really that close to her then I can understand wanting to break ties. Try not to worry about it, if that is possible.... We can only control ourselves and our actions.

 

[FJL]

OMG, she needs to be slapped mayz!

She just does not think before she speaks. I think she needs to know that what she is saying to you is not only extremely inappropriate, but very hurtful. If you feel you're strong enough to tell her that, then I think it would be a great thing. Who knows, it might prevent her from hurting someone else in your situation down the track?

So sorry again that you have to have even heard those words

 

[PitBullMommy]

I can't believe she would say that you...especially knowing your history and feelings. How self-centered! Not much of a friend, I'd say! Sending you lots of baby dust!