Ask a doula & CBE :)

[clarsair]

I'm seriously considering having a doula next time around - I found it impossible to vocalise my wishes and feelings during labour and DH was just too overwhelmed I think to be much practical use.

How do you find midwives react to your presence? Are there any circumstances you would refuse or feel nervous about getting involved with? Do you act as support for partners as well? Will you stay in the background until the woman asks for something specific or do you get stuck in with suggestions etc?

That's it for now thanks!

 

[Guppy051708]

Hi Guppy!

It is really generous of you to spend so much time on everyone's questions. Where in New Hamshah are you? My best friend grew up in Keene and I LOVE that town!

Hi :wave: No problem! i love helping others, especially so they can make informed decisions-no matter what they decide!I live in near the seacoast, Portsmouth area, so i am on the other side, but Keene is such a neat place! I want to take DS there in the fall for the Pumpkins!

What brand of cloth diaper is your baby wearing in your pic? Is it blueberry by any chance? I'm trying to figure out what brand to try - do you have any recommendations?

DS is actually wearing an ebay cheepie! Just look up "one size cloth diaper" or "cloth diaper" etc. on ebay and you will find them for very cheap! It looks a lot like a blueberry though! I have never tried BBs as they are just so expensive, but these are soft minky like them Personally, I like Happy Heiny's one size diaper and i like FuzziBunz one size diaper I love love the patterns on the ebay cheepies though, so we have some of those as well. Those are great for the day, but i dont like them at night. Happy Heiny's has been are sucess to prevent leaks overnight (DS is a SUPER soaker!). Fuzzi Bunz OS is nice bc you can adjust the legs, waist, rise, etc. They may seem expesnive but i think its well worth it! And we are still saving hundreds-if not thousands now that we will have two in diapers!

I really appreciate the price estimate on doula services. I'm going to call around and see if I can find one here in Tucson.

Great! I am so glad to be of assitance! LEt me know how it goes

 

[Guppy051708]

I'm seriously considering having a doula next time around - I found it impossible to vocalise my wishes and feelings during labour and DH was just too overwhelmed I think to be much practical use.

How do you find midwives react to your presence? Are there any circumstances you would refuse or feel nervous about getting involved with? Do you act as support for partners as well? Will you stay in the background until the woman asks for something specific or do you get stuck in with suggestions etc?

That's it for now thanks!

Hello, Most midwives are very happy to have a supporter for both mother and the partner! They are very supportive and enouraging! I find the most troublesome care providers to be the OBs in the hospital setting HOWEVER, not all OBs have problems with it, in fact most are fine...its actually the nurses that can be the ones giving me a harder time. But i just be nice and try my best. Sometimes its hard to walk into someone elses territory. They know how they want things done and im not employee so there is some challenges involved with that, but it would never be brought to the mamas attention and it doesn't happen all too often. I try to build good rapport with any staff memebers because that is sooo much better for the entire family.

About refusing or feeling nervous, you will have to elaborate on what type of situation you are refering to.

I do act as a supportor to the entire family, mostly mom and dad (or the partner). But yes, dad may need assistance there too and that is perfectly fine! I usually just act as a fly on the wall until i get a feel for how the birth is coming along. Thats how i figure out if i need to wait, specifically for mom to request something, or if she just wants to be left alone, or if i need to suggest something. You really just have to emerse yourself, quitly, get to know the situation and then follow your instincts. Somehow, you just know, and when you dont- try something. If that doesn't work-move on to something else. You will find in labor its all about trying something until something works

 

[angel2010]

I found it impossible to vocalise my wishes and feelings during labour and DH was just too overwhelmed I think to be much practical use.

That is exactly how I felt last time (at least the little time before the section)!!

 

[angel2010]

To help you out even more, are you having a planned c-section or trying for a VBAC? I can assist more if i know which

If I get the okay I will try for a vbac. If my hospital offered water births, I would also want that, but since they don't I am seriously considering a home water birth.