Attached to baby's name

[Kirsty3051]

I've started typing this thread and then decided to move it to another forum around 10 times haha. I don't know where it belongs? baby names? second trimester? pregnancy club? I guess here will do.

I'm 24 weeks in to this pregnancy and OH has gone off our baby boy's name. We've had Lincoln picked out since before we started TTC and now he's changed his mind. I don't know how to explain it, other than saying I feel like my son's name is Lincoln. When I imagine him as a person, that's exactly who he is. I've been referring to my bump as Lincoln since we found out so it's going to be extremely weird calling him Bob or whatever name we agree on.

I guess this is just me getting stuff off my chest. I feel really upset and disappointed.

Has anybody else changed their baby's name so late in to their pregnancy?

And I guess new suggestions for baby names are welcome

 

[Mintastic]

I probably would have put this in baby names.
I LOVE the name Lincoln but my DH nixed it as well.
Maybe you could do Lincoln as the middle name and still call him that? But let DH pick a different first name?
I know a couple who did that and they call the boy by both names - he is older now and responds to either name.

 

[moonbear]

I found the name I wanted to use for a girl a month or two before we conceived and when I told SO he wasn't thrilled. I don't even want to suggest other names because it makes me sad that I probably won't get to use it.

 

[Kirsty3051]

That's where I put it originally but I thought I was probably more likely to get a response from somebody that has experienced switching names so far in on the second trimester board.

Lincoln has been OH's only suggestion, that's really the main reason I agreed to it. I don't have enough patience to go back to square one with the name game. He's hard work.

 

[Rickles]

Erm - I'm guilty of doing this to OH twice! In the end he chose Madison - (I loved Molly and Maddie) so felt like I chose too.

This time I convinced him we should call this baby Quinn if a girl and we'd go with Freddie if a boy... About 12 weeks I had a erm, epihany/meltdown and decided I like Dylan and Holly better...

Poor OH... I then wobbled back to Quinn at 20 weeks and OH sent me to my older brother to chat it through (under strict confidentiality). He put me back to Holly!! (I love Quinn just with our surname it sounds very masculine)... But I'm very lucky that whilst OH has vetoed some of my clear favourites (Oscar, Logan, Austin, Jackson, Brody)... He has agreed to Dylan over Freddie if we have a boy.

I mention all the names in case you want to nick any of them!!!

Good luck hun. I totally think you can get your head around a different name - but also get that if they are that to you - it's hard to change tack. I have no idea where I got Dylan from but I've been calling this baby it since about 8 weeks... It's probably a very confused girl in there !!!

 

[Kirsty3051]

I mentioned Dylan and Freddie early on but OH wasn't a fan of either. I've just suggested Oscar, Logan, Austin, Jackson and Brody from your post and he doesn't like any of them either.

Isn't Dylan used as a unisex name now? Either that or your body is trying to tell you something!

 

[SurpriseBub]

I can understand how that would feel. We haven't agreed on a name, but have had a favorite (also the only name DH responded positively to!)... I have resisted calling her that in case he reneges (or indeed in case I do!). But, I can see how upset it would make me if he changed his mind, and I had committed to it already emotionally and mentally.

I am sure you feel a little bereft now as at least in part, one name has been taken away, but you haven't replaced it, yet... I hope you find a name you both love and then that will just be his name. If you have him in your arms, and give him a name, that will be what you call him, and what you fall in love cooing to him with, and I would guess you wouldn't think about Lincoln any more. Good luck!

 

[Rickles]

There's a name's board - the ladies will come up with loads of suggestions for you - but what sort of names (aside from Lincoln) are you / he into?

xx

 

[Kirsty3051]

I'm going to post a thread on the name board at some point today

The only other names he likes are Thor and Eric. I don't like either. He had Franklin and Max on his list early on but went off them when I agreed to Lincoln. Josiah and Micah are on the top of my list xx

 

[carlyjade86]

I wouldn't worry about it... Soon as he sees you go through the pain he'll probably let u call the baby captain stripy pants if you wanted! That's what my OH told me after my DD was born anyways lol xx

 

[mayacat]

I've been in love with a particular baby girl name for a year or two and I'm hung on it right now. Problem is, I don't know the gender yet and baby could be a boy! I'm worried at some point if not agreeing on a boy name or hubby deciding he doesn't like the girl middle name by the time we know the gender. He won't really talk about it until then, just says "Oh that's nice" when I mention names an not sure if he means it or not.

 

[Kirsty3051]

I know what you mean. We were both hoping for a boy but had nearly a dozen girl names that we both loved. He doesn't seem overly interested in picking out names for this baby, he just wants a list handed to him so he can point out the one he wants.