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[PnkPolkaDots]

Welcome new ladies!

Kirin I'm glad you're feeling better! I've always heard cramps are fine as long as there's no blood. I've been having twinges but no blood.

For telling people... I'm really not sure lol. Sometime in January for close family and sometime later for everyone else probably. Is anyone else not anticipating much excitement when they announce it?

 

[KirbyT16]

I am not sure how big of a reaction we are going to get. We didn't announce the last pregnancy so only our parents know about the mc.

 

[HWPG]

i'll be telling my mom after the scan on the 18th. my sister on the 20th when i see them. the three of them will flip out. i have waited so long for this, been thru some struggles, so this news will send them over the moon. it's going to be awesome.
i do not know when OH will tell his family. i have left that decision up to him. i think his bio mom will be excited, but his American family - it could go eitehr way. i would honestly say that most of them wont really care, but i just dont know about his host-mom..... i think we're both apprehensive about that. only time will tell.
then we dont plan on telling many other people until mid-jan.

 

[MummyJade]

My Mum will be amazing... I am a little worried about Dad, I have a 5 year old already and im 24 not 18 when i last told him... But my OH isnt my daughters dad and i think my dad will just worry that i will go through the same crap as i did with ex... Even though he knows OH is a great person and looks after me and my daughter like his own.. I just think its a Dads right to worry about his little girl... if all makes sense...

OHs mum and family i will leave up to him to tell... Hes Army so doesnt live close to his family so it could be on phone or in person over xmas..

x

 

[Luvspnk31]

Welcome new ladies!

Kirin I'm glad you're feeling better! I've always heard cramps are fine as long as there's no blood. I've been having twinges but no blood.

For telling people... I'm really not sure lol. Sometime in January for close family and sometime later for everyone else probably. Is anyone else not anticipating much excitement when they announce it?

I know exactly what you mean. Not sure what kind of reaction we'll get. My DH wants to start telling people now, but I would like to wait until jan. I think the reactions different, but not sure anyone will be " excited". Except maybe my kiddos. I think that's why I'm hesitating.

 

[MummyJade]

Its odd how we all worry about peoples reactions, when its us and our partners that only matter... Yes we want our families to be as happy as us.. but its still our lives...

I mean I say I worry about my Dad, yeah he can worry about me as a parent does..

Surely our families will just want us happy... xx

 

[PeachDaisy]

I think telling people ultimately needs to be when you are most comfortable.

I know for DH and I, we are telling our immediate family on Christmas. Yes, I will only be 6 weeks, but we would like them to know and to have their support if something were to happen. Of course, fx nothing happens. I know our families will be excited because it will be the first grandkid for both of our parents. After the loss in January, I know they'll be over joyed.

As far as everyone else, they won't know until after the first trimester. That's the plan at least

 

[flyingduster]

The whole world knows for us, I even did a Facebook announcement already!! I figure if anything happens, I'd rather everyone was there to support me. And miscarriages are a fact of life, I am happy to have it in the open and discussed if it happens.... I imagine that if I have a miscarriage, and then post about it on Facebook, I BET I will get messages from a heap of friends who have silently had the same thing happen and I never knew. Not that I want that to happen of course!!! But I am not averse to sharing our news early anyway.

Though we probably would have waited until Christmas if we could have, it was just that mum and my lil sister decided to travel down to visit mere hours after I got my unexpected BFP, and I couldn't hold it in!!! Lol!

 

[squirrel.]

Evening ladies!

How is everyone today?

Kirin, I'm glad the cramping went away and you're feeling a bit reassured. These first few weeks are so uncertain. I'm sure we'll all be happen when we're safely out of the first trimester.

I'm sorry a few of you are worried about telling people. We've told our parents and they were happy - though I was interested in seeing that their reactions were quite a bit more subdued than when we revealed we were pregnant with our firstborn.

I was quite upset today, we've had some bad news recently about our son's development (we've been told there's a strong chance he's autistic) and it's shaken me quite badly. I always suspected, but having a body of experts tell you they agree with you is quite a different experience. I've been quite upset, so this morning when I saw another 2-3 weeks test I felt dismayed. Upon cracking it open it doesn't look too different to yesterday's test. I feel so annoyed at myself for wasting these tests. I just want to see a 3+, it's ridiculous. I know now the magic in clearblue's campaign with these tests, they must sell so well because we'll use as many as we can to get a 3+!!

After feeling queasy all day yesterday, I had a bit today, but not as much. I also have very fleeting cramps. Along with the only marginally darker test, I feel really bad today, though I'm sure it's linked to me feeling down about my son's probable diagnosis.

I had my GP appointment today and I was referred to the hospital I want They do their booking in appointments between 7/8 weeks, which is amazing! At my previous hospital they make you wait till 10 weeks. I thik mine will be a bit later though as I turn 7 weeks on Christmas Eve and I doubt I'll get my appointment in the holiday period.

x

 

[silverbell]

All immediate family know - my parents, siblings and DH's parents and siblings.

They'd asked to be kept informed and all knew we were going through IVF treatments, after we first told them we were having to use donor sperm in 2012 before we started treatment (we wanted them to know in advance so they were aware - for us it felt right to tell them, particularly as we intended to tell any potential child).

DH's side don't know we also used donor egg this time around, so we'll be having that conversation around Christmas but we know they'll be fine with it. They were amazing when we told them about DH, as were my side.

Friends and other family will be told after the 12-week scan I think. It feels surreal just talking about it.

Our families are both over the moon for us. My mom started crying on the phone when I told her and I've had some lovely emails and texts from other family. This will be my parents' first grandchild. They've all been amazing and I feel very lucky.

 

[silverbell]

I was quite upset today, we've had some bad news recently about our son's development (we've been told there's a strong chance he's autistic) and it's shaken me quite badly. I always suspected, but having a body of experts tell you they agree with you is quite a different experience. I've been quite upset, so this morning when I saw another 2-3 weeks test I felt dismayed. Upon cracking it open it doesn't look too different to yesterday's test. I feel so annoyed at myself for wasting these tests. I just want to see a 3+, it's ridiculous. I know now the magic in clearblue's campaign with these tests, they must sell so well because we'll use as many as we can to get a 3+!!

I'm really sorry to hear you've been so upset today and about your bad news

I'm going to do my last Digi tomorrow and hoping to see a 3+. My first BFP was the Digi 1-2 on 27/11 at 14dpo, 1 week exactly later I tested with a second Digi and it was 2-3 and tomorrow (28dpo), I'm really hoping it'll be a 3+. I just didn't want any disappointments or worry in between times. I believe the conception indicators aren't particularly accurate if you look at some reports online and everybody's levels increase differently. But I know that doesn't stop us testing! I'm sure you'll get your 3+ soon.

 

[tori0713]

Squirrel, I'm sorry to hear you're feeling down today and want to send hugs! Happy 5 weeks to us I'm glad to hear you got your hospital you wanted and they'll see you sooner! My doctor will be seeing me on January 2nd at 8+2, so maybe we'll have the same appointment days, too!

Those that we've already told are over the moon in my family. It's my parents first grandchild and the first niece/nephew for my siblings. We do have a step-niece but it's not the same. DH's parents are ok with it, my MIL didn't do anything for us when we told them as compared to what she did when her daughter announced she was pregnant, so DH will be fighting with her over that. His sister is thrilled as it's her first biological niece/nephew and she'll actually get to see our baby where as she doesn't get to see her other 2 nephews really ever. We've already received gifts for the baby, too!

I foresee everyone else being absolutely elated, because we've been asked every month since we've been married I feel like when we're going to have a baby. The person who will be most excited is my mommom and we're telling her at Christmas. My baby cousins will be so excited, too, and we'll tell them at Christmas, by taking our annual cousins picture and instead of "cheese" we'll say, "Tori's pregnant!". I'm so excited to see their reactions!

 

[MummyJade]

Squirrel... Massive hugs to you.... I actually havent done a digital test... only ever used cheap internet ones... Drives you mad comparing the lines though.... I have to make booking appointment on Monday so hoping to get in before xmas, but who knows... I got the scan to look forward to and i am hoping we will get to see heartbeat and a little bean! I will be a min of 6weeks and 1 day... but midwife on phone but me at 6 weeks on the 16th... So I could be 6weeks 4 days on 20th... (i think)

I am excited to tell my parents.. esp my dad and step mum as we didnt have the greatest relationship when i fell pregnant with my daughter so they missed the whole pregnancy... So will be nice to include them this time around.... My Mum was fab and still is with my daughter and I know she is totally ready for me to have another!

x

 

[flyingduster]

AW squirrel, sorry to hear you're feeling down. Hugs!! Xxx

Our family were really happy to hear, but not surprised! I have ALWAYS said I wanted to wait until after Monster was 2 to TTC the next one. So the fact we got pregnant when he was 25 months old was of no surprise to our families! Even if it was a surprise to me... Lol!!

Monster was the first grand child on both sides, and would have been the first great grand child on almost all sides too (only one of my cousins has a kid older than Monster) and this wee ladybird will be the second grandchild all around unless my SIL-to-be is preg and we don't know!! Lol

 

[SGmom]

I trying not to think about it too much but my symptoms seem to be going away. My bbs used to me sore when i walked lol but now they are only slightly sore when i touch them. And i didn't have any nausea this morning. Im also having a lot of TMI discharge. Keep going the bathroom yo check AF hasn't come. Maybe i am just thinking about it too much :/

First of all congrats... My symptoms went away, ALL of them over a week ago and didn't come back...Dr sent me to have,HCG checked, and it is still rising. My first scan is dec.19 and i am doing my absolute best to keep calm and sane....seriously, this wait is waaaay harder than the famous "2 week wait"... Congrats and hope all is well

 

[squirrel.]

Thanks ladies, I just need to shake msyelf out of this funk and try and cope with the news we've had. I think I'm hiding from it by throwing my anxieties into this pregnancy, which isn't good for me or the baby! I'm usually a pretty relaxed person, but at my doctor's appointment I just sort of poured it all out... very embarrassing. He was nice though, so I did feel better afterwards.

Thanks Tori - Happy 5 weeks to you too

x

 

[PnkPolkaDots]

Squirrel, sending big hugs to you!

I think the reason I'm not anticipating a lot of excitement is because just about everyone pushes me to wait if the subject comes up. My friends who have kids have all stressed I should wait another 5 years, or at least until I'm 30 (I'm 26 now) to have a baby. They say that looking back, they wish they'd have waited a bit longer and had more fun, traveled, went back to school, etc, etc before having a baby. Being a mother has always been my lifelong dream, so it annoys me a bit that they say things like this to me just because it wasn't their dream. Then my friends who don't have kids want my to wait because I'm one of their few friends left without kids and they aren't ready themselves to have kids. That one's pure selfishness really, but on a level I can understand.

My parents, I think, would just like to see me more stable. Not that I'm UNstable but OH and I just recently moved in together and aren't married yet (though we've been together for almost 11 years). I absolutely know he's my soulmate, no doubt about it. But since we met so young I think my parents worry that I didn't "experience" enough before choosing him, and they would hate to see us not work eventually after having children. We also aren't in an ideal place financially. I can understand it from their perspective as my parents, but it's my life and I know these are the right choices for me and my OH.

What's weird though, is that maybe my mom feels different lately. A few weeks ago I was at my mom's house and noticed she had hot chocolate mix in the cupboard. My parents never drink hot chocolate but I always do. I mentioned it and she said, "I got that so you and your brother could have some when you come over. I got it for my kids... not my grandkids though. Don't have any of those yet." Nobody even said a thing about grandkids

 

[WanaBaba]

Squirrel I am sorry you are feeling so down and hope you feel better soon

I am still feeling sick but am trying to keep myself as busy as possible to distract myself from it.

Made my first home made toad in the hole for our tea tonight, was a yummy success I seem to get full much sooner now though.

I've had sore boobs and nipples since before my bfp but it seems to be going away now. Which is worrying me ofcourse!

It's like my body just can not win, I feel sick all the time and it makes me misserable but then if I notice I don't feel sick for five mins or so I get all panicky wondering why I don't feel sick! And then it hits me again...

 

[xEmmaDx]

I trying not to think about it too much but my symptoms seem to be going away. My bbs used to me sore when i walked lol but now they are only slightly sore when i touch them. And i didn't have any nausea this morning. Im also having a lot of TMI discharge. Keep going the bathroom yo check AF hasn't come. Maybe i am just thinking about it too much :/

First of all congrats... My symptoms went away, ALL of them over a week ago and didn't come back...Dr sent me to have,HCG checked, and it is still rising. My first scan is dec.19 and i am doing my absolute best to keep calm and sane....seriously, this wait is waaaay harder than the famous "2 week wait"... Congrats and hope all is well

Isn't it just!! I thought once I was pregnant I could relax and just enjoy it. How wrong was I lol. I'm feeling confidant again today though, although the only symptom I have is sore boobs

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[MummyJade]

Squirrel, sending big hugs to you!

I think the reason I'm not anticipating a lot of excitement is because just about everyone pushes me to wait if the subject comes up. My friends who have kids have all stressed I should wait another 5 years, or at least until I'm 30 (I'm 26 now) to have a baby. They say that looking back, they wish they'd have waited a bit longer and had more fun, traveled, went back to school, etc, etc before having a baby. Being a mother has always been my lifelong dream, so it annoys me a bit that they say things like this to me just because it wasn't their dream. Then my friends who don't have kids want my to wait because I'm one of their few friends left without kids and they aren't ready themselves to have kids. That one's pure selfishness really, but on a level I can understand.

My parents, I think, would just like to see me more stable. Not that I'm UNstable but OH and I just recently moved in together and aren't married yet (though we've been together for almost 11 years). I absolutely know he's my soulmate, no doubt about it. But since we met so young I think my parents worry that I didn't "experience" enough before choosing him, and they would hate to see us not work eventually after having children. We also aren't in an ideal place financially. I can understand it from their perspective as my parents, but it's my life and I know these are the right choices for me and my OH.

What's weird though, is that maybe my mom feels different lately. A few weeks ago I was at my mom's house and noticed she had hot chocolate mix in the cupboard. My parents never drink hot chocolate but I always do. I mentioned it and she said, "I got that so you and your brother could have some when you come over. I got it for my kids... not my grandkids though. Don't have any of those yet." Nobody even said a thing about grandkids

I can see peoples point of view on the waiting... But I had my daughter at 19 and never does a day go by do i think i wish i waited... She is the best thing ever to happen to me and my parents say the same....

I think your mum has a touch of broodiness for grandbabies....

Its defo your life and you know what is best... x