Aunt trying to force me to switch formulas

[Rachel89]

Hi ladies!

I am new here, and haven't had the time to post. But things have gotten out of hand.

Firstly I had breast reduction surgery and am not able to breastfeed, so LO was put on formula right away (Nutrilon) two days after they switched it to Similac Advanced. And in that same week my aunt switched it to Similac Neo Sure, which is for premature babies. My babh was not born prematurely a little small (in weight: 2580 grams), but everything was okay and last week we went to check and his weight was 3100 grams! I did the neosure because it was the same brand, just different type, but it didn't sit right with me so I stopped giving it to him and switched back.

My aunt is a nurse, and has a creche, which is oiterally right next door to where I live, and has connections so she gets them for free, so she comes to me with them and tells me yes his weight was low and to make sure he adds on enough weight we should give this to him. I do not want it anymore, he also reacted badly to it.

While giving it to him his stomach would make constant loud noises and he started crying like hell from gas because of it. The day after the switch to the normal similac, all of that went away. Coincidence? I think not.

Now she came yesterday with Neo Sure again! Trying to put it down my throwt I sid my boyfriend does not want it and she does not even acknowledge that I have an opinion, i am 22 but I am an adult!! No one told you whatto feed your baby or how to raise him.

Now she is using he exuse of wanting to pump him up so when he is 6 months old and is teething and loses weight he won't go into danger zone. What the hell?

My doctor is on vacation till November 6th.

I do not know what to do, what to tell her, except for pretending to take them and then giving him regular similac.


My baby is only 3 weeks old he is no a lab bunny. You cannot keep switching formulas like thag and feeding him Neo Sure which is meant for premature babies and his weight is perfect! He gained about 500-600 grams by when he was two weeks old.

Sorry for the rant ladies! How Would you handke the situation? And by the way she does this with more things, trying to raise my child he is mine! And excepts me to do it her way it really makes me mad and hurts me at the same time. She forbade me to use the maxicosi on our ride home from hospital she said its unhealty fo their backs! How do I get her off of my back?? Its my child!

All I can do is say no the father doesn't want it the only way she will shut it and respect, but she does not respct me.

Also do you know anyhing about the effects when giving a baby formula designed for preemies? And then well up to when they are 6+ months old?


Thank you everyone! And sorry for the long post.

 

[AP]

Can I ask what your Aunt does with your LO? Does she look after him on his own? Otherwise, i would completely ignore all her advice and carry on as you feel is right. Tell her you won't be using her formula? Whats the worse she can do?

 

[mommy0629]

Honestly, I'd tell her to hit the road at this point. Just because she's a nurse doesn't make her the authority on baby formula. If you lo is a good weight and is gaining weight properly then there's no reason at all to use the neosure and I don't understand why she thinks it's important?? All babies go through teething and they don't go into the "danger zone" loosing weight! What the hell is she talking about?? The preemie formula won't hurt your lo, it's just higher in calories and usually a bit higher in iron and calcium, but if it was hurting his belly then that is a problem, plus he just doesn't need it and could end up getting overweight by staying on it.

Either tell her how it is, that it's your baby and she need to back off, or just take the formula and pretend you're using it but give him the regular Similac.

 

[Rachel89]

Nope se doesn't, I'm a stay at home mom and my boyfriend works full time. No one helps me with looking after LO so she just for what ever reason thinks she can boss me around now and make decisions for my LO without me having a say in it. I am 22, but I am an adult.

Also I was wondering is it me or is switchig his formula like this in one moth very bad? He was on Nutrillon, the. similac advcanced then Similac Neo Sure and I switched back. And now she wants me to switch back to Neo Sure, that cannot be good for my LO!

And the Neo Sure really disnt go well he would cry hysterically and his stomah would make loud noises during feeds.

Also why would I give a full term baby, formula designed for preemies? He is gaining weight normally there are no problems!

How would you tell her to buzz off?

P.s sorry for the typos I'm on my phone and always make typos on it :-/ my apologies!


Funny thing is is when I go for checkups she goes; you didnt tell him he is using Neo Sure right? She knows she is wrong! No doctor would advice this!!

 

[mommy0629]

Nope se doesn't, I'm a stay at home mom and my boyfriend works full time. No one helps me with looking after LO so she just for what ever reason thinks she can boss me around now and make decisions for my LO without me having a say in it. I am 22, but I am an adult.

Also I was wondering is it me or is switchig his formula like this in one moth very bad? He was on Nutrillon, the. similac advcanced then Similac Neo Sure and I switched back. And now she wants me to switch back to Neo Sure, that cannot be good for my LO!

And the Neo Sure really disnt go well he would cry hysterically and his stomah would make loud noises during feeds.

Also why would I give a full term baby, formula designed for preemies? He is gaining weight normally there are no problems!

How would you tell her to buzz off?

P.s sorry for the typos I'm on my phone and always make typos on it :-/ my apologies!


Funny thing is is when I go for checkups she goes; you didnt tell him he is using Neo Sure right? She knows she is wrong! No doctor would advice this!!

It is hard on their little tummies to change formula around like that. Now of course sometimes it's necessary to trial and error with certain babies, but not for no good reason.

Choose what formula he did best on (the Similac advanced?) and stay with that, end of story.

There is no reason to give him a preemie formula, you're right, and like you said, if she doesn't want you to tell his dr. then she knows it's not recomended.

How would I tell her to buzz off? - I'd tell her exactly what you said here - that his weight is FINE, there no reason AT ALL to give him the preemie formula (her "theory" about babies loosing weight dangerously when teething is 110% false!!) and he could get overweight from it cause an issue with obesity down the road, that it upset his tummy badly and he did fine on the Advanced and that's what you'll be giving him from now on -ONLY. Tell her that's what his pediatrician said to feed him and that's that.

It's your baby, she can't make you do anything with him, just stand up for yourself hun

 

[AP]

I dont get why she thinks she has so much say in your childs life? I'd tell her to back off now, this will carry on well into toddlerhood