Babies and evenings

[lau86]

I've been out with hubby once since dd was born, other than that she is next to me 24/7. I love snuggles with her but I'm also feeling a bit down and wonder if the lack of 'me time' could be contributing. I didn't feel like this with my others (or not to this extent). What do you think? Should I try to put her down early evening? She has a bottle at night to help her sleep through and part of the reason I keep her up is so she can have it around 9pm. It feels like a mess tbh as i often have to feed and bath the other two alone due to hubbies work

 

[donnarobinson]

My baby is 3 months and hoes to bed at 6pm I like my evenings to relax its hard work looking after kids all day esp on ur own I would try Hun to X

 

[RaspberryK]

I always found keeping babies up didn't help, at around 4 months I think I'd started to put her down at DS bedtime. To start with I used to have her in the sling for ds bedtime and she used to cluster feed on and off in the evening, she would nap on me inbetween and then once she had been asleep half an hour I'd know she was fast asleep and ready to go down for the night. This started to get earlier and earlier and by maybe 9 months she was going to bed at 6 and I was doing DS bath and bed for 7.
I've been single since she was 10 weeks and before then fob was working at bedtime.
At 6 months I started a bottle for the last feed and that was great for the routine for putting her down at a set time.
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[Natasha2605]

I think it's worth a try, a little bit of me time can make all the difference!

 

[george83]

I definitely think the lack of time to yourself doesn't help. I went through a bad spell with ds2 not sleeping so as soon as ds3 was going to sleep I would go to bed as I knew I'd be up all night. Then during the day I had the kids with me constantly. I felt like I was in emotional turmoil- I loved spending all that time with them especially as my maternity leave got closer to ending but at the same time I begrudged not even being able to go to the bathroom in peace.

 

[Rainbow82]

Lack of any time to myself really started to affect me at about 5 months so we started putting DS down for the evening at about 7/8 so we could have a couple of hours at the end of the day to eat and talk etc or just to have a bath in peace. It made a huge difference. I then used to dreamfed DS 6oz at about ten when we went to bed, he still needs the dreamfed now but sleeps better from being in the routine of going to bed earlier.

 

[lau86]

Thankyou all it sounds like I'm not alone! Now to work out what to do. She's not the easiest baby and really fights sleep!