Baby #1

[Summermama201]

Finding out I'm pregnant has been an experience. After splitting with my bf of six and a half months, I confessed to my grandparents that my period was late. I took a home test that came out positive, so my grandma took me to planned parenthood. The test there came out....positive. As of today, according to the Dr., I'm 8 weeks. Now, I'm trying to find a way to get health insurance ( I lost mine a few months ago). And have been dealing with the guilt of not telling my ex that I'm expecting, and the relief that I don't have to tell him. I'm very lucky to have my grandparents support my decision, but it's very confusing and nerve wracking to think about all of the possibilities.

 

[MummyMana]

I can't give advice on the insurance front, as we have good ol' nhs here, but regarding your ex, I'm confused, have you told him?

Congratulations btw! I'm mana and I have a 9 month old baby called Imogen

 

[Summermama201]

I have not told my ex that I am expecting. He knew that I was late, but my periods have always been irregular so he thought nothing of it. And thanks. It was an accident, but I'm very excited.

 

[MummyMana]

I'm glad your excited you should probably tell him sooner rather than later though!

 

[ClairAye]

I agree with Mana about telling your ex sooner rather than later, but it's great you have supportive grandparents!

Welcome and congratulations too! I'm Clair, 19, I have an 18 month old little boy called Jason and I am 39 weeks pregnant with our second baby

 

[MiSS.M0MMY2BE]

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I'm Erin, 19, and my little girl kaleigh is four months old.

 

[JessicaaJadex]

Congratulations and welcome! I'm Jess, 18 and 36+3 with a little boy

I agree with the other girls, you should tell your ex-boyfriend sooner rather than later

 

[Summermama201]

I told him.... and he said he doesn't know if he wants to be part of the baby's life because we aren't together anymore. It hurts that he said that. Not because I care about him or us, but because I care about the baby. And he shouldn't take his anger out on the baby when it's me he's mad at.

 

[MummyMana]

I'm sorry he's being like that he sounds pretty self centred tbh, your relationship with him has nothing to do with his relationship with his child! saying that he may be shocked, finding out your an expectant parent is big news for anyone, especially when a relationship has just broken down, he may just need time to clear his head and let it sink in

 

[ShakeItBaby1]

I told him.... and he said he doesn't know if he wants to be part of the baby's life because we aren't together anymore. It hurts that he said that. Not because I care about him or us, but because I care about the baby. And he shouldn't take his anger out on the baby when it's me he's mad at.

I'm sorry he's being like this first and foremost. That's pretty immature and horrible of him if he's serious, and doesn't come around. From the posts I've read, it seems as if you're excited though - and you'll get a LOT of support from BnB!

First - I'm Kendra :wave: I'm 22 & 38 weeks with my first little girl! I'm not a "teen," but as I still have a few things to accomplish before I consider myself a "grown up," I consider myself a young mom. When I got my BFP, OH & I had a MAJOR fight the night before finding out - and had almost called it quits. There were so many things running through my head that it made me crazy!

The other thing I was going to ask, are you in the US? I'm in the states, and I know that for lower income people - there's a lot of state assistance. When I told my dad I was pregnant, I was sure he was going to cut my insurance off so I went down to my local human service office and applied for the medical card. I don't know if there's anything like that in your area?

 

[Summermama201]

For the baby's sake, I hope he'll come around, but if not, I still have a good support system. My grandparents are supporting my every decision and my best friend has offered to be replacement daddy (mainly because he's afraid of how his mom would react if he had a child of his own). And, I hope to make friends on here who understand what it's like to be a young mom. And, to answer you question Kendra, I live in Ohio, and have been working on getting medicaid.

 

[Summermama201]

And this may sound stupid, but what do BFP & OH mean?

 

[MummyMana]

BFP is big fat positive (pregnancy test) OH is,other half
if you need any help or advice on your pregnancy or baby once the time comes don't hesitate to ask any of us on here

 

[Summermama201]

Thank you all very much.

 

[x__amour]

Hi sweetie, welcome to BnB and congratulations on your pregnancy!
I'm Shannon, 22, I have a 3 year old named Victoria "Tori" & am 20 weeks with #2.

I'm so sorry to hear your FOB (father-of-baby) is being less than supportive. I'm happy that your family is standing by you. As for insurance and such, do your parents have insurance? With the new health care laws, you are able to be under your parents' health insurance until the age of 26. If not, you should look into Medicaid which as you know is free or low cost health insurance. You should also look into WIC. It will feed you through pregnancy and then your baby once he/she is born.

I hope you have a very happy and healthy pregnancy and I'm always around if you need a chat or maybe just a virtual hug. Best of luck and see you around!

 

[Summermama201]

My mom had full custody of me when I was growing up, so while my dad lives in the same state as me, I can't get on his insurance. And as for my mom, she lives in CA, and in order to be on her insurance, I have to live there. Which, with me expecting, she won't allow me to move back home. And, I am planning on going to WIC the next day that my grandma has off.

 

[skyesmom]

good that you told him but honestly, i wouldn't draw any conclusions on how involved he'll be in the end, from his first shock reaction.

you know how shocked and surprised you were when you tested positive and you had a bit of time to breathe in, let it sink in and then tell your grandparents.

i don't say his reaction is appropriate at all, but it might as well be that he's just plain shocked by the news... and people blurt out any sort of crap like that.
it's likely he'll come around, once it sinks in and he realizes it ain't about you and him but about the baby and him, and it takes a while for this to happen.

and regarding you best friend offering to be a replacement dad, i don't think that's fair to the FOB, you or the baby, and honestly, being a father is such a HUGE responsibility that your friend's offer, albeit cute, sounds really really immature (with this meaning to say that it's amazing that you have awesome friends like that next to you, but he has no clue what he's talking about!)

that said, congrats on your pregnancy!!!

 

[mybabygirlxx]

I wasnt sure about telling my boyfriend i was first pregnant incase he never believed me because his ex told him she was pregnant and he found out she was lying. But when i told him he seemed abit shocked but i proved it by showing my pregnancy test to him. Now he seems very excited but it hasn't sunk in to him yet and he is trying but he couldnt be happier that he is having a little girl.
i am 17 years old, 18 in January& i am 23+5days if you need to chat to anyone im always up for a good natter xxxx

 

[ShakeItBaby1]

For the baby's sake, I hope he'll come around, but if not, I still have a good support system. My grandparents are supporting my every decision and my best friend has offered to be replacement daddy (mainly because he's afraid of how his mom would react if he had a child of his own). And, I hope to make friends on here who understand what it's like to be a young mom. And, to answer you question Kendra, I live in Ohio, and have been working on getting medicaid.

With you being pregnant, they'll approve you. I know that they cover 100% of prenatal care, and I'm pretty sure 100% of the delivery. Medicaid is my secondary insurance, but they're working with my primary to cover everything. I know you'll probably have to get conformation of pregnancy, and if you're working bring in check stubs and proof of address. But usually they're pretty good about getting you in and back tracking - so say you had any costs from a dr's appointment yesterday, they'd cover that as well as its in your pregnancy.

 

[Summermama201]

I have confirmation of pregnancy from Planned Parenthood and soon will have proof of residency. I finished the online application last night. And hopefully it will cover 100% of prenatal care and delivery because my grandparents don't make much money and have a hard enough time with me living with them. And as for my ex, he had his father message me on FB to tell me that he doesn't want to talk to me and for me to tell him what I need to tell his son. That has got to be the most immature thing. We're not in 3rd grade.