Baby fever!

[Kimiw]

So, have any of you ladies been experiencing an almost uncontrollable desire for a baby? Yes, I know that you have or else you would not be in this forum. But I'm not just talking about the usual feeling jealous of pregnant women or heart sinking feeling when you see a mother with her new born. I'm talking about this constant day dreaming of holding your new born. I don't know if it is because this past April 18th marked my would have been due date of the pregnancy I lost in August or what but omg. I saw my friends 2 month old for the first time over the weekend and I held and fed him. Something snapped in me after that. My desire for a child has now increased dramatically to the point I can't think or focus on anything else. It's starting to worry me because I can't even focus at work and I'm starting to make mistakes.

 

[Chcltbnny]

Yea - I totally understand how you feel. I am that crazy starer when there is a baby or toddler within a few feet of me. I smile and watch them and get all wistful.

I wish that I can tell you that it lessens but it does not. I pray that you get a little one to hold in your arms soon.

C

 

[Molae06]

Me times 100!!! If anyone tells you it gets better with time, that person is a big fat liar as far as I'm concerned. It gets worse for me everyday. I can hardly go to a store without walking through the baby section, almost bursting into tears then and there and having to leave. This constant want and need for a baby is driving me insane. I wish I could turn it off sometimes. I am so tired of faking happiness and joy for OTHER people, where is MY joy, where is MY happiness. It is really terrible, but I even get jealous of ladies on here. Which is so bad, everyone on here is going through the same thing and looking for support, but my joy for them is now fake too. Going on 7 years ttc, and I am starting if not already do, hate my life.

 

[Lemonade]

Definitely! My baby fever it terrible, it's all I think about.

I've been trying to keep busy so that I am forced to think about other things

 

[ChartsNHearts]

I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling like this & I'm sorry for your loss. Are you seeing anyone for fertility treatment? If you are finding that it's affecting your work, it might be a good idea to ask about counselling? I know that the fertility clinic we're starting at this month offers counselling to people using their services, so maybe there's someone you could see if you feel it would help?

I have mixed feelings & I'm very 'up & down' to be honest - it probably depends on my hormones & where I am in my cycle!

My baby fever was getting worse & worse during the first year of TTC, but since then I don't have it as bad. (For me at least, it's got better with time - for now at any rate!) I think that the longer it's gone on, the more I've given up hope of us ever conceiving, so almost as a way of protecting myself I've managed to convince myself that it's no big deal if we don't get to have children, that they're hard work, and that we have a nice life already.

In my heart I don't believe it mind you. The worst part for me is the dreams I have. I am always dreaming about holding our babies, cuddling them, kissing them etc. So, although it seems like I have managed to supress the baby fever in my day-to-day life, it's still there lurking at night!