Baby Kirkham 02/08/08

[SJK]

Our little angel fell asleep last saturday at 8 +2, I have cried a million tears for him and the only thing I want to know is why, but no-one can tell me . I had my d+c on tues and I wouldnt have got through the last week without my husband, who has been amazing. Does anyone know when it starts to get any better xx

 

[FJL]

I'm so sorry for your loss

 

[Vickie]

So sorry for your loss

 

[Mervs Mum]

 

[todteach]

I'm so sorry hun.

It will get brighter, I promise. I had a miscarriage at three months in May. I'm able to smile and laugh now. It will take a while, but you're allowed to be upset. I know the pain, and I'm sorry that you are going through this. Life just isn't fair, is it? Right now your feeling really empty, you're suppose to be pregnant, not grieving a loss. You poor thing. If I could jump through this computer and give you a big hug I would.

I know what you're saying by "I want to know why". I kept asking everyone the same thing. Unfortunately no one was able to give me an answer. You haven't done anything wrong. I had even stopped drinking coffee before we conceived, for crying out loud. I had been taking folic acid for months before we started trying. It is just plain old sh*tty, and I'm sorry that you've been through this. Feel free to pm me, if you want to talk, yell, cry, or scream. Sending you all my love.

 

[polo_princess]

 

[Barneyboo]

So sorry for you loss x x x

 

[Chris77]

I am so very sorry for your loss.

 

[NeyNey]

Honey I'm so sorry

 

[Baby-Love]

Sorry to hear of your loss, sweetie.

 

[porkpie1981]

I know now you think it wont get better but it will. Tbh i only felt better when i was ttc, as i felt that i was on my way to another . I know you mite have to wait a or what ever you ave been told but after that i felt better. The thing that was bad for me was my oh wanted to wait 2 yrs to ttc then i got him to agree to septmeber. I only actually felt happy when we started without protection.

I think ever1 has different ways of coping, but that was mine

Try and take time to relax and probably a good time to try and keep urself occupied for the 1st while

 

[biteable]

Im so sorry hun xx

 

[Lazy Leo]

Oh darling, I am so so sorry. I have just gone through mine, I'm in the middle of my first cycle and for me I felt it didn't start to get better until I was able to POAS and get a BFN. (It took five weeks for the hcg to drop out of my system)

I had a wobble last week when it should have been my 12 weeks and my first scan so it's not just that one day it gets better. I posted that question to, when do you start to feel normal again? I didn't think I'd ever feel normal again tbh. But once AF arrived I went back to temping in order to feel that I was doing something positive - I want to know what effect it's had on my cycle.

And if I'm really honest, although it's hard to admit, we've not been ttc since 1st June when I got my BFP and I think it's been good for me. I'm much less stressed, I know we can make a baby and I know we;ll make a brother or sister for our angel.

You will come through this darling, you will I promise. I just can't tell you when. Cry as many tears as you have, shout, scream, smash plates or just stare into space. Do what you need to to get through this and remember we are here for you. PM me anytime xxxx

 

[passengerrach]

im so sorry hun i does get easier with time but it could take u a long time never feel that u should be 'over' it

 

[emma_27]

Im sorry for you loss

 

[Logiebear]

So sorry for you rloss hun. I know how you feel. We lost our first baby in Jan and the second in May and each time it took a piece of my heart that will never be there again! I felt sick to my stomach and couldn't eat either. It is a truely awful feeling but like some others have said I felt better when I started ttc again as I felt like I had been robbed of my baby and feeling it grow inside me. So the idea having that back made me feel better. There isn't a day goes by when I don't think of them but it gets a little easier. I don't think I will ever "get over it" or "move on" but learn to live with the loss in your own way

 

[buffycat]

i am so sorry for your loss........wish i could take away all of this pain from you too.....

time will give you the chance to accept it all.....everyone is different though.....i still have the occasional teary moment and my mc was at the end of march. The people on bnb who have been through this have been great too.......invariably though, unless people have been through this first hand, then they don't always understand the pain...

take care.....luv & hugs

 

[Holly21]

 

[wishing4ababy]

I'm so sorry hun.

 

[princess_bump]