ser523
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Hey ladies! When is everyone planning on having their showers?
For reference, I'm due sometime in late November. (I keep being told different due dates *lol* First it was 11/24, then they said 11/20 according to my LMP and then at my last u/s, she said baby girl is measuring for 11/17)
I'm starting to think about shower planning. My closest friends and my sister are all 4 hours away in NJ (I'm up in MA), so it's not really practical for any of them to plan my baby shower like they did my bridal shower. And the very few friends I have up here are no help. So I figured I'd plan the logistics of things and my friends could do the things like invitations and activities and things. I had been thinking of doing it in August, because I have a number of people who are teachers and I thought it would be easier for them in the summer, especially since I'm so far. I know it's earlier than most would do, but I thought it made sense. I also thought it would be easiest to have the party at our apartment, since it's pretty big and it would be financially easier.
But today, my mother-in-law asked me about my plans for the shower. She made a face at August, saying how it was much too early and that I shouldn't do it at our apartment. I guess her and my sister-in-law have been talking about shower things, which is very sweet of them and I very much appreciate it. But, they want to do it at a place and have it catered. Which I don't necessarily mind, but I don't have that many friends/family. And she mentioned Columbus Day weekend in October, since it's three day weekend for my traveling people.
Now I think it is so nice of my mother and sister-in-law to want to plan everything. And I do understand that it would be a bit on the unusual side to have a shower at around 28 weeks. But, a few points on my proposed earlier date.
So since no one seems to want to help me with their opinion, I'm turning to you ladies for your opinions. Should I stick to my guns and insist for August even though no one is helping? Or are my reasons silly and it's too early and I should let MIL and SIL plan everything in October?
I'm honestly so stressed about the whole thing. If it was just this, it might not be as bad, but there are other things going on as well. So between everything and my hormones, I'm a stressed mama. :/
For reference, I'm due sometime in late November. (I keep being told different due dates *lol* First it was 11/24, then they said 11/20 according to my LMP and then at my last u/s, she said baby girl is measuring for 11/17)
I'm starting to think about shower planning. My closest friends and my sister are all 4 hours away in NJ (I'm up in MA), so it's not really practical for any of them to plan my baby shower like they did my bridal shower. And the very few friends I have up here are no help. So I figured I'd plan the logistics of things and my friends could do the things like invitations and activities and things. I had been thinking of doing it in August, because I have a number of people who are teachers and I thought it would be easier for them in the summer, especially since I'm so far. I know it's earlier than most would do, but I thought it made sense. I also thought it would be easiest to have the party at our apartment, since it's pretty big and it would be financially easier.
But today, my mother-in-law asked me about my plans for the shower. She made a face at August, saying how it was much too early and that I shouldn't do it at our apartment. I guess her and my sister-in-law have been talking about shower things, which is very sweet of them and I very much appreciate it. But, they want to do it at a place and have it catered. Which I don't necessarily mind, but I don't have that many friends/family. And she mentioned Columbus Day weekend in October, since it's three day weekend for my traveling people.
Now I think it is so nice of my mother and sister-in-law to want to plan everything. And I do understand that it would be a bit on the unusual side to have a shower at around 28 weeks. But, a few points on my proposed earlier date.
- Like I mentioned, my teacher friends won't have to worry about work and things in August like they would in October, despite the three day weekend.
- There is a strong possibility I will be teaching for the beginning of the school year, the first 6 weeks, which would go through to Columbus day. My teaching brings up two points. One, that I will probably want to start nesting and doing nursery things in August before work, which I would need my crib and glider for (which are on my registry). And two, I'm not sure that I'm going to want to party Columbus Day weekend if that will be my first weekend free after finishing working and being relatively big at that point.
- I do like the idea of having that extra time to take in what we get as gifts, return duplicates, and budget out our purchases of items we still need.
- And a very minor point, but my mother is also far away in NJ and never ceases to mention that she's so far away and that DH's family is so close. Many comments like "your new family" etc etc. Ultimately, it shouldn't matter but it will make the day more difficult for me in regards to my mom if MIL and SIL plan the party. Minor point, like I said, but something lurking in the back of my mind.
So since no one seems to want to help me with their opinion, I'm turning to you ladies for your opinions. Should I stick to my guns and insist for August even though no one is helping? Or are my reasons silly and it's too early and I should let MIL and SIL plan everything in October?
I'm honestly so stressed about the whole thing. If it was just this, it might not be as bad, but there are other things going on as well. So between everything and my hormones, I'm a stressed mama. :/