Back here for a short whilr, recovering from eptopic

[Vicki_Cream]

I had an emergency op on Monday as it was discovered my pregnancy was ectopic. They thankfully didn't have to remove my tube as the baby was at the opening of my tube to my uterus. My bean measured bang on 7 weeks like it should have done, it was just in the wrong place

Doctor said I only have to wait one cycle before we can try agaib, and I will be having early scans etc next time too.

Still incredibly sore and bruised but am slowly getting better.

Anyone else looking to try again soon after a loss? Xx

P.s. Please excuse my spelling, my poxy phone keeps changing it even if I correct it!!

 

[madseasons]

I truly don't know want to say because I have never had this happen to me, but I didn't want to read and run.

Sorry to hear that you have to be back here because of that sad situation, but praying for a quick and speeding recovery!

Dee

 

[bump.on.brain]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss

Wishing you all the best for a quick and easy recovery, and lots of luck and baby dust for TTC

 

[carebear1981]

Hi, I had an ectopic as well but mine was in January. I've had another loss since but we aren't trying. OH is afraid to see me go thru that again.
Hope you have a speedy recovery and so sorry for ur loss. I know its devastating. My ectopic resolved itself.

FX!

 

[Vicki_Cream]

Thank you for the kind words ladies

So sorry for your losses Carebear, it's heart breaking isn't it. I feel so emotional today, as well as constant pain from the op and severe cramps.

My OH is scared that it will happen again, and he keeps asking me if I definitely want to try again. I do, I really really do, but the thought really terrifies me at the same time. So many things running through my head, and I can't seem to put them into a sentence, I just sit there sobbing.

I'm so lucky that I have such an amazingly supportive OH, as well as my family and friends.

It's also so nice to come on here and talk to other ladies who have gone through similar experiences too.

 

[carebear1981]

Definitely agree with you. I had amazing support surrounding me and the ladies on here are awesome. The emotional pain lasted for months. Physically, I have ovulation pain now when I o on my right side.
I am afraid too but honestly, I told my OH that I would go through a thousand mc's just to hold my baby someday I'm so determined!

 

[sausages]

Hi hun. I am sorry to hear of your loss. It's an awful thing to have to go through. x

As for being scared of it happening again - well, it might do! I wouldn't insult you by telling you that everything will be okay, because we had people do that to us and when we lost our second baby part of me was like, "you promised!!" Just try to focus on the statistics. Cold, hard fact. That's what reassured me. Knowing that statistically i was more likely to bring home a healthy baby than not, so it was worth the gamble.

We lost our first baby full term (he lived for 36 hours) and our second baby was stillborn at 25 weeks. It was the darkest, most awful time of my life, but when i look at the two children i have now i know that i would go through it all a thousand times again if it means i get to be with them. Now it feels like i'm remembering my losses through a haze, like i didn't quite happen. It will be the same for you if you just persevere.

Sometimes you just have to screw your eyes closed and run at something, hoping for the best!

 

[Vicki_Cream]

I am so sorry for your losses

You are right about focusing on the statistics, and we have already agreed to do that. I would go through it all again if it means we one day get our rainbow baby, and because they didn't remove my tube as they said it looked healthy, it has doubled my chance of having another ectopic.

The thought of trying again petrifies me, but then I'm only 8 days post op so it's bound to. I think I might want to wait until around March to try again, my OH said that we can wait as long as it takes for me to feel ready bless him

I'm still having the odd sad moments, which is to be expected. But overall I am thankful that they found it in time before I ended up with a ruptured tube! As much as we wanted this baby, there really was no other alternative and it's just ones of those crappy facts of life.

I am toying with the idea of lighting a candle on the babies due date, but I haven't decided yet.

 

[sausages]

I think lighting a candle sounds like a lovely idea! Do you have many things from your pregnancy that you can put away? I know you probably only knew about it for 2 or 3 weeks, but perhaps you could collect together things like your positive HPT's, photos and even print off forum posts you made? Then you will have a special memory box for your baby.

It sounds like your OH is being wonderfully supportive. I am sure you will have many more sad days, but keep sharing with him. I still sometimes need to speak to DH about my feelings. It helps. x