Back to work - not going well

[Cattia]

I've been back to work for three days now and it already feels like THREE MILLION YEARS. My daughter is 7 months, point blank refuses a bottle. She is eating solids and drinking water from a cup (totally won't touch milk from a cup though). She is OK until early afternoon but then starts to get fussy and works herself up until by the time I get to her at 5.30 she is hysterical. She has never ever in her entire life had a screaming fit until this week. She's been the most laid back and happy baby ever. I just can't handle it.

Not only that, life was hectic enough when I was working before with two children, now with three it's ridiculous. Mornings are like a marathon and I'm exhausted before I even get to work. I hate not seeing my older kids all day long and am missing seeing them on the school run so much. My husband wants to give up work to stay home with them. It will help logistically as at the moment I have to drop off at the childminder as 7.30 every day and I' always running late, but it won't help me to feel better about my own situation and will also make it harder for me to eventually cut down my hours.

I've taken a promotion at work (which was probably stupid) so my job is really stressful. I could deal with the stress at work if that was all there was to deal with but combine that with the crazy lack of time (I'm on here now when I still have a report to write this evening) and missing the kids. It just isn't good. It has to get easier right? If it wasn't for the fact that I'm the main earner, I would walk.

 

[lau86]

i hope it gets easier for you as you settle into a routine

 

[Cattia]

Week 2 and still hating it. Would do anytime not to be here. Didn't feel like this after the other two.

 

[sweetcheeks78]

I'm sure you've thought of this, but I felt like you did when I went back to work after DS1. My hubby is RAF and he was posted away from home at the time so I was working full time and basically a single-parent all week. It was so hard, I felt I was being a rubbish mum and wife and also I wasn't doing my job well as I couldn't concentrate. I managed to find another job that was just 3 days a week, but when I tried to leave my boss said she would allow me to reduce my hours to let me stay as she didn't want to lose me. It is worth asking the question, and although you'll lose money you also pay less childcare so the impact is sometimes not as much as you think financially. Good luck hon, I've been there and it is so hard xxx