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[lemsz]

I am really finding it hard to cope and relax, I am pregnant with low hcg, but my numbers doubled , which means nothing to me as with my miscarriage 4 years ago it doubled just fine , but I had cramping and a loss at 7 weeks, yolk sac , fetal pole no heartbeat.. , I went on to have a rainbow after a very long 1yr and 2 months of trying and 7 failed iuis.
I am beyond scared this time, I keep having pulling feelings and acheyness in the lower back, its not period type cramps just acheyness like muscle tension . I just keep waiting for it all to end..

My doctor said the hcg is fine ( thats what they said when I miscarried) ...
he doesnt want me to repeat , just to wait for an early scan to check for heartbeat.

what do u do to relax? I tried very hard today, but i still had this terrible bout of back and hip tension..

 

[lemsz]

guess ill try bump this..

 

[BunnyN]

Sorry you having a hard time. Hopefully your levels are just low because you are still early. Waiting to know is always horrid. I think all kinds of aches and pains are common early pregnancy symptoms so the pains in your back could be normal. I hope things turn out okay. When 8s your scan?

 

[Lucasmum]

Its such a worrisome time I hope you get the scan soon, my doctor wasnt bothered by previous losses and had to beg her for an early scan, numbers dont mean a huge amount to me, no one ever told me what my betas were and even if they had I wouldnt have had a clue

 

[lemsz]

so where I live its standard to do Betas to confirm pregnancy and to make sure they double. We also get an early scan. So I dont have to beg for anything , just have to make it to that scan....

 

[maryanne1987]

I think lucusmum was just trying to reassure you. I think the point she's making is sometimes early betas and scans can stress you out more rather than provide resassurence. Low hcg is no reason by itself to worry. I'm sure if your doctor felt it was something to be concerned about they would have had bloods repeated. If you read through first tri posts there's so many ladies who's levels start out very low and go on to have normal pregnancies. I'm one of them!

 

[lemsz]

I did do the doubling bloods, I know sure we trying to reassure me I was saying that as in I am lucky I don't have to beg and its standard here

 

[LDC]

I try cooking and baking to relax and also try going for a walk. When you've had a loss there is always constant worry and we always look into things a lot more than if we'd had straight forward pregnancies. When I was pregnant with dd she was my first and I didn't think about anything, although now I'm carrying rainbow baby, I look into every little thing (I also had a big bleed around 14 weeks).

Mindfulness and meditation is really good to try and focus your mind on something else for a while and I definitely recommend it - you can go to classes or there are things online that you can download. This was recommended to me due to severe anxiety during this pregnancy (I also hate to add when you're over your last "danger zone", as I like to call it, you still worry about everything) and it really helped. Totally focusses your mind on something else for a set period of time, which really helped to relax me and show me how bad my anxiety had gotten/how much energy I was spending worrying.

It's such as hard time, but try not to panic. I tell myself "at this exact moment in time, I have nothing to cause me worry" and that also really helped, along with taking it one day at a time.

Good luck! X

 

[lemsz]

thanks hunny for the advice, I am really trying, and I have even had a success after my mc , but low betas freak me out, and no nausea freaks me out.. I am trying hard to focus on other things..

 

[LDC]

thanks hunny for the advice, I am really trying, and I have even had a success after my mc , but low betas freak me out, and no nausea freaks me out.. I am trying hard to focus on other things..

Don't worry about the no nausea - I had none with either of my three pregnancies; no symptoms what so ever. You may be getting an easier ride this time

X

 

[lemsz]

so the nausea started a bit, but its nothing like my previous ones, I am trying to focus on how wonderful that is but obviously its still scary, trying to plod along , one day at a time.