I was diagnosed with a pretty serious case of incompetent cervix at 19 weeks and have been on strict bed rest ever since. The first 4 weeks I was at home, and MIL was trying to be helpful, she lives in the same town etc so she was over a lot. Sometimes she would just walk in the house completely unannounced and another time I had to get up and unlock the front door because she never said she was coming over. We don't have a good relationship because she has been rude to me and is extremely awkward with me (ie, she does not say anything to me whenever I see her like hello, then has the balls to complain that I don't talk to her much since being on bed rest). I find her invasive and she does not know boundaries.
I was admitted into the hospital 1 week ago. Nothing really changed, they just wanted me here at viability if something happened. We weren't huge on telling MIL right away because she is annoying about stuff like this and freaks out. She kept calling and texting my DH all day, which she does everyday and he texted her that he would call her in a bit, but didn't tell her we were in the hospital.
Apparently what happens after that is she goes to our house unannounced to check in. We weren't home so she, of course, calls the hospital and finds that I'm here. So without talking to anybody, she comes over about an hour after I'm admitted. DH had to go home to grab things so he wasn't here. And she just walks into my room and doesn't knock or say anything. I am fuming. She insensitively asks if I lost the baby and asks invasive questions. I tell her she should not have come without talking to one of us first. I tell her we would have called if it was important and I then went anonymous at the hospital so no one could get in without a code.
Then today when DH was taking a break at home, she waltzes into our back door (front was locked) and doesn't even announce herself and walks in on my husband in his boxers. Herr excuse was "I thought you might be sleeping!" Like that makes it better. DH kicked her out.
She really wants to see me tomorrow but I don't want her to. DH thinks I should. Tips or advice?
I was admitted into the hospital 1 week ago. Nothing really changed, they just wanted me here at viability if something happened. We weren't huge on telling MIL right away because she is annoying about stuff like this and freaks out. She kept calling and texting my DH all day, which she does everyday and he texted her that he would call her in a bit, but didn't tell her we were in the hospital.
Apparently what happens after that is she goes to our house unannounced to check in. We weren't home so she, of course, calls the hospital and finds that I'm here. So without talking to anybody, she comes over about an hour after I'm admitted. DH had to go home to grab things so he wasn't here. And she just walks into my room and doesn't knock or say anything. I am fuming. She insensitively asks if I lost the baby and asks invasive questions. I tell her she should not have come without talking to one of us first. I tell her we would have called if it was important and I then went anonymous at the hospital so no one could get in without a code.
Then today when DH was taking a break at home, she waltzes into our back door (front was locked) and doesn't even announce herself and walks in on my husband in his boxers. Herr excuse was "I thought you might be sleeping!" Like that makes it better. DH kicked her out.
She really wants to see me tomorrow but I don't want her to. DH thinks I should. Tips or advice?