Welshcob
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Hi girls who remember me. I am back for the first time since having my baby girl in December. Had the most awful first few months with horrendous colic, and I had no clue for some time what was wrong with my little one! She was born on the 18th December by C Section. Maja Ingrid ( Francesca - after her dad).
Needless to say he wasn't there at the birth and I moved in order to be safe from him as I felt afraid of what things he may do to me. However money has run short and so I have found myself back at my old "own home" rather than renting as I was for six months. I thought it may be safe to return as hes not made any form of contact to me and clearly feels he did all he could to terrify me to staying as far away as possible. (It worked!!!) I thought that if he did show up here, then I could move if I had to, its just that I am not sure I could afford to move and anyway, hes not paying a penny of maintenance and I would think ( as hes a tight sun of a gun - even though hes loaded) that this is great incentive to keep him away.
But it makes me sick that hes on Ebay buying 20 p pieces that have no dates on them for £60 a pop and yet hes neglected his duties to his baby! He doesn't even know what she is.
I am managing really well and I know in my heart of hearts he would have walked a long time ago even if he had stayed till Maja was born, because he would never have been able to take second place to her or cope with the crying. Still I find myself thinking of the A hole every day!!! and it drives me nuts!!! I fantasise about this "normal" man ( who never existed by the way) and I feel sorry for Maja for not having a "normal" dad.
He could be really lovely - a real jekyll and Hyde! When he wanted to be nice, he could be really romantic and wonderful, but the second things did not go his way, he would be really nasty and abusive, treating me in a way that was disgusting...walking through doors and letting them slam in my face, walking away when I was talking to him, ignoring me. Flirting with girls infront of me and then telling me how I was not as good as them. Accusing me of all sorts. Oh the list goes on. Lastly he accused me of being abusive to him and took me to court not to contact him and thats why I haven't contacted him about the baby as far to afraid of how it would appear and how he could use that against me. I was not abusive towards him. Infact he was on an abuser program for a year and all that happened was that he used what he learned to take me to court telling me not to contact him. The only contact I ever made was to try and find out what he wanted with our baby that he had planned for with me. What an evil and sick man he is...be aware that he is roaming around milton keynes and boy you can be sure hes not told anyone about his baby and probably makes me out to be this
terrible ex ( which he told me about his last GF).
Oh i needed to get that off my chest.
Needless to say he wasn't there at the birth and I moved in order to be safe from him as I felt afraid of what things he may do to me. However money has run short and so I have found myself back at my old "own home" rather than renting as I was for six months. I thought it may be safe to return as hes not made any form of contact to me and clearly feels he did all he could to terrify me to staying as far away as possible. (It worked!!!) I thought that if he did show up here, then I could move if I had to, its just that I am not sure I could afford to move and anyway, hes not paying a penny of maintenance and I would think ( as hes a tight sun of a gun - even though hes loaded) that this is great incentive to keep him away.
But it makes me sick that hes on Ebay buying 20 p pieces that have no dates on them for £60 a pop and yet hes neglected his duties to his baby! He doesn't even know what she is.
I am managing really well and I know in my heart of hearts he would have walked a long time ago even if he had stayed till Maja was born, because he would never have been able to take second place to her or cope with the crying. Still I find myself thinking of the A hole every day!!! and it drives me nuts!!! I fantasise about this "normal" man ( who never existed by the way) and I feel sorry for Maja for not having a "normal" dad.
He could be really lovely - a real jekyll and Hyde! When he wanted to be nice, he could be really romantic and wonderful, but the second things did not go his way, he would be really nasty and abusive, treating me in a way that was disgusting...walking through doors and letting them slam in my face, walking away when I was talking to him, ignoring me. Flirting with girls infront of me and then telling me how I was not as good as them. Accusing me of all sorts. Oh the list goes on. Lastly he accused me of being abusive to him and took me to court not to contact him and thats why I haven't contacted him about the baby as far to afraid of how it would appear and how he could use that against me. I was not abusive towards him. Infact he was on an abuser program for a year and all that happened was that he used what he learned to take me to court telling me not to contact him. The only contact I ever made was to try and find out what he wanted with our baby that he had planned for with me. What an evil and sick man he is...be aware that he is roaming around milton keynes and boy you can be sure hes not told anyone about his baby and probably makes me out to be this
terrible ex ( which he told me about his last GF).
Oh i needed to get that off my chest.
welcome back!
xx
I'm ok. Had my little baby girl. Fob doesn't want anything to do with her and neither do his parents, so just going through the CSA just now. If you read my other threads you'll understand situation more. But basically he just wants to cut us both off. It still makes me so angry but I am very glad the CSA will be able to make him take at least the financial responsibility. That brings me some satisfaction! So going to start my life afresh. I''m living with my sister still and I am working towards being able to move out, going through belongings to declutter and I suppose preparing myself for when I move into my own place. But things are looking good. I've got all rights for Charlotte plus I'll get 15% of a lawyer's (her dad is studying to be a lawyer) salary starting when he graduates. I have finally (i think!!) come to a place where I don't feel the need to conatct him (for just now anyway!) - I'll let the Csa just contact him now 
