Behavior in 6-7 yrs old

[OmarsMum]

DS is a good boy in general, but he does not say yes to anything, I don't know how to deal with it anymore. Yesterday we were planning to go to my aunt's place (edit: he asked to go there) , he loves to go there to play with her children, when I asked him to go & get dressed he said I don't want to go, it is not the 1st time, he just say this to make me angry, I told him ok fine we're not going. Last night I asked him to go & brush his teeth before bedtime, again he started to argue saying that he only ate a sandwich but when he saw me getting angry he ran to brush his teeth.

Today we asked him if he wants to go to the beach, he was so excited. After 30 mins he wanted to change & wear sports cloth, I'm tired from all the laundry so I told him why not stay in you pj as we're leaving after few hours, he said I don't want to go to the beach I want to wear sports cloth & exercise at home!

When I ask him if he wants to eat he says no, then after few mins he asks for food when I get occupied with something, if I ask him to read a story in Arabic he says no I want to read an English story, it goes on with everything I ask him to do, even if I give him 2 choices he finds a 3rd.

When I get angry he asks me to cool down & forget about it & he gives me a kiss.

If I wear makeup he tells me that it doesn't suit me, if I'm occupied with something & he asks for something, when I ask him to wait he says things like you're the worst parent ever, or what you're doing can't be more important that your son!

He even told me that God doesn't love me as he sent me one child only but he sent 5 to my aunt!

He doesn't argue when I ask him to do some studying like solving some math problems or writing, or when I ask him to clean up or help around the house. He doesn't whine and he's well behaved in general but those incidences drive me insane.

 

[LoraLoo]

It sounds like you're giving in to him- he said he doesn't want to go to his Aunties and you said ok? That wouldn't happen in my house, I don't ask my children if they want to go somewhere if ive made plans- they're TOLD what we are doing and that's that. Im the adult here, not them.

 

[OmarsMum]

It sounds like you're giving in to him- he said he doesn't want to go to his Aunties and you said ok? That wouldn't happen in my house, I don't ask my children if they want to go somewhere if ive made plans- they're TOLD what we are doing and that's that. Im the adult here, not them.

He wanted to go, I didn't take him for saying I don't want to go, as he always say the same & when I agree with him he changes him mind again. He usually ends up screaming for not going and I stick to not taking him but yesterday he acted as if he wasn't bothered. I'm not fussed about going there, I only go for the kids to play together. If I want to go to a place & he says he doesn't want to go, I ignore him. But he's the one who asked to go to his aunt's place.

 

[alibaba24]

My 6 year old is exactly the same

 

[Elli21]

I would sit him down and say simply, "Im the adult, your the chil and you will do as your told." When he kicks off about changing clothes, brushing his teeth and njot wanting to go somewhere.

With the God doesn't love you and your a bad parent? If any of my children said anything remotely like that I would send them to their bedroom, and they would be in so much trouble. I would in no way tolerate that!! What a nasty thing to say.

Where meals are concerned could this be an option? - At breakfast and lunch times (during the school holidays) I wait until the sprogs ask me for something. Which in fairness is never long.
But dinner time is dinner time and they all know I cook for between 5-6.

Im sorry your finding it hard at the moment, summer holidays are testing for us all at one time or another xx

 

[lau86]

My son is younger but he's like this too. Nothing ever seems to be right/Good/ quick enough. I try to let it go as growing up my brothers were similar and my mum was constantly arguing with them about silly things and how ungrateful they were.
Saying nasty things, I wouldn't stand for that and i would talk to him about how hurtful that is and want an apology
Sorry to say, but it sounds like he is a bit spoilt? Which mine are too I think, so I don't want to criticise. I often think my kids could do with a harsh dose of the reality of how some children live, but Obviously teaching them that lesson is not really appropriate!

 

[Septie]

Hi Omar's mom! We are having major issues with our 6, almost 7, year old as well at the moment...he has an anger problem, including screaming when things don't go his way (??? really, at almost 7??? Does Omar do that too?), and, like Omar, saying things just to make us angry. It is soooo exhausting sometimes.

 

[OmarsMum]

Hi Omar's mom! We are having major issues with our 6, almost 7, year old as well at the moment...he has an anger problem, including screaming when things don't go his way (??? really, at almost 7??? Does Omar do that too?), and, like Omar, saying things just to make us angry. It is soooo exhausting sometimes.

Hi Septie, yes we have anger issues when things don't go his way, his mood swings, he goes from happy to feeling miserable in seconds, we also have control issues, he's very bossy but not with me, there are many other issues, it seems that his brain doesn't shut down & he thinks of issues like university fund, making a business, saving money & so on, he even have a plan for his future business!

 

[alibaba24]

Omars mum my daughter is a real worrier and sometimes i think her brain is working so hard all the time it leads to frustration and anger. Im not sure how much is typical as her outbursts usually come when shes not getting her own way. Shes become very arguementative and defiant to the exent of walking off on her own . Its tricky because she actually believes she can look after herself 🙄