Being on your own with baby...

[blinkybaby]

Do any of you single mummies ever worry about being on your own in the house with your little one?

I have this very irrational, quite disturbing, fear of fainting or even dropping dead while my son is quite happily playing on his mat or in his bouncy chair and him being all alone until someone gets worried about me and decides to come see if I'm all right! See, awful isn't it!

It wouldn't be long until my MIL or my mum came over or rang me, less than 24 hours I'm betting, but the thought of my little boy crying and crying and me not being there for him just breaks my heart.

What a horrendously morbid thing to worry about! Am I disturbed?

 

[justlove]

lol no unless we both are because I have had similar thoughts when my daughter has been away at her dads and I've been alone with LO. Also when my daughter was a baby I used to worry about what if something happened to me who would look after her who would know how to care for her like i did. I think its just part and parcel of that feeling a overwhelming love for LO that can also sort of make you panic about who could love and care for LO like you do. If that makes any sense? im crap at explaining stuff into words.

 

[moomin_troll]

i actualy suffer from very bad dizzy spells and for along time ive always worried about what if i faint and bang my head and zanes alone. i even felt this way when my oh was here. so ur not alone in feeling worried like this.

but when i do have these spells something comes over me and i instantly do something to make sure im in a safe place so i wont fall n get hurt because i no im with zane.

i always thought i was crazy lol glad im not the only one x

 

[Surreal]

Your not alone, I've thought of it at times, too. I think it's just the realization that we're all they've got -- and we worry about our ability to continue to care for them, if something bad happens. I guess in the long run, it's incentive to take d*mn good care of ourselves?

I have plans on seeing grandchildren, dangit! Even if it is a no grandpa, only a grandma, kinda set-up.

 

[chels24uk]

I used to worry that someone was going to break in and kill me and then what would happen to my son? Or that he would wake up one day with me dead! used to actually make me cry thinking about him finding me there. I used to obsessively makesure every window and door was locked before I went to bed. But I never worried when my (now ex) other half was around?? I dont worry about that now, although thinking about it right now still scares the hell out of me of how would he protect himself if something happened to me?
Ive had to figure out escape routes and how I would save both my children if a fire was to break out in our home. Just silly things.
My main worry now (i moved a couple weeks ago) is that Joshua is going to wake up drowzy for the toilet and fall down the stairs and really hurt himself! (we live in a 3 strorey house and hes on the top floor, the bathroom is in the middle).
I think when your alone with your children who rely on you, you worry about everything!!

 

[bloodbinds]

I actually have the exact same thoughts! They used to be worse when Bella was younger, i used to think about it alot. I slipped in the shower once while Bella was napping but luckily managed to grab onto the side on the bath before i toppled out. But i kept thinking, what if i had knocked my head? Knocked myself out or even died? How long before people realised?

Luckily though i am on facebook a lot and my sisters and my and dad are in contact with me a lot so i'm hoping it wouldn't be too long before my absense was noticed. And Bella goes to nursery every morning so they would know i'm missing from that, and i go to my grans every saturday so again they would tell i was missing. Though sundays i do loads of different things so would be the only day it could be more than 24 hours before someone noticed :-/

It is a fear, and i don't think it's irrational at all. But i don't think there is a lot we can do about it x

 

[sarahxx]

i don't think it's irrational at all, i would be the same! i used to worry when i put the baby to bed that someone would break in and steal her, so i'd go to bed at the same time so i was in the room.. that's kind of irrational ha!

 

[Sophie1205]

I had the exact same thought the other day! And it was the thought of Leo crying and crying..or doing something he shouldnt and hurting himself. Its a scary thought. xxxx

 

[Neferet]

You're definitely not disturbed! I have similar thoughts so I try to spend as much time as possible out of the house!

 

[laurajo24]

Oh god its nice to know i'm not the only one!

I hit my head really badly the other night and thought i'd better tell someone in case anything happened after i'd gone to bed! I asked my mum to call me in the morning to make sure i was ok and if i didn't answer the phone, she had to kick the door in!!!

 

[lal]

I put a wood block in my patio door, even though it locks and has an alarm...and I sleep on the outside of the bed so if someone did break in they'd have to get through me to get to my son...I've thought about getting a gun for protection...I definitely know what you mean, horrid, nonsensical things flash through my mind all of the time!