being pregnant and lazy

[0400772]

Dont mean to sound harsh but reading some comments on here makes me a lil annoyed. Nto trying to say im hard done by but i work 14 hours a day, barely sleep and i do all the cleaning cooking etc in my house as partner hasnt officially moved in yet.

anyway, how many of you know you pregnancy as an excuse to not do anything. a mate of mine is 3 weeks ahead of me (she doesnt know im pg yet) and all she does is whine about being tired, she doesnt work! In fact she does nothing. lol.all day but whinge! ahh

Is this a common thing?

 

[0400772]

ps im not one of these people who like to complain i just generally get on with it but i am pretty much exhausted and i dont complain to my partner to go fetch me a drink knowing i have tewo legs to do it myself.

i would say im independant lol

 

[jeanettekaren]

I'm the same as you. I'm still working full time and will be until the end - I run my own business. my only concession is leaving the house at 8.45am instead of 7am! I am still running my household, doing the shopping etc etc.

My take on it is that I tried for 4 years to get pregnant, I'm certainly not going to moan and take advantage all the way through. Don't get me wrong I'm not sleeping well, and I have a hot water bottle at my desk for my back but I'm not ill, just pregnant!!

 

[0400772]

Thank god someone else feels the same! lol. I just dont like how people use being pregnant. It makes for a bad work environment for the people who do try!

I have never slept good so i suppose im used to the lack of sleep. only thing im nt used to is random pains! lol.

Congrat of you for being so heavily pregnant and still managing to run a business! just goes to show determination goes a long way x

 

[HoolenT]

I am determined that my life isn't going to change completely because of being pregnant. i do 11 hour days mon - fri and teach horse-riding every saturday morning, have just started a degree and start yoga on wed nights. I am tired but think i would be anyway! I will teach until the end of the year but then we are living in a project of a house so i will spend weekends working on the house instead! i just make sure that when i get down time i rest but i don't expect OH to do anything for me except the stuff that i really can't do like really heavy lifting or stretching, besides OH is away so much i have no choice but to be independent and carry on as normal..........

 

[Mummy to be x]

I do everything as i did before pregnancy, I do admit though i can have my lazy day's but don't we all! My OH isn't here and won't be till next month so i don't rely on anyone else. I have spent the past few months shoppping for our new house, buying baby thing's etc. I keep my self as busy as possible

 

[EmzyJA]

well i work full time, and i do all the cooking and cleaning at home. plus i tend to be tidying up after my husband all the time. i dont feel that because i'm pregnant that i'm less capable, however i do have to be more careful as i've been overdoing it recently and had to go down to labour ward one night coz my pains got too bad, so i'm making a concious effort to space things out a bit more rather than do too much in one go.

i do feel a lot of people use pregnancy as an excuse to not do much, unfortunately i'm one of those who gets bored of doing nothing so could never do that. i wouldnt worry about other people, if they wanna be lazy let them. its not gonna benefit them in any way and you can feel proud knowing that you've managed to accomplish a lot even when being pregnant (which can take a lot out of ya) x

 

[Tigerlass]

Hmmm, I don't work ( For medical reasons ) ....& I don't actually do that much but that is because my lovely OH won't let me! He says that I should get as much rest as possible as this is rest that I won't get back once LO has arrived so should make the most of it.
I try and help out with the housework but he just won't let me which is kinda cute Shows how much he does care and doesn't believe in the whole
" women should do everything " I still do all the cooking, & sometimes do the washing if he hasn't done it, and we do share some things but at the moment he does most of it. Yeah you could say its me being lazy but I actually couldnt give a toss what you think as we're both happy enough with how things are, both madly in love and excited about our LO joining us ...Everyone lives differently...As long as people are happy, they shouldn't really judge...IMO!

 

[super mummy]

The thing is though hunni is that every pregnancy is different. Not all women have the strength and energy to get up and go to work throughout pregnancy. Im in the same boat as you, i do EVERYTHING. But i do understand that not every pregnancy is the same x

 

[emsie]

It sounds like you are one of the lucky ones not to have PGP then!
My back/pelvis is in total agony and i can hardly walk atm, I but still have to get up and go to work full time and drive an hour each way to pay the bills - and i do 'moan' about how much it is hurting me, So i feel i have the right to moan about it... i am also really tired too because the pain wears you out.

Pregnancy effects everyone in different ways it isn't easy growing a human for most people so if people want to moan and complain just let them, not everyone has it as good as you do.

 

[0400772]

well i work full time, and i do all the cooking and cleaning at home. plus i tend to be tidying up after my husband all the time. i dont feel that because i'm pregnant that i'm less capable, however i do have to be more careful as i've been overdoing it recently and had to go down to labour ward one night coz my pains got too bad, so i'm making a concious effort to space things out a bit more rather than do too much in one go.

i do feel a lot of people use pregnancy as an excuse to not do much, unfortunately i'm one of those who gets bored of doing nothing so could never do that. i wouldnt worry about other people, if they wanna be lazy let them. its not gonna benefit them in any way and you can feel proud knowing that you've managed to accomplish a lot even when being pregnant (which can take a lot out of ya) x

Totally agree with the taking care, yes you are pregnant so have bubs to look after but its not a disability. at work i have had 3pregnant woman and so far i havent told the big boss as im scared he is going to think im going to turn lazy like they did! yes some mornings im tired and just wana go back to bed but thats the day i do silly things, like filing etc rather than try number crunch and get it all wrong! Lol. Also relaxing time should be availalbe with or without pregnancy .

I just read alot about woman being horrible to OH's because they wouldnt fetch them a glass of water. if im thirsty ill get a drink myself and ask oh if he would like one, and vice versa.

Being lazy during pregnancy is just horrible. Yes if you have been ordered by doctor for bedrest then slightly different arguement but in general it shouldnt stop you doing the normal things.

well done ladies for not takig advantage of your partners, mine woud happily run about after me but sa i see it what happens when bubs is here and i have had 1 hour sleep. no one to help then to fecth me drinks, so get into swing of it now and be a pro by labour day lol

 

[Lamsbump]

Me too, i still work my full time job of 10 hours then go home and work at home on our small Welsh D stud that we started a year or so ago so thats another 3/4 hours depending what going on, the only thing i have stopped doing is riding they usually get the winter off anyway but are just getting a little longer off this year, but i now walk the dogs instead as they used to just come with me while i was exercising the horses and i try not to empty the barrow as the tipping of it is just too heavy for me now. I still run the house, cooking, cleaning, shopping etc and also keep on top of the dog stud we have (although no extra work at the moment as no more puppies dues until next year but runing round after 6 dogs is hard work to keep your house clean) lol

I try not to moan to other half as he then just worries and gets upset, and i hate feeling like im being left behind as i cant do as much. but i have severe hip pain at the mo so am having to watch what i do as they have given up on me a few times now and i have keeled over, which doesnt do me or bubba any good. i will try and carry on doing as much as possible for as long as possible, but everyone is different.

 

[origin]

I think we should do wahtever is right for our pregnancies - we are all different. Some of us have to work, some others have not to work, some have the choice..it doesn't matter as long as we are all happy. We are blessed to be on these forums.

 

[super mummy]

Your still missing the point though that every pregnancy is different! I dont see why it should bother you so much because you have to work and some pregnant women dont.. You do your thing in your life and people do there own, t has nothing to do with anyone what we do or what you do in your life. I do everything to, but it doesnt bother me about other women not doing what i do...

 

[minkymoo]

No offence hun but you're only 16 weeks, when you are lugging a bigger bump around you might not feel so perky! Some ladies really suffer with pregnancy and illness. The pregnancy itself isn;t an illness but can trigger many illnesses.

I am employed but have been signed off for the last 6 weeks so that has made me become lazy because I have a longer day to fill so I relax in between but if I were still at work I would be commuting for 3 hrs, dealing with scrotes of the universe and trying not to get punched etc. I am bored out of my mind though.

My OH does all of the cooking but he did this before I got pregnant and frankly I'm not a martyr and if I get to put my feet up for a few months and be looked after then great, because I have the next god knows how many years of running myself ragged to do.

 

[nicole_]

i think thars unfair,
i work full time and its flexi-shift anywhere between 7 in the morning and 11 at night,
its tiring and i know id much rather be asleep at home. ive got lazier and i dont want to do anywhere near as much as i used to
you may be lucky and not feel like cr*p all the time, but i feel so dragged down by it all, its not because i use it as an excuse, its just hard to be perky for hours at work when you feel the way some of us do!

 

[MommyMika]

We're the fortunate ones that don't feel sick in our pregnancies, but please don't forget there are ones who are legitimately sick... my one friend had to be hospitalized during her pregnancy and on bed rest for months... she definitely wasn't faking it.

I am still doing everything as normal in my pregnancy because I'm fortunate enough to not have morning sickness etc. , however I do take some offence to your post because I have had friends and family who have been terribly sick... everyone's pregnancy is different, and I really don't think we should judge and make them feel bad for it...

 

[Mummy to be x]

I think using the word LAZY is coming across to some people a little offensive, Like my self i am now out of full time work since a few month back, before this i worked my butt of for over 12 hours a day holding down three different jobs, Unforunatley i don't have those jobs anymore but i will do what ever job any one gives me to bring in some extra money, I no there are a lot of women on here who don't work but given the chance they would! And i am sure they are far from lazy just because they don't have a job right now. I will do any thing that i possibly can to put money on the table for my LO and so will my husband who is as we speak serving on the front line. I take my hat off to all you ladies who are working a lot of hours i really do, but just because some of us do not work doesn't mean where been lazy when pregnant. Just my opinion

 

[super mummy]

i think thars unfair,
i work full time and its flexi-shift anywhere between 7 in the morning and 11 at night,
its tiring and i know id much rather be asleep at home. ive got lazier and i dont want to do anywhere near as much as i used to
you may be lucky and not feel like cr*p all the time, but i feel so dragged down by it all, its not because i use it as an excuse, its just hard to be perky for hours at work when you feel the way some of us do!

I agree! I have suffered with severe sickness in this pregnancy which i ended up going on medication for, my back is killing, i have dizzy spells, im knackered alllllllllllllll of the time and alls i want to do is feel better.

 

[emsie]

No offence hun but you're only 16 weeks, when you are lugging a bigger bump around you might not feel so perky! Some ladies really suffer with pregnancy and illness. The pregnancy itself isn;t an illness but can trigger many illnesses.

So true.

Try having PGP and not moan. I would love to see that.