Ece sorry about your edd, I didn know it was also October. I know what you mean bout being happy but there's always the thought of the Baby lost.
I know a Girl who had about 6 MC's and then went on to have 2 beautiful healthy kids after anti coagulant treatment. She always says that now she believes her 2 kids were meant for this earth, because if she hadn't had those 6 MCs then her 2 babes would never exist. It still doesn't take away any pain or suffering though and she knows exactly how to empathsize with anyone going through it.
I know that this little baby would never ever have existed If I didn't have the heterotopic, but I still will think of them both when 3rd January arrives (my edd). I know it's still hard knowing people and some family due in Jan even though I'm overjoyed at being able to hopefully have an April baby
As for scans, I can only ever get seen if my private Dr is having a clinic. He's quite good and gave me so much reassurance when I swore it was another ectopic