Biggest mistake ever!?

[mz_jackie86]

Hey guys im not a teen but feel better postin here!.....x

Well for the past week i have really been feeling like ive made the biggest mistake of my life by having this baby! I dunno why but ive been seein people just doing things and not have to worry about responsibilities and i think im gunna miss it!

Also the babies dad was interested but not interested that much, and yesterday he randomly come out and said "how we gunna split this kid" like its a bit of meat or sumthin then he said my family will wanna see it, without you! I mean how fuckin rude do u wanna get when all ive ever said is that i want his family involved then he said i wont be comin to your house (thinkin i was livin at mums when baby is born) which i wont be to which he said well why arent u lookin now get it all done now and ill help you i was like i dont want nor do i need your help i dont want anythin from him so he hung up on me!
Some girl who was the reason we always argued when we were together and tried makin moves on him when we were together, has told him that im only wantin his money and whatever else i can get from him cos thats what "girls like me do"......and its so frustratin i wanna punch her aswell!

Im so annoyed with everything and now im realising im stuck with arsewipe in my life forever and i wanna knock him the fuck out! He just makes me feel like a bad person all the time when its him who's always fucked up!
God i really really HATE him, and now im fuckin havin a baby with him i must be outside my fuckin mind.....

Thanks 4 reading guys!!! xx

 

[missjacey44]

I had days in my pregnancy where i felt like this too, i had a hell of alot of problems with my so called boyfriend and we have now actually broken up and to be honest i wish i could never ever see him again in my life but have no choice in that because of baby! But now my baby is here i certaintly would never say he is a mistake and regret having him, He is the best thing thats ever happend to me and i didnt realise you could love somebody so much! I used to be one who went out clubbing and shopping ect. with friends every weekend and i havnt done that now this whole year because of baby but i do not miss it all at, Id rather spend a night in, in my warm bed cuddling my baby!! Remember pregnancy sends all your hormones crazy aswell!

 

[meztisa]

I feel that occasionally too. But I think I would absolutely die if I didn't have this baby. My desire to have this baby exceeds my desire to go out!

 

[Always&4ever]

I think many people go through this no matter what the age hun, I know I have, but my baby means more to me then anything, be strong and always remember we are here for you

 

[mz_jackie86]

See thats the thing it doesnt mean as much to me as it does u guys and thas scary cos its not like i dnt want it if that makes sense! x

 

[tasha41]

I feel the same way sometimes, I get bummed out that I'm missing out on things my friends will be/are doing, that I might end up with a funky body at a young age (stretch marks, etc)... but at the same time I love my baby so much already and things have changed for the better so much that I couldn't imagine life any other way

 

[nikky0907]

I think that all the stress you've had with your personal life so far is keeping you from enjoying your pregnancy and bonding with your baby.
It's still gonna mean the world to you when it's born...

 

[kiara91]

i hope u can work through all this. you will enjoy having ur baby around when the time comes!!

 

[loz]

i think everyone has days where they think what am i doing, i think its because you know its a life long comitment and you wonder if you can provide everything, if u can manage and if you are going to miss out on a social life. iv thought this when i dnt get as much support as i would like of oh but they find it hard to understand all the changes your body is going through in early preg coz they cant see it. the next day im usually fine, its just hormones taking over

 

[Beth_18]

hope it gets better for you! i agree with nikky all the stress is keeping you from bonding hun x x x

 

[jessicajane]

aw good luck wiv everythin sweetie xx

 

[nikicola]

hey hun ur kind of in the same situation that i was in with me i was with this guy for a while everything was fine between us accidently found myself pregnant told him and that was the same time he desided to tell me that he already had along term girlfriend. since then iv had him on the phone to me threatening me to get rid of the baby and also tryin to bribe me to get rid of it. lately thow he seems to have accepted the fact that the babys coming no matter what and is satarting to reluctently take part saying that when the babys born hel come and see him if he feels like it and also trying to tell me that i need to move from were im living now so that when he comes to see the baby he feels comfortable staying and a whole other bunch of sh*t. sometimes i feel just like u i never planned to have this baby and the thought of having that di*khed in my life for the next 18years makes me sick! also i worry that the 1st time i look at my baby all ill see is him and that il end up hating my baby because he reminds me so much of this man. What i have found thow is that you just have to be strong, things may seem f*cked up at the moment but things can only get better. i suggest that u just tell the man to stay out of your life (but let him see the baby and everyting) All he seems to be doing is causing u stress and thats something that u really dont need right now. trust me hun u can do it. hope this helped n im always here if u wanna chat.

 

[mz_jackie86]

Thanks guys,

I spoke to him and he knows how i feel and i know how he feels and we just gunna try and be as civil as possible!
As for feeling down im feeling better and not letting anything get to me and just lookin forward to holding my baby!

Thanks alot girlss xxxx

 

[Cleza]

Hey Hun.

I'm not a teen mum. Infact I'll be 30 in a few months time, eeekkkk. I'm married & love my husband dearly but when I was pregnant with Josh I had days when I felt exactly the same. I was so scared & I thought that maybe my life would be over even though our little boy was planned. Do you know something, It's only just begun. Everyday brings something new & Josh is 3 months now & makes me smile everyday, ever since he was born I've done nothing but smile. It's hard, don't get me wrong but so so rewarding.

As for your Ex, yes he'll forever be apart of your life BUT you'll have to be civil towards him when your little baby comes along. If it was me I'd only speak to him regarding your child & if he wants to be immature then let him ruin his life because you'll forever have your little baby. You'll be the one he/she smiles at first thing in the morning, you'll be the first one to see him/her smile for the first time, giggle,walk & talk & if he wants to miss out on that by being an idiot & not wanting to be with you then more fool him. I know he wants to be a part of his childs life & I think that's great but just smile inside for the fact that you'll get to spend every single precious minute with your baby & will be the first one to see everything he/she does for the first time.

Don't ever let him make you feel shite because you CAN do this alone & will be a fantastic mummy ((HUGS))

 

[mz_jackie86]

Hey Hun.

I'm not a teen mum. Infact I'll be 30 in a few months time, eeekkkk. I'm married & love my husband dearly but when I was pregnant with Josh I had days when I felt exactly the same. I was so scared & I thought that maybe my life would be over even though our little boy was planned. Do you know something, It's only just begun. Everyday brings something new & Josh is 3 months now & makes me smile everyday, ever since he was born I've done nothing but smile. It's hard, don't get me wrong but so so rewarding.

As for your Ex, yes he'll forever be apart of your life BUT you'll have to be civil towards him when your little baby comes along. If it was me I'd only speak to him regarding your child & if he wants to be immature then let him ruin his life because you'll forever have your little baby. You'll be the one he/she smiles at first thing in the morning, you'll be the first one to see him/her smile for the first time, giggle,walk & talk & if he wants to miss out on that by being an idiot & not wanting to be with you then more fool him. I know he wants to be a part of his childs life & I think that's great but just smile inside for the fact that you'll get to spend every single precious minute with your baby & will be the first one to see everything he/she does for the first time.

Don't ever let him make you feel shite because you CAN do this alone & will be a fantastic mummy ((HUGS))

Thanks so much for that, really made me smile! Thank you xxx

 

[Cleza]

Don't worry about it sweets. Rant & rave as much as you like on here. That's what we are here for & I for one won't Judge you ((HUGS))

Just keep that smile on your face chick!

 

[pennysbored]

Although I've got no issues with my Lo's father I can relate to the feeling that you are going to miss out on things. Probably already have. I know I have! A bunch of girlfriends went to Vegas this weekend. I'm at home pregnant. It sucks. I wish I was with them, and its easy to resent your baby because of it.
But I also know that even though its gonna be hard, I'm gonna love this baby, just like you will love yours. I know it. Pull your support from where you can, and screw him.