Birth control after baby??

[Gia7777]

This pregnancy was quite a surprise for me as it's my first at 41 after trying unsuccessfully to conceive for many many years. Needless to say, with my age and history I will likely not be trying or even taking the chance of conceiving again after little one arrives. Since I am still fertile, I feel silly having to think about birth control again and with so many 'new' options out there, am starting to research some of the newer procedures as I feel to old to go with the old standby of the pill.

Any one else with me on birth control after LO is born? And if so, what will you be considering?

 

[Maple Leaf]

I had the mirena coil fitted after DS. It stayed in for the full 5 years. It really suited me and I had no period at all on it which was great. I will undoubtably be getting another one as soon as possible. They aren't for everyone, but they worked for me. My DH is talking about getting a vasectomy...but then he has been saying that for the past 5 years and look what state I'm in now! Lol

 

[SabrinaKat]

We've discussed as well, but am undecided....I'm 44 and this is my first child (trying since a mc in 2009, tho), so haven't used birth control in ages. I would love another baby but doubt that I would get lucky again and I don't want to get pregnant so soon after this one (fortunately, only in the last few weeks have I had some problems, and I only have 3-5 weeks left).....my OH is used to not using condoms now and the last bc I used was the implant stick, which left a bad scar on my arm and I feel uncomfortable inserting anything down there.....and I'm not interested in the pill.....um, let me know what you decide Gia....!

best wishes

 

[Gia7777]

Thanks ladies! I've just started researching and so far haven't been convinced of any one in particular, and keeping in mind I am going to try and breastfeed for at least 6 months, so need to be cautious of which ones may effect or be passed onto breastmilk. . Hubby isn't opposed to a vasectomy so that's a consideration as well....It does seem odd to be thinking in terms of birth control as it's been over 10 years since I used anything and didn't think I'd ever be needing it again!

 

[PoodleMommy]

I won't take birth control pills or any other hormonal birth control (e.g. Mirena) because those cause breast cancer. If you truly don't want to become pg ever again, then I agree with the vasectomy idea. But, although I'll be 41 when our first baby is born (and had a lot of problems and heartbreak getting to that point), we plan to try for #2 as soon as possible!

 

[mtnprotracy]

Since I'll be having a scheduled c-section, I'm considering having my tubes tied. Although we are THRILLED with this pregnancy, I don't know if I could handle another "surprise!"

Tracy

 

[suzimc]

Personally am considering being measured up for a suit of armour! xx

 

[Gia7777]

Personally am considering being measured up for a suit of armour! xx

I hear you! While this isn't my first priority let alone desire, hubby has been so patient and understanding of me totally losing any desire during this pregnancy that I feel I will owe him just a *teeny* bit in a few more months.....LOL

 

[BeachComber]

Hi ladies, I am glad you have all posted on this subject because it is something that I am wondering about as well. Although I have pretty much decided that I will be having my tubes tied since I am having a c-section.

This is baby number 4 for me, and I am pretty sure that I would like to be done after this one as she was a big surprise! Hubby and I would like to be able to not worry about BC and we both hate condoms. The pill makes my hormones crazy and I will be nursing also. Thought about an IUD but would rather not have something inserted in there either.

Also, I have had some early miscarriages in between having the children that I do have, and I REALLY worried myself sick this time around during the first trimester and do NOT want to go through that worry or possible loss again.

One last thing that has come up as well, is that this baby seems to be transverse. My doctor said that if she stays that way, with her back up against the area of the c-section opening, that I will have to have my uterus cut in an vertical way instead of the usual horizontal cut, and that this could make a future pregnancy very risky. So...just one more thing that I don't want to have to worry about.

 

[Acer]

Since I'll be having a scheduled c-section, I'm considering having my tubes tied. Although we are THRILLED with this pregnancy, I don't know if I could handle another "surprise!"
Tracy

yep...this is us too! We're sooo happy to have been blessed with this pregnancy but not gunna happen again!!lol!

don't know about the bc method tho...react quite bad to anything hormone-related and the way I see it....I'll have pushed out 2 babies, the LEAST hubby can do is get snipped, non??

 

[Torontogal]

I'm in the same boat. We are only planning one but not willing to do anything permanent about it. I was on the pill on and off for 20 years and a bit worried about going on it for another 8 (I will be 37 at delivery). I am considering the Mirena. I know it is hormonal but they are localized and small amounts of hormones, not like the systemic hormones of the pill. I would prefer a non-hormonal IUD but they are slightly less effective and effectiveness is really a priority for me - we literally can't afford to get pregnant again.

 

[Gia7777]

I've just started to look into Essure which is non-hormonal but some of the reviews I've come across have been unfavorable, ahh, well like anything else I guess. But also with some of the 'newer' procedures I feel somewhat of a guinea pig as all the side effects/long term effects truly are not known yet. Decisions decisions. Vasectomy is looking REALLY good!

https://www.essure.com/

 

[SabrinaKat]

I don't think my OH would go for the snip, tho!

 

[vintage67]

Hello all!

I am 44 years old and just had my baby on November 5th! I know some of you remember me from this forum!

We decided to have a tubal done while I was having my c-section. We have a 7 year old and now this baby, and I didn't have an easy pregnancy.

Even at my "old" age, having the tubal has caused me some depression. Even though with my health problems combined with my age, having
a tubal was the responsible thing to do, I think I mourn the death of the "possiblity" of more children even if I never tried to have any more.

I am grateful every day that I managed to conceive and carry 2 children after the age of 35 with diabetes and a heart condition. Not that it was easy; with a combined 6 years TTC for both and 3 miscarriages, but I guess by having the tubal I was saying that I know when to "quit" when I am farther ahead than I ever dreamed that I would be!

 

[Omi]

Nope, i wont be using any. This is my first and i will be 42 a few weeks after birth. I think it would be a miracle if i conceived again but we would dearly like to avoid having an only child at our age...so we'll just have to see and fingers crossed

 

[Torontogal]

Hello all!

I am 44 years old and just had my baby on November 5th! I know some of you remember me from this forum!

We decided to have a tubal done while I was having my c-section. We have a 7 year old and now this baby, and I didn't have an easy pregnancy.

Even at my "old" age, having the tubal has caused me some depression. Even though with my health problems combined with my age, having
a tubal was the responsible thing to do, I think I mourn the death of the "possiblity" of more children even if I never tried to have any more.

I am grateful every day that I managed to conceive and carry 2 children after the age of 35 with diabetes and a heart condition. Not that it was easy; with a combined 6 years TTC for both and 3 miscarriages, but I guess by having the tubal I was saying that I know when to "quit" when I am farther ahead than I ever dreamed that I would be!

Vintage, congrats on your new little guy! I remember you, for sure. I just wanted to say that I am worried about feeling the exact same way. Although we really are positive we don't want any more, I just worry I would mourn the possibility too much if I got a tubal. Have been considering it if I end up with a c-section but something's holding me back... I think that's what it is. Thanks for articulating it.

I definitely understand why guys may not want the snip... if we women feel this way with relatively few childbearing years ahead of us, imagine how men who can father children all their lives would feel... unless a guy really, personally wants to get sterilized for his own personal reasons, no matter what happened to his marriage, life, etc., I think it would be a mistake for him.

 

[Junebug_CJ]

Gia I used the Nuvaring while nursing Zoë to avoid a surprise pregnancy. It worked great! This time I'm just getting my tubes tied since they'll be in there anyways for my C-section

 

[Maple Leaf]

My DH has actually been to the Dr tonight to get a vasectomy referral! Looks like I might be able to go natural after the birth....I must admit I have the best sex drive when I'm not on any kind of birth control which probably swung it for him. Lol

 

[future_numan]

After my first three DD , I had a tubal ligation.
I was young and in a bad marriage. We divorced in 2001.
I later remarried and we decided that we wanted a child together so I have a tubal reversal in 2008. The surgery was painful and recovery for me was long.
We conceived vis IUI in 2009 ( due to various fertility issues) the baby was a happy surprise but I know in my heart of hearts that I am finished.
I am trying to talk DH into a vasectomy sice I was the one who went through so much to have our 2 babies.
So far no luck... I dought I will agree to sex at all after baby since I am so scared to have another.
I had Merina for a short period of time after Emily but it messed with my system and dried up my breast milk ( not a normal side effect) so I will aviod any form of BC that might interfer with milk production.