Hey sweetie....part of me wants to tell you to switch forums and stop reading, as I feel that listening to other stories must scare you half to death, but on the other hand....like me, you probably feel best prepared to tackle anything and everything with the maximum amount of info at your fingertips, so I hope I can help.
My mc was a mmc. I found out at my scan at 9+4, that baby had died somewhere around the 6 week mark. My HCG levels were consistent with a 9+4 pregnancy, my uterus and the sac had continued to grow in size, and my cervix was so tightly shut that the misoprostal had no effect and I needed a full ERPC. I hadn't spotted, had nothing outside of ordinary pregnancy cramps same as I did with Morgandie. My surgeon told me that everything about me had carried on being pregnant, apart from my baby.
But, in all honesty, when they told me, it was not a surprise, on some level I knew that my pregnancy wasn't going right. For that reason I hadn't allowed myself to overly bond with my baby...probably one of the reasons that I was able, emotionally, to deal with it all the way I did. Don't get me wrong, it hurt like hell, but it wasn't a shock.
I have to also say that my symptons were not as strong as they were in my first pregnancy....I suffered AWFUL morning sickness....to the point of hospitalisation, in my first pregnancy, and yet the second time, I barely barfed once. Just a background nauseous feeling, that never worsened, but never went away.
I don't temp...(although I must have taken a gazillion HPT's...they all got darker right to the end) and to be honest I kind of wished I hadn't now. I think that was part of my body kidding itself I was still pregnant IYKWIM. In my first pregnancy, I took one HPT, and when it was positive I just got on with my pregnancy and had a baby....sometimes I really believe ignorance is not just bliss, but a sanity saver, and I do occasionally wonder if we can even obsess ourselves into problems?
For what its worth, I actually would say put the thermometer away and enjoy, if you can. Those first few weeks are an incredibly privileged time that just you and your baby share, and I just wish you could relax through them (so so soooo much easier said than done, I know!), and a thermometer won't change anything one way or another, it will just give you more to think about....more to worry about! But I totally understand why you feel the need to temp, but please remember that at this point your temp will start to go wobbly anyway, so that may worry you more than reassure you. My doctor also believes that the worry factor from constant testing and temping can contribute to problems...but I guess that may be her personal opinion as opposed to research based. I can see her point though!
I truly wish I could wave a magic wand and give you the answers and reassurance you want....but every pregnancy is so different, and what is true for one person isn't necessarily for the next. All I can tell you is this morning, I was cuddling my 6 month old nephew, whose Mummy went through a bad ectopic (lost a tube, an ovary and nearly her life), a BO and a complete mc, was utterly convinced she would never have a baby, before finding out to her utter surprise that she was 14 weeks....just when she'd given up! The doctors had told her she wouldn't carry her own child.....and yet she had him no problem.
And from all the (vast amounts of) research I've done.....amazingly enough you still have a greater chance of a successful pregnancy than a problematic one! That fact always seems so difficult to get my head round....but it is true. So please try and hang on to that! Huge
to you xx
PS I'm always happy if you just want an ear to bend offline or on....I warn you though, I'm not a 'yes-man' and don't just say whats needed to make people feel better. I am very sensitive, but honest, and always try to take a balanced view, but if that would ever help....I'm here! xxx
and thank you so much for sharing all this with me. 
