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Hello ladies .
My story is that of a bitter sweet one . I have just turned 31 last month and I have been with my partner now for 3 years . My partner has a 7 year old girl and a very disgruntled bitter ex wife . They have after years and years just divorced last week and I have been there through all of it . The wife's fight was that for the one child she wants everything and after that battle , he lost . She became pregnant and she never had sex with him much after that . . . . . Then he met me and I in a nut shell turned his life around . I come from a very big family wheres my partner doesn't . . . . .
A few years ago I had PID and I knew at some point I would have difficulty in havign children but with the right medicine and the right partner behind me I would have a chance to become a mother one day .
About 7 months ago I went further into investigating my problems whilst I was on the pill . I had the dye test and it showed that with minimum pressure the dye didn't go anywhere where it should . Then the Dr applied more pressure and it finally went through my right tube . That meant that either my right tube ( the side I had PID ) was either blocked from the infection or was destroyed .
Meanwhile my Dr quite a good one asked me about my lifestyle and that of my partner . When I told him my partner had a very un normal job he immediately suggested that he take a sperm test . Of course my partner freaked out cause he insisted that not only was it not him with the problem as he already has a child , but he was in no way ready for a child . I told him that irrelevant to if he is ready for a child , I want to know my fertility situation and after may tears he agreed to go and have his sperm tested .
One week later the test came back ( in that time I didn't see the use taking the pill anymore if I couldn't get pregnant ) the test shown that my partners sperm was indeed very lazy after 24 hours though before those 24 hours it was arguably fit or active . So defiantly no reason for me to take the pill anymore .
We left it at that and when my partner got divorced with very bad consequences for him I made an appointment to go back to the Dr and book to see if they can do a laparoscopy . He was indeed very willing and happy to see that I had moved forward in my planning .
I came home and told my partner who basically told me that I am dreaming if he thinks he is going to go through having another child with me or anyone else after his very expensive divorce . ( devastated literally ) though deep down I can kind of understand his thinking . . . . .
He told me that maybe I could become pregnant naturally as I am not taking the pill . . . . . But my theory to him is that for both of us together , the chances are very slim . He said that if I become pregnant naturally he was OK about it but to go through IVF anytime soon he was not willing anytime soon . I feel totally humiliated in many ways , having to sit at the dinner table with him with his daughter sat on his knee almost made me want to vomit .
Is anyone out there ever had a similar story ( not with anyone as selfish as my partner I hope ) but had my kind of problems and become pregnant naturally ? I am becoming kind of desperate , almost ready to walk out of the door desperate .
Best of luck to you all . I am looking for some hope .
My story is that of a bitter sweet one . I have just turned 31 last month and I have been with my partner now for 3 years . My partner has a 7 year old girl and a very disgruntled bitter ex wife . They have after years and years just divorced last week and I have been there through all of it . The wife's fight was that for the one child she wants everything and after that battle , he lost . She became pregnant and she never had sex with him much after that . . . . . Then he met me and I in a nut shell turned his life around . I come from a very big family wheres my partner doesn't . . . . .
A few years ago I had PID and I knew at some point I would have difficulty in havign children but with the right medicine and the right partner behind me I would have a chance to become a mother one day .
About 7 months ago I went further into investigating my problems whilst I was on the pill . I had the dye test and it showed that with minimum pressure the dye didn't go anywhere where it should . Then the Dr applied more pressure and it finally went through my right tube . That meant that either my right tube ( the side I had PID ) was either blocked from the infection or was destroyed .
Meanwhile my Dr quite a good one asked me about my lifestyle and that of my partner . When I told him my partner had a very un normal job he immediately suggested that he take a sperm test . Of course my partner freaked out cause he insisted that not only was it not him with the problem as he already has a child , but he was in no way ready for a child . I told him that irrelevant to if he is ready for a child , I want to know my fertility situation and after may tears he agreed to go and have his sperm tested .
One week later the test came back ( in that time I didn't see the use taking the pill anymore if I couldn't get pregnant ) the test shown that my partners sperm was indeed very lazy after 24 hours though before those 24 hours it was arguably fit or active . So defiantly no reason for me to take the pill anymore .
We left it at that and when my partner got divorced with very bad consequences for him I made an appointment to go back to the Dr and book to see if they can do a laparoscopy . He was indeed very willing and happy to see that I had moved forward in my planning .
I came home and told my partner who basically told me that I am dreaming if he thinks he is going to go through having another child with me or anyone else after his very expensive divorce . ( devastated literally ) though deep down I can kind of understand his thinking . . . . .
He told me that maybe I could become pregnant naturally as I am not taking the pill . . . . . But my theory to him is that for both of us together , the chances are very slim . He said that if I become pregnant naturally he was OK about it but to go through IVF anytime soon he was not willing anytime soon . I feel totally humiliated in many ways , having to sit at the dinner table with him with his daughter sat on his knee almost made me want to vomit .
Is anyone out there ever had a similar story ( not with anyone as selfish as my partner I hope ) but had my kind of problems and become pregnant naturally ? I am becoming kind of desperate , almost ready to walk out of the door desperate .
Best of luck to you all . I am looking for some hope .
