BnB Colic Support Group

[mrsthomas623]

Aliss- Good luck for tonight! I hope he sleeps well for you!

Nicholatmn- Just start counting down until about 3.5 months and if it ends sooner than that it will seem even better!! I keep telling myself that we are about halfway there and we are still hanging in there! Nothing seems to help my LO either except for going outside.. but that only works for about an hour. Oh and bath time gives us some relief, how about you?

We go outside sometimes but it never settles her. And baths only make her cry more. It's really upsetting. It's like nothing will help her. So we just hold her and let her cry and try as much as we can to comfort her.

My heart goes out to you! Maybe she will be like you and grow out of it by 6 weeks instead of 3 months!

 

[aliss]

We have now gone two days without a colic episode. Here is what was consistent:

- I wore him for 5-10 hours per day in an Ergo sling (LONG, yes, but he sleeps rather than screams)
- Little Tummys gas drops 3x per day (potent stuff, only allowed to use for 2 weeks during peak colic 6-8 weeks
- Switched to soy formula
- Propped bassinet to 30 degrees

I don't know which of these worked since we did it all at the same time (upon his diagnosis) so we will continue all of it.

He slept 7-10pm(feed)10-1:30am (feed) 2am-5:30am(feed). Only one feed through the night (We went to bed at 10pm, I stayed up at 5am). It was amazing. I recommend everyone keeps searching! I went to FOUR different doctors before I got proper advice than "he'll grow out of it". Dr Sears Baby Book also had great info.

 

[aliss]

Not sure if anyone can relate, but here is another major concern I have had with the colic.

People say to let others take care of the baby to give yourself a break, but I am petrified that someone will shake him during a colic episode. OH and I have both had anger from the hours of crying, I can't imagine a stranger restraining themselves. What a scary thought. We got a Crying DVD from a nurse to help us, and there were two women whose babies had been killed from shaking (one from the father, one from the babysitter.

You need the break, but you can't trust it either...

 

[mrsthomas623]

Not sure if anyone can relate, but here is another major concern I have had with the colic.

People say to let others take care of the baby to give yourself a break, but I am petrified that someone will shake him during a colic episode. OH and I have both had anger from the hours of crying, I can't imagine a stranger restraining themselves. What a scary thought. We got a Crying DVD from a nurse to help us, and there were two women whose babies had been killed from shaking (one from the father, one from the babysitter.

You need the break, but you can't trust it either...

That is one of my concerns, but my other concern with other people watching him, is that they will just let him lay there and scream. My SIL has already stated thats what she would do. Yes, my LO screams and cries but I hold him or sit with him while he does... I could not put him in his crib and walk away for more than a few minutes.

Do not get me wrong, when I need a break I while put him down for a few minutes.. but not just "let him cry it out."

 

[polaris]

Not sure if anyone can relate, but here is another major concern I have had with the colic.

People say to let others take care of the baby to give yourself a break, but I am petrified that someone will shake him during a colic episode. OH and I have both had anger from the hours of crying, I can't imagine a stranger restraining themselves. What a scary thought. We got a Crying DVD from a nurse to help us, and there were two women whose babies had been killed from shaking (one from the father, one from the babysitter.

You need the break, but you can't trust it either...

I worried about this a lot when LO was younger too, I didn't trust anyone else to still care for him properly when he was crying for long periods. As a result I didn't leave him with anyone until he was about five months old and was reliably going to bed in the evenings. I don't know if he had colic or not but he certainly suffered with very bad wind and required long hours of soothing and I used to dread the evenings/night times. The worst time was from about 9 p.m. until 12 or 1 a.m. I was so exhausted at that time of the day, it was very hard to cope. The only things that soothed him were motion and breastfeeding. It did gradually get easier. I was expecting his wind problems to be resolved by three months but they did remain an issue until he turned four months. When he turned four months, it did all resolve almost overnight, it was quite miraculous. Everything improved from there, his sleeping, his mood, and I was able to really properly start to enjoy being a mum rather than surviving and coping from day to day.

 

[aliss]

We've had a few setbacks this week, including a horrid "vacation" for 3 days. MIL refused to return home so I spent the night walking in a sling trying to pacify his screaming as the bed & breakfast was too small and woke up the other guests. I sat outside while MIL and OH ate lunch because he screamed in the restaurant. This isn't an MIL rant post, so I'll leave it at that, but I've made sure to tone down the stimulation today and hope to report a decent (ie. less than 3 hours screaming) night.

 

[mrsthomas623]

Just wanted to report that we have been taking Nolan to the chiropractor for a few weeks now for colic. It has really seemed to make a difference, he maybe fusses 40 minutes a night instead of screaming for 3-4 hours a night. So if you are really desperate, I recommend it!

 

[aliss]

Just wanted to report that we have been taking Nolan to the chiropractor for a few weeks now for colic. It has really seemed to make a difference, he maybe fusses 40 minutes a night instead of screaming for 3-4 hours a night. So if you are really desperate, I recommend it!

Great to hear! I have never heard of using a chiropractor for colic. What's the reason behind it?

 

[mrsthomas623]

I am horrible at explaining things but the basics are that the nerves connected to the spine control different parts of the body. So if the nerve is irritated, it causes issues. A lot of his problem areas where connected to his digestive area and pulmonary something or other haha. He has simply, gentle adjustments in his irritated areas twice a week.

I think my LO has such issues because of his rough birth, he was stuck crooked and face up while I tired to push him out for 3 hours. From a few things I have read traumatic births, c-sections and oddly quick births have mis-alignments (not all of course) because they do not go through the proper stages of birth. I may have that wrong though haha

 

[aliss]

I am horrible at explaining things but the basics are that the nerves connected to the spine control different parts of the body. So if the nerve is irritated, it causes issues. A lot of his problem areas where connected to his digestive area and pulmonary something or other haha. He has simply, gentle adjustments in his irritated areas twice a week.

I think my LO has such issues because of his rough birth, he was stuck crooked and face up while I tired to push him out for 3 hours. From a few things I have read traumatic births, c-sections and oddly quick births have mis-alignments (not all of course) because they do not go through the proper stages of birth. I may have that wrong though haha

I wouldn't be surprised, we also had a rough birth with his collar bone fracture. It's like they get into a routine of pain and don't know any different...

I actually think we may be over the colic for now. We still have issues during the "witching hour" but it is nowhere it used to be.

 

[shuck06222012]

Not sure if anyone can relate, but here is another major concern I have had with the colic.

People say to let others take care of the baby to give yourself a break, but I am petrified that someone will shake him during a colic episode. OH and I have both had anger from the hours of crying, I can't imagine a stranger restraining themselves. What a scary thought. We got a Crying DVD from a nurse to help us, and there were two women whose babies had been killed from shaking (one from the father, one from the babysitter.

You need the break, but you can't trust it either...

Oh my god yes I am so the same way my inlaws offer to let us go out and watch him but I can't because I know he will cry and cry same with our friends and siblings.

 

[lindblum]

great idea aliss to start this thread, i wish it were around 4yrs ago

I don't know if this will help anyone but my first child had colic until 7 months it started just after 4 weeks. After 8pm she would start screaming her lungs out until around 3 in the morning. And we lived in a flat, i would always get really anxious and panic the neighbours would hear.

These are things I did and sometimes they worked sometimes they didn't:
1: swing her gently in a towel like hammock a few centimetres over the bed just in case it slipped and fell
2: warm bath in a bucket in the bedroom
3: put her belly down on my lap and rub her back
4: use a dim lamp

trying to breastfeed her or using a dummy made it worse.

I remember once she went so red and angry i thought she was going to explode. hugs to all the mums with colicky babies, hope it passes soon x

 

[Laraa]

Im not sure if my little one has colic. But we do have crying episodes well screaming episodes usually at night 9pm- 1am. Nothing soothes her, she will refuse her dummy or milk. Last night she was awful i honestly thought she was going to burst from all that screaming, i was very worried. I tried everythin to soothe her but nothing worked. My husband then took over and rocked her in his arms whilst singing to her and she slept. I really dont know when she screams she looks like shes in alot of pain. Has been happening for 10days or so.

 

[aliss]

At 6 weeks I can think of a few things
- 6 week growth spurt (which can be a nightmare) and tummy problems from needing to feed more
- teething (yes teething... mine had 2 full ones at 10 weeks)

 

[vickytoria88]

My baby girl is 10 weeks old tomorrow. The first few weeks of her life she wasnt like this. Now she pretty much screams from her first feed till her last, then she sleeps 9 hours solid at night. I have taken her to the dr who told me i was an over reactive young first time mum, thanx very much. I am using infacol which really helps with the wind, its the constant screaming i cant deal with, its really getting me down. I understand that babys scream but shouldnt as much as she does. its so sad

 

[stardust599]

Silent reflux can be a cause of colic and is worth looking into. As can cow's milk protein intolerance.

DS has both and is a HORRIFIC baby. He cries from morning until night, even when eating and sleeping and wakes every 45minutes at night. OH is booked in for a vasectomy as our DD had this too and it is absolutely destroying us, things are seriously so bad that OH has had a nervous breakdown.

And I too can relate to the anger from the hours of screaming. Both OH and I are now on anti-depressants to help us cope even though we aren't truly depressed, just extremely stressed! My Mum takes DS every 2nd week for a few hours and overnight to give us a break but I am petrified to leave him with anyone else as I know that he will scream the whole time and refuse to feed or sleep and I'm scared somebody would leave him to scream or wouldn't cope and would walk out on him.

xx

 

[aliss]

Oh stardust I am SO sorry you are back in the colic club, it's not fair!!

 

[stardust599]

I know

I thought I'd had my tough baby and it was my turn for an angel baby, I thought it couldn't be any worse but this feels worse!! I'm tired, I'm stressed, I'm upset and angry it's happened to me again and barely coping. One day at a time I know he will outgrow this eventually but it feels like a lifetime away!! xx

 

[stardust599]

And I also feel guilty because it is so hard to bond with a baby who screams at you 24/7. Horrible thing to admit but I don't miss him when he's with my Mum every 2nd week I'm just so glad of the break. And I haven't made him smile or coo yet because he spends so much time crying at me!!!

 

[AnnetteCali]

Wanted to bump this thread .... Too bad I didn't find it when my son was colicky! It was such a huge struggle! Hope other mommas will find this thread.. who are in need of support ! xox