Boobies - Sexual Objects

[Katerpillar]

Bit of a light hearted thread - just wondered if any of you ladies are finding it difficult to see you breasts as sexual objects - even the phrase sounds weird ha ha!!

Me and OH were discussing this today after I told him to stop touching them as they belonged to the baby!! I was joking....but then realised I really don't get an enjoyment out of him touching them a the minute - they are still a bit tender, my nipples look like they have been in a fight....and lost, and they are just generally like a pair of spaniels ears

I am just wondering if I will ever find them sexy again or if they will be forever confined to the mouth of my babe!!?

Ps don't get me wrong, I LOVE the fact I am 'growing' my beautiful baby with my very own milk....just wondered if it will ever be possible to disconnect the 2?

 

[Kellen]

Excellent question. I warned DH the other day, "You can play with them, but don't hold me responsible if they squirt you." He stopped and hasn't reached for them since...

 

[staralfur]

My OH doesn't go near them anymore. He reached for them once and then stopped right away like he was doing something bad.

 

[djbutton01]

TBH, we both love them! Maybe it's because this is our 2nd child or maybe it's that we've been married 14 years, who knows. I can flip back and forth. When baby is there; it's food/love/more. When hubby wants them; it's fun/love/more. We talk a lot and frankly about sex and our sex life so maybe it's the open communication.

 

[pinklightbulb]

My OH wouldn't go near them so long as they had any milk in them at all, lol. We are now back to our regularly scheduled program even though to me it feels weird after BFing if he puts his mouth on them

 

[Leids]

My boobs are a no-go zone. He tries and gets an earful. Even though a baby has been putting my nipples through the ringer the last year, they're still really tender if DH goes at them. I honestly don't see anything sexual about boobs right now and haven't since he was born either, so it's not a turn on at all for DH to reach at them.

Maybe after I'm done nursing him I'll find it enjoyable again, but I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything.

 

[susannah14]

It's both for me too. Both hubby and I still enjoy boobie play, and he (TMI alert) enjoys drinking straight from the source. I think he drank a few ounces today

 

[Jendra]

I'm not really seeing my breasts sexually these days. I watch them make milk as I pump, I watch my baby drink from them and well... hard to see what the sexual appeal is.

Though when I wear a normal bra it kind of comes back to me. And for the first time ever men are looking at my chest when I go out. I was an A cup before and not terribly used to my "rack" attracting any attention whatsoever. But when I see it happening I just think, "Hey, these are working breasts, not sexytime breasts!"

 

[TheNewMrs]

Yep, multifunctional here too. Just like my hands, mouth and vagina! Hubby knows if his mouth goes there, he will get milk. Were both okay with that. (I dont intentionally breastfeed my husband FYI!) It usually ends in a milky letdown anyway.... Damn that oxytocin!

 

[Katerpillar]

Interesting replies ladies, thank you! I am hoping that mine can start to have a dual use soon! to be fair, my libido is not back to how it was pre pregnancy yet so I'm hoping that decides to get its sorry self back here ASAP too!! That might help! Don't think the pill I am taking is helping.

Interesting to read all of your views

 

[djbutton01]

It's both for me too. Both hubby and I still enjoy boobie play, and he (TMI alert) enjoys drinking straight from the source. I think he drank a few ounces today

So does mine! I was afraid to be the first to admit it so I'm glad you did!!! TBH, he loves it and he hasn't gotten sick since baby was born. He helped keep my supply up during shot time for baby when she wasn't feeling well. It only took once a day for him. Well, it was at night after she was in bed. Many men are into it. If their oh acts like it is weird they will stay away and act like it's weird for them, too. I even put bm on his sunburn yesterday and it helped take the sting away.

 

[hopingforit]

I don't let DH touch them at all. He will try to sometimes as he still sees them as sexual objects but I usually just tell him they will leak if he touches so he backs off. I see them as purely milk machines now. Lol. Plus I get a lot of pain in my nipples from all the pumping so I don't want them touched.

 

[m_t_rose]

With my first he wasn't allowed to touch them until he stopped breast feeding at 22 months with my second after they were done being sore at about 6 weeks he was allowed to touch them. It just was a total turn off for me after my first but doesn't bug me now. Although if I miss a feed it really bugs me so he usually just tried and if I don't want him to I just move his hand somewhere else without making a big deal of it and he gets it and won't touch them that time.

 

[LDC]

I find it weird now too, and before I was pretty much keen on a bit of booby action!! I have to be REALLY in the mood now because I just picture my lo and it freaks me out. Plus my boob is pretty much out about 20 hours of the day, so now they're about as normal and sexy as my feet! Xx

 

[optimistic1]

My OH was watching our daughter feed and randomly said I will never put one off those in my mouth again...I was just like okay.......you'd probably end up getting some milk if you did anyway.

 

[SarahBear]

*shurg* I don't know. I personally like the idea of them being for babies, not a sexual object for men. I find it empowering to be able to bring life into this world and see nursing and breasts as an extension of that.

 

[septemberbaby]

No way. They're still tender at times, so he needs to ask before he even touches them.

To the ones that let their OH drink their milk: is that not really strange for you? I don't mean any offense at all, it's not for me, but different strokes for different folks I guess...it's just that I feel like having a man drink your breastmilk kind of sexualises nursing...which then would make it weird to nurse the baby...for me at least. And I certainly wouldn't be able to look at my OH the same way...like, what's next, want me to wipe your arse for you too? again, no offense at all to those who are into it! Everyone likes different things

 

[Tess.ie]

When I was pregnant my boobs got so sensitive I couldnt stand them being touched. Now I really dont see them as sexual, and oh doesnt even try to go near them because I think he is pretty scared of the milk. I do hope when I stop bfing they can go back to being play things!!