Breast just for comfort... not for food.....

[asbillie1]

OK, this may sound odd to some, but I want honest opinions... so here goes...



I have three children aged , 3 and 4 months.



I breastfed my eldest til he was 6 months... my 3 year old, I had severe problems with, and only fed for 6 weeks, which I felt really guilty about. So when I got pregnant with my baby girl, I was so excited and determined that I would breastfeed.



However, after an agonised 6 weeks of counselling.. electric pumping.. no sleep.. and not bonding well.. I gave up and have exclusively FF since then.



I had a bath with her the other night for the first time since BF-ing. We were having a lovely relaxed bath, and then she tried to latch on !!! I immediately took her off my chest, an got out of the bath, and she got really upset when wouldn't let her latch on. She has accasionally rooted through my clothes when falling asleep, but is easily distracted.



What I want to know is this... am I wrong for actually wanting to put her to the breast... I really wanted to when we were in the bath, even though I know there is no milk left. I just felt such an urge and have wanted to since.



And can I just say, it is in no way a sexual feeling... I just have such a strong maternal urge to let her comfort herself on me.... grrr... I feel so confused !?!?!?!







Thanks for reading. x

 

[asbillie1]

I notice that there are many views but no comments...
please don't be afraid to voice your opinions... I want to know if it is wrong to be feeling this....

 

[ChloesMummy]

Im not a breastfeeder i bottlefeed so i may just be talking rubbish! but i dont think its wrong for you to feel the urge. You wanted and tried to breatfeed but were unable to for several reasons one of them being that you were not bonding well and it sounds like you are now, maybe thats why you feel the urge? x

 

[ryder]

Actually Jasmine roots through my shirt all the time too... Even when im ffing her and stop for a minute to burp her, before I get the bottle in she was rooting. I had a similiar problem as you do... BFing just did not work for us in the beginning and I stopped after a couple agonizing weeks.

I Dont think there is anything wrong with it.

 

[Whisper]

I don't think there is anything wrong with it at all! Its mother nature and 100%natural.

If you want to let her nuzzle to you and latch on for comfort then personally i think you should.

She knows no different i am sure she wouldn't be doing that to just anyone, you're her mom and for her its instinct.
x

 

[mommyof3co]

I don't think there is anything wrong with it, it's natural

 

[honey08]

i wud do it as long as it feels comfy to ur self hun, she may have just been tired,and is she dont have a dummy maybe
ive not bf (this is my first) but i can imagine it having to b comfy for u both

 

[sam#3]

Its perfectly natural hun and if you and your LO want to have a nuzzle then do it theres nothing wrong with it in my opnion xx

 

[Hevz]

It is possible to breastfeed again once you have stopped.....it's called re-lactation.


Here's a link, there's a phone number too....they're very helpful

https://www.laleche.org.uk/pages/about/helpline.htm



Good luck babe...the sooner you start to stimulate again with baby and breastpump the more success you will have

 

[Serene123]

Perfectly normal. Infact baths are a lovely way of urging re-lactation x

 

[masi]

Theres nothing wrong at all it's perfectly natural, and you should do what you feel comfortable in doing.

 

[Lucy&Pard]

You could just try it and see what happens - if she actually latched on then perhaps her mouth is just big enough now or something - you could relactate there are loads of threads on here about it.

 

[becky1978]

I say go for it. Breastfeeding (or even comforting) is such a bonding thing to do so it can only be GREAT if you both want to do it!

 

[ownedbyspud]

go for it if it makes you both happy, although it might stimulate your milk again so if you dont want to relactate you might experiance a few probs.

If you are keen on relactating, get tonnes of support and spend the week in bed with a tonne of dvds and lo on the boob, its hard work but definately possible

 

[AC81]

i dont think theres anything wrong with it either! go for it x

 

[UKMummy]

Corr I feel for you. I know how you feel because when I decided to stop breastfeeding my first and second at 6 months I found it so tough and for a few weeks after that I would occasionally put them back on the breast because I had a really strong urge to do so and I really missed the experience. I would say do it and enjoy it because before you know it your baby will be a child and the opportunity would have gone.....

 

[KarenLV]

Why dont you just let her suckle a bit. Even if there is no milk,it is for comfort and bonding.I think its lovely that she wants to be close to her mama!