brill day = me crying my eyes out

[Mammy2Joojx]

now i know i may be over reacting but todayy has really upset me nothing that jooj has done at all, or anyone in fact .. But i cant stop crying

Been out in the snow all day .. At first it was just me, jooj & my nephew. Built a snowman, had snowball fights then i took them on a long walk. Went back to my parents house to meet my sister & her boyfriend who had been to buy sledges.

Anyway, cutting it short, we were out sledging on the hills & jooj was really clingyy to my sisters boyfriend .. It was almost like he was jealous of my nephew having a dad there now jooj sees his dad once a week but it broke my heart & i dont even know why

He wasnt upset, didnt ask for his dad or mention him but the way he was playing with sisters boyfriend just made me realise he DOES need a male role model & it would be nice if he had one constantly not suggesting i get a partner as thats last thing i need but just feel abit down & need cheering up

Feel free to comment & say im over reacting & its not a problem haha as i know i am x

 

[emlubu]

Funny u should mention that:
Today me and my daughter went sledging and she wasn't fased that it was just me and her but when I looked around I felt abit took bk by all the dads and mums and kiddies I did feel a bit empty but when is saw her having fun anyways it didn't matter.

I understand how your feeling but it's just a kids reaction to a part of growing up. At least the dad is in the life once a week. My daughter doesn't see hers!!

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

i know, i was looking around & didnt see 1 child with just their mam/dad it was full of families .. My LO didnt say anything to make me feel like this but i couldnt help it

& sorry to hear your LO doesnt see her dad dont know how anyone can make a child & not want to be involved! X

 

[teal]

I think it' sjust one of those things My son also doesn't see his father, at first it really upset me, especially when he would day dada etc but it does get easier

For me it makes me feel the same as I did when I had to go to scans by myself and see all the couples in the waiting room xx

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

i dont know why its upset me thouugh cos LO is perfectly fine lol never asks for his dad so i know he doesnt want for him just really upset me yesterday x

 

[dustbunny]

I think it is easy to look at other people in their family unit and from the outside it all looks shiny. But you never know what is going on when they arent in public, perhaps one or the other parent wants to leave the relationship, is having an affair etc ... at the end of the day a child needs stability and love and it doesn't matter if that comes from one parent or two.
Like teal, when I went to my first scan I actually felt bad that it was mum, me and my sister and not FOB... but he hasnt bothered/isnt bothered... he didnt even text/phone/anything after any scans to find out what was going on.
I am sure you are an awesome, top class, mother who obviously cares about her LO. Hope you're feeling better today.

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

i feel loads better thanks dustbunny i know i'm a brill mam & i know he's all he needs, i guess i just felt abit sorry for jayden yesterday as i could tell he wanted male company x

 

[Laura2919]

Sometimes it upsets that the girls don't have that but to be honest its not going to be forever and it doesn't seem to bother them at all.

Hope your feeling ok now.

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

feeling much better now laura, think it was just that day that upset me he has gone to his dads today & seemed a little resistant in going but he was fine

i actually worry about getting into a new relationship as i really dont want another man around LO. so i cant win really x

 

[Laura2919]

feeling much better now laura, think it was just that day that upset me he has gone to his dads today & seemed a little resistant in going but he was fine

i actually worry about getting into a new relationship as i really dont want another man around LO. so i cant win really x

Yeah ideally I'd want FOB there cos he is there dad but I don't love him and it wouldn't be fair not everything works out like that so you have to do the best you can.

You'll get there.