Buddies wanted trying for first baby after 2 losses

[cavalier12]

Hi I would love to chat to others who are trying again after a recent miscarriage. This is briefly my story we started trying for our first baby in March 10 i got pregnant in April 10 but sadly miscarried at 5 weeks. We started trying again straight away but took us one year to fall pregnant again. My periods became irregular following the miscarriage. I had another miscarriage 5 weeks ago at 8 weeks ( we had seen heartbeat twice as had scans due to bleeding). Doctor said we have just been unlucky but still finding it hard to accept. We will be trying again once my period returns. I would love to share this difficult journey with others who also require some hand holding and support.

 

[LEAME224]

hi i had a d&c at 12 weeks after dating scan found the babies heart stopped at around 9 weeks hurts sooo bad but life goes on i feel for you and know how u feel chin up x

 

[Bells n Bump]

Hi, I'm also just starting to try again after 2 losses, we started trying last year and got my first bfp in oct 10, unfortunately I found out at the 12 week scan that I had had a mmc and had to have medical management. We tried again as soon as I my first af had finished and got bfp in feb 11, although that one resulted in ectopic and I had to have the methotrexate shot, which meant I have had to wait 3 months since my numbers returning to zero. I am really hoping for another bfp soon and hopefully I will get to hear a heartbeat.

I understand what your going through and I'm here if you want to chat xxx

 

[cazi77]

Hiya I too am TTC # 1 after 2 miscarriages. A bit about me - we started ttc ~June 2010 and fell pregnant November 2010 which ended in m/c on Christmas eve due to a blighted ovum. I then fell pregnant in April but this too ended in m/c and suspected ectopic in May. I had methotrexate and am now coming to the end of my 3 month wait to get the drug out of my system I am really hoping its going to be 3rd time lucky!! I'm sorry to hear about all your losses. sending eveyone

 

[cavalier12]

Thanks for all your replies. Feeling abit more positive today and have decided that I need to lose some weight and exercise more so that I am healthy as I can be for when I hopefully fall preganant again. Just wish my period would return ( don't think I have ever wanted a period so much!). Hopefully the next few months will be lucky for all of us and we will all be feeling sick, tired and bloated very soon!

 

[heavyheart]

hi everyone, i have had one mc 4/7/11 ended in a d and c at 13wks and i'am excited but anxious about ttc again, part of me feels bad about the excitment of another pregnancy but suppose thats only natural, ill never forget that pregnancy or the baby we should have had. My heart goes out to everyone who has had to experience multiple mc , i honestly dont know how i would get through that again.

So ladies ttc again is there anyone in my boat who isnt doing temping and charts and all that stuff?? me and my husband decided that it would drive us round the bend and possible make us stressed about it so we personaly felt it would be more relaxing to let nature do her thing and we get to alot

hugs and baby dust to everyone xx

 

[Bells n Bump]

Hi heavyheart, sorry for your loss, after my first lost I went on a mad mission to get preggers again so I started temping and charting but I eventually decided I didn't know what I was doing and gave up so this time I won't be doing any of that this time. We are taking the NTNP approach and I'm strictly not allowed to take a HPT until I haven't had any sign of a period for 5 weeks, husbands orders cos last time I sent myself nuts!! Good news is we can have lots of fun trying, haha!!

 

[heavyheart]

hi bells n bump thank you, its good to here someone else is doing the more natural approach i dont feel so on my own, spoke to some lovely people on here but i tend to get a bit lost when the chat turns to opk's and temps i dont have a clue and ive didnt do it with my other two so i figure ill stick to what i know and do the baby dance alot haha

I also am sorry for your losses, you have had a hard time of it. Iam sure it will happen for you soon and u will have a happy healthy 9 months xx

 

[Bells n Bump]

I know what you mean and baby dancing as much as possible has got to be more fun than taking the temp and peeing on a stick every morning, the only stick I wanna pee on is one thats going to tell me if I preggers.

Fingers crossed we will both be enjoying a happy and healthy nine months soon xxx

 

[heavyheart]

that def is more fun than the sticks haha. Yeah the only stick i want to pee on is that magic one that tells me the same. Hopfuly it's our turn soon eh that would just be fab xxx

 

[skeet9924]

I am also trying for my first after two miscarriages...I fell pregnant the month after i went off my bc pill..( was on it for 13 years) the pregnancy stopped developing at 6 weeks and I began to miscarriage at 8 weeks. My second was a chemical pregnancy..I found out I was pregnant the day Af was due..nice bright line!! 2 days later I lost it ....

GL everyone I hope we all get our sticky beans soon

 

[patiently]

Hi ladies bit of background info...im 23, me and OH were ttc our first since last year...after 9 months got BFP jan 30th 2011 and mc Feb 4th 2011...after two cycles got my second BFP may 27th started bleeding from 30th may but hcg didnt start to decline until June 20th...i will use opks this month as we really want to have our first baby and i dont want to miss my fertile period...so sorry that we have all gone through two miscarriages hope were all 3rd time lucky...sending lots of baby dust to you all and hope we get our sticky BFP very soon x

 

[Justkeeptryin]

Hi, I too have suffered two miscarriages in a row this year.
A bit about us, myself and my husband are both 29, we got maried in October 2009 and a year later decided we would like to start ttc. We were trying for about 4 months with no success so I bought the clearblue fertility monitor and fell pregnant first attempt in March this year, sadly I miscarried at 5 weeks. I decided to try again without waiting for a period and fell pregnant. This time I was taking a low dose aspirin and seen the heartbeat at an early scan at 6 weeks. Then the spotting started and bleeding up until 8 weeks but 3 more scans showed everything still fine, the heart ounding away and teh bleed was not coming from the baby. Unfortunately at 9 and a half weeks the scan showed no longer a heartbeat. I am convinced I have low progesterone and all of the warning signs were there with the bleeding that my progesterone wasnt high enough.
I had to go for a D&C and they discovered that I have uterus didelphyis (two wombs each with their own cervix). Its very rare but apparently has the best outcomes for all uterus anomalies. Im still worried sick about it though, as there is concerns as to whether the baby will have enough room to grow and risk of premature labour.
Just last week I went to my recurrent miscarriage clinic and had 10 vials of blood taken and they are going to run tests for everything, blood clotting, progesterone, thyroid etc.
I have to be patient now and wait 6-8 weeks for the results and then will see a specialist to put an action plan in place for me. In my case I cant try again until I get these results as I am high risk.
To suffer one miscarriage is devastating enough but to have two just knocks you for six, you just never think that this will happen to you.
Its helpful to speak to other woman on here though that are going through the same thing, its so true that noone understands unless they have been through this themself.
I still feel like crap some days and want to cry about it all.
This is a difficult time aswell for me as my sister in law is actually in labour just now and Im worried how I will cope with seeing this new baby and trying to be happy for them at the same time.
Also its so typical as two people that I know have the same due date as I would have had in december, I cant help but feel sad at that. This time last year I didnt know anyone that was pregnant but this time I know of 11 people that are all pregnant , its a terrible thing but I do wonder "why me", if these things are down to bad luck/chance then I can accept that happeing once but not twice xx

 

[slurpie]

Hope everyone gets a sticky bean soon.
My scenario was similar to Skeet9922 ... one day happy, the next day I am crying like mad.

 

[Mummy of Ange]

We are still trying for our first baby. We decided to come off the pill in April 2010, i got BFP in August and found out i was expecting identical twins, I went into labour Christmas Day at 23 weeks and lost them both. We decided to try again when period returned which was March 2011, i had an early miscarriage in June, 5w and another one last week at 5w.

Its so hard as i dont think our time will ever come, but im trying not to loose hope xx