C section and a toddler at home?

[Evian260]

I'm wondering how I will get my 20 month old in and out of his crib when I'm home from the hospital? My husband works full time and I won't have someone here every day at nap time. Did you use a stool or chair to help them in while healing or did you just pick them up? Any advice would be great

 

[BabyBG]

Hey, not sure what to tell you but I had a csection with my first and definitely would not have been able to lift a toddler for much more than a couple of weeks after. My LO is 16 months old and we have her cot as a co-sleeper with our bed with other side of cot against a wall. I have a little step that we taught her to crawl in and out of bed safely. I know this is unusual though. I'm worried about her accidentally kicking me in my stitches so am looking into support bands. Maybe this might help you?

Have you though of setting him up on a mattress on the floor so you don't have to lift him and he won't fall out?

Other than that, good luck and I feel your pain!

 

[pinkribbon]

I have a 2 year old and had a section on the 5th, I've had to go back to my parents on a nighttime so they can lift for me

 

[weebun]

My daughter will be 16 months old when I have baby and because of complications with old scar tissue with her c-section they are advising a planned c-section this time to avoid another emergency RUSH situation... so they can take more time... I'm not happy In fact I'm really confused right now. It's not having the c-section that is the problem. It's how I am going to manage with my toddler once my partner returns to work after 2 weeks off An op in the first instance just is not the best option for me ..I feel.


I'm really worried what is going to happen part of me just wants to be induced and see how I go, If I end up emcs again then fine, according to the hospital if I do go into labour before my booked date I will just be sent straight to theatre for the op don't seem to be getting much choice what if by some miracle I'm dilated to more than I have ever been before at an early stage???? I only got to 7 with my son, and 8 with my daughter both due to fetal distress...

My daughter still has to be picked up, and and cuddled and stuff and I don't want her becoming anxious when I can't she;s such a happy little one, I don't want to spoil our relationship by distressing her cause mummy can't do something and she is too little to under stand,

I'm so glad I'm not alone, nothing else worries me about looking after our daughter, just the lifting when I find myself alone with her and her new sister....

 

[minties]

My toddler sleeps in a normal bed, but I have no issues at all with picking him up.

 

[Caitlin.]

I will be having a c-section in March. My daughter started sleeping in a toddler bed at 21 months. So maybe that could be an idea for your son. My daughter loves her bed! She will be 2 years and 3 months old when her baby sister gets here.

 

[MandyV]

I had an emergency csection w/ my second LO nov 8th just 3 weeks ago, I was suppose to have vaginal birth but all that changed so when I was discharged and told I couldn't lift my 16 month old son for 4 weeks I was so upset thinking he's going to be so confused I'm going to be holding the new baby but I can't hold him but thank goodness for my mom and husband during the day my mom comes over or takes my son to her house and at night my husband does all the lifting, I'm lucky with having my mom only live a block away, good luck it's hard mostly hard on my heart when he comes to me and says "up,up,up" :'( and I can't, I have even followed all the rules and I still had a little part of my incision open :/

 

[Evian260]

For those wondering what I am doing - I am using a plastic slide he has to have him climb up then I kind of quickly plop him in . Works great!

 

[Banshee]

I had my second c section when ds1 was 18 months. DH was home for a couple of weeks but after that I just had to lift him into his high chair and cot.

 

[Becky_Mummy2B]

My daughter was 2yrs 8months when I had my section and although I recovered quickly I've only just this week picked her up. I would support what the 2nd poster said about a low mattress as picking your toddler up early may damage you and delay your overall recovery. As for being alone with them both I've started that this week as husband is back at work and I'm loving it. Challenging but so lovely to see them together. Just make sure your other half helps you prepare for the day in the morning ie. everything you need is downstairs and within your reach x

 

[Evian260]

becky_mummy I see your daughter is named Mia too Thanks for the advice!

 

[Rowan75]

Thanks for this thread am a little nervous about how I will manage as dh can only take one week off work

 

[RebeccaG]

I'll find out at my next scan if I'm having a csec. My husband is taking 2 weeks off but am now starting to worry what will happen when he goes back to work... It will be the lifting for high chair and cot that will be difficult.
What is the rule on driving? When can you drive again although it will be lifting the car seat and putting toddler in the car that will be more of an issue than the actual driving!

 

[Evian260]

I think two weeks before driving.... But I only waited 10 days hehe

 

[rjm09]

Thanks for this thread am a little nervous about how I will manage as dh can only take one week off work

Both sections I was pretty much back to normal after a week.


I would suggest trying to transition to a toddler bed maybe a month before you're due, gives your toddler plenty of time to adjust.

My son was under 2 when we transitioned him, and no I wasn't preg, but it only took him a day!