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[Scampie]

Well after a nice evening yesterday at OH's parents anniversary, i text him this morning to tell him to bring his swimming trunks this mornin as he wanted to come to Finn's first swim. He replied with a text telling me he didn't think things were working out and he hasn't been happy for a long time. Dumped by text...Lol! He said he only hung around to be there for the kids. Of course i replied to inform him he has only been a hinderence since having Finn, and so he had wasted his time. He is useless with him but obviously i would never have told him that...Till now, lol. He sent a load of shit back so i just replied "Ok, when will you be round with some money for him he needs a mattress" He replied tomorrow so i just said ok see you then. I think he is now a little baffled as to why he isnt getting a barrage of abuse, lol. I just dont see the point though. Thats how he feels and i cant be arsed to spend the mornin havin a go at him. Finn and Sam dont deserve a mopey, miserable mummy, so i have come to spill here, then we shall get on with our day. Lookin forwards to Finns first swimming trip We have to go buy cutesy swim trunks, yey!

Thanks for the rant, hope you dont mind me joining you all x

 

[Aidedhoney]

Hello and welcome xxx

the ladies in here are brilliant xx

keep smiling

 

[Kate&Lucas]

Dumped by text!? What a nob! Loving the attitude though

Have fun swimming! I've still yet to take Lucas can't wait though he'll love it.

 

[Scampie]

Lol, pathetic isnt it. Oh well. The only thing i can think is he really didnt want to go swimming. If he would of said id let him sit on the side, lol.

Swimming has been rearranged for monday now. My friend is going to come so she can keep an eye on sam when finn wants to get out so i can go get him changed.

 

[teal]

Hello and welcome xx

 

[gemabee]

hello... gotta say i ur positive attitude.
all the best hun xx

 

[Scampie]

Thanks ladies. Im the biggest bravest persin about in real life. I dont do being upset or hurt. Its nice to come here and be able t say what i really feel. I spoke to him tonight knowing he is coming tomorrow to give me money towards finns matress. I was fine till he spoke to me but then i utterly broke down. I dont kknow why. I was just at that point you need sum1 to hug u, but cos i dont do admitting defeat, i dint have any1 to hug. I know i can do it. I brought up my son alone when i was 16, but i wanted so much more for my kiddies x. He isnt ds!s real dad but he calls him dad. I havent told him yet, he is 9 and will be herartbroken. If he comes round every weekend i hope i dont have to tell him x

Am i letting him treat me like a mug or am i doing right?

 

[LittleMadam]

Well done on your approach.

Definitely not being a mug. You are being strong (and wise) for the kids. And I am glad you are not chasing OH to come back--sometimes our dignity is all we have, and if OH no longer wants to be with you, he cannot be forced. I believe some men find it galling when they dump someone and that other person just gets on with their lives. It is the best slap in the face a dumped person can give.

And, yes, you will break down on occasion. But do not think you are weak! You need to grieve the loss of the relationship and, sometimes, the best person to grieve with is the ex. After all, you went through a lot together.

Hugs. xxx