Can I join this club?

[having#4]

Well it looks like I am going to be joining all you ladies. This morning my OH decided to tell me that we are over. As far as I can tell it is because of the other day. I paid off our bills and it left us with no money until this Thursday. He was furious when he checked our account and found nothing in there. Like I am supposed to not pay bills so that we have money in the bank?
Anyways, he accused me of spending all "his" money and called me irresponsible.
This morning, he drove like a douchebag all the way to his work and when we got out so I could take over I asked him "do you need a special asshole license to drive like an idiot?" He was so mad! LOL that's when he told me we were over and he's moving out. GOOD RIDDANCE!

So whatever, I am used to him pouting and throwing fits like a child, no big deal to me. I am just praying that he either means it this time, or he pisses off with the idle threats.

At lunch time I called home to see if he could take some meat out for me (you know, to thaw)
He's like "Why" and it took everything in my power to not give him a snarky comment back. I mean really, why? Because I want to use it for a centrepeice you dolt!
I am 14 weeks preggers, our baby is turning 2 next month, DS is just 3, and oldest DD turned 10 last weekend. I am tired of him acting like one of them!!!!

 

[suzanne108]

Sorry to hear about your situation. You are more than welcome to join us if you need to!! xxx

 

[babybaillie]

Oh hun im sorry. But welcome to the club xx

 

[KaeRit21]

awww hun sorry to hear, but welcome aboard

xxx

 

[having#4]

Thanks girls. I am so sick of him trying to be so controlling. I talked to him this afternoon to ask if he was serious so I can start looking for a new place for the kids and I.. he said that I should start looking for a new place as I wasn't taking the kids with me. LOL what a joke! I will do whatever it takes to keep my babies safe and with me, and he knows that I fight like a Pitbull (go for the throat and don't know when to quit) so if he is serious about this then he better be prepared for one hell of a courtroom brawl!

 

[KaeRit21]

u reminded me of my own mum saying that hun (she always told me if it came down to it, her kids would always win out over my dad lol)...good for you..

well even if its just for some words of comfort or to rant, we'l be here...just stay strong


xxxx
xxx

 

[purpledahlia]

Aw sorry to hear that! He needs a kick up the arse!! he should be moving out not you while your pregnant and with 3 kids! whats he thinking!
xx

 

[having#4]

well thankfully he wasn't home when the kids and I got home, and he didnt' come home all night. Didn't show for work today either. I am worried that he is going to go on a drinking binge. Also, he got paid today. I have access to his account and need food for the kids and gas for the truck. I am so tempted to just go into his account and take what the kids and I need for the next few days.

 

[purpledahlia]

well if you are having a joint acc you should get food, and apply for benefits now if your gonna be single

 

[having#4]

that's what I am thinking.
I am just waiting to see if his sister can find him and if not then I am going to transfer some funds and he can be mad all he wants. I need to take care of the kids and that means having food and being able to get them to daycare and back.

 

[having#4]

so I just talked to his mother to let her know that I had found out where he is. She basically put a halo on his head and knighted him! Saying in not so many words that he is the worlds best father who comes home after work, cooks, cleans and basically makes the whole world go round! Yes, he did cook and clean for about a month and a half while I suffered through horrible morning sickness. I'll give him that. But what about the hidden bottles in the couch, not coming home some nights, leaving his sick gf and three kids while he parties with his family? What about the fact that he is sabatoging his job so he can sleep on his brother's couch and drink all night? What about the fact that he breaks up with me everytime he gets mad?
Or how about last year during our son's 2nd birthday party, where he was drunk and announced to the whole party that he hated me and was leaving me? I'm not saying I am perfect but I certainly would not up and leave my kids no matter how mad I got at him. And his mother can continue to let him suckle for the rest of his life. She is an enabler and I am sick to death of all of their madness!!!!!!