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Can never quite relax

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So had my third scan yesterday, I'm only 8 weeks but I've bleed and had clots etc, baby still there alive and growing :happydance:

But they show you the picture of it and I just can't get excited, I almost don't want to see it because every time I do the imagine of the ultrasound of our dead baby pops into my head. Saying that the pregnancy is going by fairly quickly (helps I didn't find out until I was 6 weeks) and each week I feel more hope.

Still I kind of want to switch it off and I can't help myself by saying if all the time. If the baby sticks.

Anyone else?
 
Congrats on a good ultrasound! :)

I am still saying things like that. I just recently finally told my close family. We haven't really bought anything new for this baby either. I finally got some maternity clothes, but haven't worn them yet.

I bought a doppler and started using it after my doctor was able to find the heartbeat which has been a lifesaver for me, but some people say that it is more worrisome in case they can't find the heartbeat but everything is ok.
 
Yeah I had one from my first, not sure how much we will use it and that's how we found we lost the one we did. Although I think we used it a bit with the twins and it helped a lot.

My best friend knows as I needed to tell someone and my mum knows as we needed baby sitters for a scan, she told my dad which we didn't want him to know yet. But we are avoiding telling everyone else. For two reasons I guess, one because we are scared we will lose it and secondly because I don't think everyone's reaction will be joyous, well I know it won't. This is our 4th in 4 years lol. A few people have liked to tell me we were done and although I don't care what others think, it's not nice when you don't get a nice reaction.
 
You're not alone in feeling this way. I'm almost 14 weeks now. I've had a good scan and later heard the HB. Still can't feel excited or confident that everything will work out. I'm actually having trouble feeling bonded to this baby. It's hard, but I just take things one day at a time and hope that I will eventually feel more relaxed and be able to connect with my baby.
 
When I had my gender scan at 18+6, the first thing I did was hold my breath until they confirmed there was a HB. Once that was out of the way, I worried until they had confirmed that all of the measurements were normal. The tech told us it was a girl early in the scan and DH asked if I was happy (I've always wanted a girl), but I couldn't even answer him, I was so nervous on getting through the scan and making sure everything was normal.

It has gotten easier for me as the months have gone on (I was very distant in the early weeks, I refused to discuss the pregnancy, buy anything, or plan anything). It has gotten easier to have faith as time as gone on, but there's always that little bit of doubt. I think that's perfectly normal with a rainbow pregnancy!
 
I can never relax either. I had an US at 7 weeks 2 days and everything looked great. I have a doppler at home and I find the HB in literally 2 seconds now (compared to last week which I had to push down harder to find... so I am assuming there is growth happening), I have passed BOTH of my MC milestones and I am still paranoid. This baby is so very wanted and I am so blessed to have gotten this far, but I want to go all the way! I want to push this baby out and be his/her momma. Until I do that, I do not think I will relax. I hate what MC does to women. It really messes with us. Also, they told me that it is very positive that the sac looks very rounded (the avatar photo was just a diff angle) and both of my last pregnancies, the sacs had some sharp, jagged edges, which they say are a big indicator of chromosome issues... so I feel better about that, but I am so afraid because I have been hurt so bad.
 
It's getting easier, wish I knew exactly how pregnant I am. I haven't even done my booking in appointment or booked my scan yet lol I'm assuming I'm 9 weeks Sunday so 8+5 today but not sure. I lost one at 12 weeks so have a ways to go to pass that mile stone.

I do find myself getting excited though and dreaming about our new baby etc, discussing names etc. but I do keep saying if constantly, if this baby sticks.
 
Yeah, my latest mc milestone is also at 12 weeks and I saw that baby alive at 10 weeks so it's hard for me to relax even though I've had a perfect scan this week. With the one I lost at 12 weeks it did have a weak heart beat at 6 weeks but caught up at 10 weeks so I thought things would be OK. I've later read that babies that start out small with low heart beats still have an increased risk of m/c even if they catch up by 8 weeks. I didn't have a 6 week scan with this one so now I don't know if it was always doing well, of if it was one of those "started out bad but caught up and will m/c anyways" situations.

I think I'll start to relax once I reach 12 weeks and actually hear a heart beat. Until then, I'll be panty checking everytime I go to the washroom.
 
Yeah, my latest mc milestone is also at 12 weeks and I saw that baby alive at 10 weeks so it's hard for me to relax even though I've had a perfect scan this week. With the one I lost at 12 weeks it did have a weak heart beat at 6 weeks but caught up at 10 weeks so I thought things would be OK. I've later read that babies that start out small with low heart beats still have an increased risk of m/c even if they catch up by 8 weeks. I didn't have a 6 week scan with this one so now I don't know if it was always doing well, of if it was one of those "started out bad but caught up and will m/c anyways" situations.

I think I'll start to relax once I reach 12 weeks and actually hear a heart beat. Until then, I'll be panty checking everytime I go to the washroom.

Yeah me too, although used the Doppler today and got a heart beat
 
I'm 26 weeks and have had my big 20 weeks scan. At each appointment, my heart races until I hear the heartbeat. I have a bonus ultrasound in 2 weeks, and I promise you I'll be freaking out until I hear the heartbeat again. I'd like to say don't worry but...yeah, that's not likely to happen :flower:

My first scan at 6 weeks, I had an all-out panic attack: hyperventilating, crying, racing heart, the works. Reaction hasn't been that bad since, but it's still pretty nerve wracking.
 
Hugs ... Yeah it's so difficult, I keep stressing, in Saturday I was convinced it had died, thankfully OH found heartbeat Sunday which has helped, but argh.
 
Is anyone up and want to chat? I'm freaking out. I am about 8 weeks along but am spotting, low back pain and not nauseous anymore. I've had 3 mc and one healthy pregnancy. Has anyone been ok after these symptoms. Still another week til my scan.
 
I've had bleeding, spotting and clotting in this pregnancy, I haven't had pain but lots of ladies do at it's fine. Are you in the uk?
 
I've had that when I had a SCH with my son's pregnancy. I also ended up with a tear/abrasion in the placenta so I had lots of pain until it finally healed up. My m/s also disappeared literally overnight so combined with the pain and bleeding I was scared. But it was OK.

I would get checked out though as my last two miscarriages started that way too. I think spotting can go either way.
 

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