cannot belive im feeling like this

[stevon111]

hi there everyone

aint been on here for a canny few weeks now...to be honest this time around with this whole pregnancy so far i just dont seem to be looking forward to this whole pregnancy AT ALL!!! the biggest reason is all about what happened last time when we lost our 1st after 15+ weeks with no explanation of what actually happened as they just said i was something which happened but nothing in the end was wrong with our child after the post mortom.

i feel as though im already preparing myself for the worst all over again as jen had no signs that we had lost our baby in the first place as she had no pains or bleeding etc.

jen seems to be getting more and more happy about everything and i just feel like im going in the total opposite way with everything. ive even went totally off sex more or less completely which i cannot belive its not at all im bored of having sex with my gf its just im scared incase i harm my child or anything and the whole misscarage last time has totally put me off sex also....it just has not been the same since the end of may...im sure we have only had sex about 5-6 times which is just shocking becouse i used to have a real real good sex drive and always up for fun.....its just not the same anymore

anyone out there with some advice

 

[amandad192]

I don't really have any advice...
but
You have both been through so much with your loss.
I completely understand your fear of it happening again.
Your sex drive will come back though. I had a bleed at 27 weeks after having sex (I'mm sorry that probaby scares you more but it's not meant to, everything was fine.) and it put me and OH off sex for a while. Pregnancy is a rough journey as it is without having what you had happen.
Just be strong, Jen and your baby need you to be happy.

And I'm sure your angel is looking after your LO making sure everything will be okay.

 

[bbyno1]

awwh dont worry this time around im sure everything will be just fine
its always the 1st tri where everyone worries the most and especially after what you two have been through but keep your head up and stay positive x

 

[xx~Lor~xx]

I'm not really sure what advise to give you either You have been through a lot with your loss of your first child, so you've got to just try and take it all in slowly. Of course you are going to be extra worried this time around, and are probably not allowing yourself to get excited and attached to this LO in case the worst happens again. Don't put too much pressure on yourself and take each day as it comes. Try and stay positive and support your gf I'm sure it'll all go okay.

All the best
xoxox