Can't decide whether to have a 3rd child or stick with 2

[Seity]

Bear in mind it could be twins....!

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This has happened to far too many people I know and in one case triplets!!!

 

[marymoomin]

Bear in mind it could be twins....!

^^
This has happened to far too many people I know and in one case triplets!!!

I personally know two from bnb with triplets. One had three children tried for a fourth and ended up with 6.... If I am ever broody for another I sober myself with that.

 

[Leids]

I knew I was done at 2. I can't imagine having another. I never wanted more than 2 though. I love both of them and they're amazing but I'm happy to say I'll never be pregnant again.

I think when you know, you know. I debated just sticking with one but I knew I wanted two and I would have regretted it had we chosen to stick with one.

 

[jenmcn1]

I just had my 3rd baby via csection. For me personally I always knew I wanted at least 3 kids. I was nervous about how to juggle 2 kids and a newborn AND recovering from a caection( which is SO much different than a vag birth)! I'm now 6 weeks pp and the first 2 weeks were the hardest. I have to say I have no regrets. I love my little guy! Yes it's a juggling act with 3 kids, but it's getting better now that my little guy is settling into a bit of a routine. Financially speaking it's not a big change at all yet, as I'm breast feeding exclusively and he's wearing all his big brothers baby clothes. The first baby is always the most expensive. Some people think it's crazy to have more than 2 kids...I've gotten my fair share of 'comments' from family and strangers. I don't regret the decision to have more than 2 kids. I say do what you and your spouse feel comfortable with. And I understand the worry you having about recovery from a csection with 3 kids. If you have a supportive spouse, that can take some time or even hire a babysitter for a few hrs a day to help in the fort couple weeks than you will be good to go!

 

[Ziggy2]

A couple of months ago I thought we had come to a decision to stop at the 2 we have, but I can't move on from wanting a third so we have decided that we will regret it if we don't and I don't want to get 5-10 years down the line and then want one so we have decided we will try towards the end of next year! My main worry is how I will be viewed at work taking a 3rd lot of maternity leave from same employer!

 

[Rachie004]

Ooh, congratulations

 

[Pielette]

Wow good luck!

I've always wanted 3 and I feel so happy to be pregnant with my third. I think if you can afford to look after them properly and your heart says you want another you should have another. My husband was debating whether we should stop at 2 and I was gutted, I knew I wasn't done. This time it feels right to say I'm pregnant with my last baby.

 

[Lady_Bee]

I have thought about the possibility of having more but I think we are sticking with 2. I knew I would have another once my first was here, but since having my second I do feel that our family is now 'complete'.

 

[Wilsey]

I knew I was done at 2. I can't imagine having another. I never wanted more than 2 though. I love both of them and they're amazing but I'm happy to say I'll never be pregnant again.

I think when you know, you know. I debated just sticking with one but I knew I wanted two and I would have regretted it had we chosen to stick with one.

^^ could have written this myself. I always wanted two (I'm the youngest of two and my husband is the oldest of three) and my husband was keen on two also. I just knew. I am already giving away all our baby stuff. I just know I don't want to have another or be pregnant again.

So I figure, the other side of the coin is knowing you're not done. I think you're being sensible to make the list though.

I know one of my friends wanted a third and has made the decision not to for financial reasons (wanting to give the world to the two she already has and being able to go on overseas trips) and I hope she doesn't regret it. I have another friend who is debating the third and I'm hoping she goes for it because you can tell she really wants to.

I think you would probably rather be skint and happy than regret not having another.

Best of luck with your decision x

 

[Wilsey]

Oops you've already decided! Congratulations