Cant handle confrontation; my head is spinning

[surreysharon]

Just been round my parents for the day and come home a complete mess. I had a miscarriage Tuesday/ERPC Wednesday and was just told off by my family for not instigating the washing/drying up!

My head is all over the place at the moment and i explained this but was then told off for being lazy, told that i am not unwell, and whilst they understand i have been through a trauma i should get on with it. I couldnt handle the confrontation and my head was spinning. She just went nuts at me! I stood there and did the drying up and then walked out.

I dont understand what happened as i cant process anything in my head properly yet but it was led by my sister who is 4 months pregnant herself. Ive actually been putting on a brave face in her company to shield her so dont get what i supposedly did wrong.

I hardly ever eat there and so i didnt even think about washing / drying up and certainly not thinking of housework this week. Im just upset now as i want support and not critism from my nearest and dearest. Im critising myself enough for everyone, i dont need help in that department!

Ok rant over, just needed to say it outloud to someone

x

 

[surreysharon]

Calmed down a bit now

Just couldnt make sense of anything that had gone on as i felt bombarded with critisim

 

[Las78]

Oh hun, you didn't need that, I'm so sorry

People can just be so insensitive! You may not be unwell physically but what you have just been through emotionally is beyond words.

If it's any consellation at all, I had family around today and was told at least 3times that "it was meant to be and thats how i must think of it", If I had more strength to say how I actually feel (something that doesn't come easy any more) I would have turned around and said "The only thing that wasn't meant to be was losing my baby", they make it seem like it's just one of those things now get over it - if only they knew thought to be honest I hope they never have to know because I wouldn't wish this on anybody.

 

[surreysharon]

Thanks sweetie, i am putting it down to raw emotions all round. Maybe they dont know what to say and so saying all the wrong things. I then take things the wrong way. I think i'll just take a few days out to get myself together a bit more
x

 

[Las78]

Thats a good idea hun, I too find it easier just to be on my own. You can just be then, no explaining or having to put on a brave face or any of it. Take good care of yourself x

 

[LeaArr]

I'm sorry everyone is being so insensitive. Take care hun.

 

[JASMAK]

That sounds horrible! I would have been very upset too. I probably would have told them to eff off.

 

[jen1604]

Sorry everyone was being so insensitive.Sending you tons of love and hugs

 

[Rebaby]

That sounds awful I'm sure i would have been incredibly upset too.

I know it is hard to understand if you've never had a mc before, i know before mine i was ignorant to a lot of aspects of it which took me by surprise...but...i still don't get how people can be so insensitive when all it takes is a bit of thought for what the other person is going through

 

[todteach]

Sending you

 

[thingy]

Oh big Hugs I have felt like that so many times since my m/c. I even ended up just shouting at my husband and still get tearful now 4 weeks on. They just to give you a bit of space.

 

[Naya69]

i hate how some people can be so insensitive, if my daughter/sister had just had a m/c i wouldnt even expect her to even drag herself to mine i would be at hers cooking tea for her not having a go because she didnt wash her plate iam sorry to her your not getting the surport you so desearve hope u feel better soon xxx