Can't imagine trying again

[scuffer]

I am 13 weeks pregnant and have just found out that my baby has multiple problems which means there is no chance it will live. I will be starting what they call a managed miscarriage tomorrow.

I am in bits right now, but also cannot imagine ever trying for another baby. I have 3 boys and think maybe we'll just have these as I'm not sure I could face the heartache and uncertainty of trying for another.

We had said we'd like a couple more kids.

Is it normal to feel this way? Did any of you feel the same or were you desperate to try again?

 

[bazzb]

I have no kids
I was almsot 12 weeks pregnant a few weeks ago and was told my babys heart had stopped at 6 weeks 3 days

I had to take pills to make the miscarriage happen. I was in bits and am still very upset but starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel and cannot wait to try again.

I hope you get there as well

 

[scuffer]

I have no kids
I was almsot 12 weeks pregnant a few weeks ago and was told my babys heart had stopped at 6 weeks 3 days

I had to take pills to make the miscarriage happen. I was in bits and am still very upset but starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel and cannot wait to try again.

I hope you get there as well

I'm so sorry for your loss and hope you can try again soon. x

 

[mannymoo]

Scuffer - so sorry for your situation. There is nothing I can say right now to make you feel any better. I've been there and know how heart-breaking it is. Sending you lots of strength to help you through the next few days.

The pain does ease over time and maybe you will change your mind about trying for more children once a bit of time has passed. But for now, take the time to be sad about your lost little one and then to heal.

xxxx

 

[bazzb]

I have no kids
I was almsot 12 weeks pregnant a few weeks ago and was told my babys heart had stopped at 6 weeks 3 days

I had to take pills to make the miscarriage happen. I was in bits and am still very upset but starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel and cannot wait to try again.

I hope you get there as well

I'm so sorry for your loss and hope you can try again soon. x

thanks

 

[FeLynn]

I have 3 boys as well and I have had 3 losses within 8 months. my recent loss my baby's heart stopped at 13.2 weeks and I was completely heartbroken. I didn't want to believe it, I would rub my belly in hopes to jump her little heart (crazy I know)I cried and was sad then it all turned into anger. I am still very angry it will be almost 4 months since my princess became an angel and I am terrified of this happening again. I don't want to have any more pregnancies if this is going to keep happening I rather just stop all together b/c the heart ache is too much and is also hard on my kids as they do not know why mommy keeps losing our babies. I have had all 3 losses tested only got info on the 3rd loss. I found out my baby was my 1st princess and she had nothing wrong with her. So I have more questions then answers. Doesn't help my dr wont do any test b/c he said "its bad luck" he said b/call 6 pregnancy are with the same partner nothing can be wrong, bs I know there is something not right. I do not have issues getting pregnant its issues staying pregnant.

sorry for you loss but I understand how you feel. I will always want more kids that doesn't mean I will have more. I do not want to endure this again.

 

[jessandaj]

I want to try again but im terrified to have another miscarriage...its just so hard and and painful and i cant imagine going threw the exitment and nervousness and then extreme emotional pain all over again, but im hopeful for my rainbow and my husband is to so i know were going to try again i think starting in janurary hoping to get pregnant so we can have a october baby. Anyways im so sorry for your loss and im hoping you pull threw and eventually are ready to try for a rainbow.

 

[scuffer]

Thank you for sharing your stories, I'm so sorry for us all.

I'd never realised that a baby born at just 13 weeks would feel like my child. We found out she was our first daughter (we have 3 boys). We named her and were able to hold her. I'm sure in time we will want to try for another, I'm just quite scared about the whole thing.

 

[elohcin]

I'm so sorry, mama.

 

[jessandaj]

Im sorry yes ive seen that at 13 weeks they are quite like a normal baby. Im glad you got to meet her though and hold her and name her, thats a thing alot of people who miscarry get taken away from them. Good luck on ttc when you decide to again.