Can't wait for the holiday season to be over

[purplesparkle]

too much time with family has been doing my head in. struggle to be around people who have babies just makes me feel like my BFP may never happen. want to be happy but just can't when its just so in your face.

hoping new year will bring me joy and happiness

baby dust to you all

 

[SunUp]

I hear you!
I love the holidays, but sometimes it makes it harder.
Ok, so it ALWAYS makes it harder.

 

[Armywife84]

I second that. This terrible year can't get over fast enough. I too feel so insignificant that I don't have an infant or pregnancy to contribute to the family. Plus an overload of comments I don't care to hear. Even when you tell them it's unhelpful and actually makes you mad, they come up with another dumb comment! So it's best to sit there and take it, or just walk away.

At least us infertiles have a break until May....*Sigh*.

 

[PrincessTaz]

Tell me about it!

Luckily for me I only invited my mum who is really supportive, my sil who is also a big support and my cousin who is also ltttc#1 so understands completely what I'm going through. None of them are preggo, trying to get preggo or have babies so it was perfect for me! lol

 

[wonderstars]

Sooo with you on that. What is it with babies and the holidays. Blah. I seriously need to hibernate during the holidays if I'm not pregnant by next Christmas.

 

[uwa_amanda]

Sooo with you on that. What is it with babies and the holidays. Blah. I seriously need to hibernate during the holidays if I'm not pregnant by next Christmas.

Tell me about it!! I am thinking about that for all kid related holidays

 

[rosebud_01_99]

hi there, i love xmas, even as a childless woman i still get super excited and love everything abt it, the presents, the food the drink, my dh and i visit our neices xmas morning to see what they got and then have a trad xmas dinner at home then relax in the evening wth a tin of sweets a bottle of wine and a few dvds. so relaxing, i guess mebay its because ive been so long ttc ive got used to getting on with life around it i cant remember but i suppose my first few yrs were tougher than it is now when ive given up hope altogethere. rosebud

 

[zanDark]

At least us infertiles have a break until May....*Sigh*.

oh God...I hadn't thought of that yet lol

Every year I get presents for my SIL, MIL and mom...and then I cry it out in the bathroom lol

 

[Missus_L]

This year has been a hard one for me too. I wanna book an holiday for next Chirstmas and I voiced that on Christmas day but we got "what if you have a baby by then?" well if we was ever lucky to then we would be taking the baby with us!

 

[Shareena]

I am so with you. I have been the only person at parties without a baby and I felt so left out and just wanted to disappear. Sometimes I wish they don`t invite us to these parties . Every year it just keeps getting worse because you see more new borns.

 

[Armywife84]

At least us infertiles have a break until May....*Sigh*.

oh God...I hadn't thought of that yet lol

Every year I get presents for my SIL, MIL and mom...and then I cry it out in the bathroom lol

I wish my Mother, MIL, SIL (that I like, don't give a feck about the other) M-Day. Then I cry and don't set foot out of the house all day long. I believe I drank on last M-Day. Such a nasty day for LTTCers. F-Day is a little upsetting for me too..I get my dad a card and wish I could get my DH one too!

If I'm not at least pregnant by next Christmas, then feck it! I'm already saving back money to go on a nice beach vacation. I'm not going to be upset and miserable around several toddlers. Feck that!

 

[purplesparkle]

At least us infertiles have a break until May....*Sigh*.

oh God...I hadn't thought of that yet lol

Every year I get presents for my SIL, MIL and mom...and then I cry it out in the bathroom lol

I wish my Mother, MIL, SIL (that I like, don't give a feck about the other) M-Day. Then I cry and don't set foot out of the house all day long. I believe I drank on last M-Day. Such a nasty day for LTTCers. F-Day is a little upsetting for me too..I get my dad a card and wish I could get my DH one too!

If I'm not at least pregnant by next Christmas, then feck it! I'm already saving back money to go on a nice beach vacation. I'm not going to be upset and miserable around several toddlers. Feck that!

like it i'm giving myself another year too

my sil gave birth on xmas day last year bad enough had to spend part of xmas day watching everyone make fuss they are having a bday party in jan which i really don't want to go too. my af is due that day so hopfully willl have to go to hospital to collect my meds to start iui

 

[cooch]

I think Mother's Day must be a bigger event in US than UK. I have never been that bothered by it here (UK). I just don't associate it with TTC. Plus we don't tend to give people other than our actual mums a card. Lucky us eh!!?

 

[cooch]

2011 was my worst year of my life only second to the year my dad died. I'm trying to remain positive and a new year is fresh, and I feel slightly magical. I'm truly hoping we all have success and our healthy babies. xx

 

[Armywife84]

I think Mother's Day must be a bigger event in US than UK. I have never been that bothered by it here (UK). I just don't associate it with TTC. Plus we don't tend to give people other than our actual mums a card. Lucky us eh!!?

Hmmm how lucky you are! UK doesn't do baby showers and M-Day is just another day, sounds like I need to move there (if getting a VISA weren't such a pain).

It's horrid here. Everyone tells you, "Happy M-Day, if you're a mother!". "No I'm not, thank you for fecking reminding me!! ". The only way to avoid it, is to stay indoors with your door locked!

So sorry to hear about the passing of your father .

 

[wonderstars]

2011 was my worst year of my life only second to the year my dad died. I'm trying to remain positive and a new year is fresh, and I feel slightly magical. I'm truly hoping we all have success and our healthy babies. xx

I think Mother's Day must be a bigger event in US than UK. I have never been that bothered by it here (UK). I just don't associate it with TTC. Plus we don't tend to give people other than our actual mums a card. Lucky us eh!!?

Hmmm how lucky you are! UK doesn't do baby showers and M-Day is just another day, sounds like I need to move there (if getting a VISA weren't such a pain).

It's horrid here. Everyone tells you, "Happy M-Day, if you're a mother!". "No I'm not, thank you for fecking reminding me!! ". The only way to avoid it, is to stay indoors with your door locked!

So sorry to hear about the passing of your father .

Ugh, I know. I hate how big these Hallmark holidays are, in North America. The whole baby shower thing is completely out of control. I especially don't get it after you're on your 3rd, 4th babies. Like, really? Lucikly, no baby showers for most of my friends as their parents are immigrants and in many countries, it's bad luck to have a celebration before the baby is born. Makes too much sense, doesn't it?

 

[cooch]

Yeah we don't really do baby showers. One of my friends had one a few yrs ago and when I told my gran she thought it was bad luck to celebrate the baby before he/she was born. I kinda agree with that. So I will be definitely not having one should the option arrive.

I have been doing lots of visualising this ovulation of sperm meeting egg, lol. Fingers crossed.

P.s. How will you tell your forum friends of BFP if it happens?? I was wondering this. I like to read the BFPs but I know a lot of ladies don't.

 

[Armywife84]

Yeah we don't really do baby showers. One of my friends had one a few yrs ago and when I told my gran she thought it was bad luck to celebrate the baby before he/she was born. I kinda agree with that. So I will be definitely not having one should the option arrive.

I have been doing lots of visualising this ovulation of sperm meeting egg, lol. Fingers crossed.

P.s. How will you tell your forum friends of BFP if it happens?? I was wondering this. I like to read the BFPs but I know a lot of ladies don't.

The only benefit of baby showers is the mother-to-be gets a lot of stuff, that is if there's a good turn out. This one girl that I used to work with had some nerve to have a baby shower for her 5th baby ! You're telling me 5 kids later, you have absolutely no baby items at all? Needless to say that invite went straight to the garbage bin.

It's just tactless to have a baby shower for anything past your first. The only exception is if they're really spaced out in age and you have absolutely 0 baby items.

You could announce it on your journal, success stories or the BFP sticky thread. I generally don't like to read it on the main page, if I want to see who got lucky then I look at the success stories or stalk their profile. Doesn't mean I'm not happy for them (I seriously am), but too many BFP announcements on the main page gets too Facebooky and TTC section for my likings.

 

[cooch]

I know what you mean armywife. It can depend on one's mood. Sometimes its a hard days other times we're looking for inspiration.

I didn;t know that was the purpose of baby showers. Totally get the invite going in the bin, I would give them two fingers!

 

[purplesparkle]

i've only been to one baby shower wish i hadn't didn't enjoy myself at all all spent £40 in presents and all we got sent home with was penny sweets and one large boiled sweet shaped as a dummy which went straight in the bin