Caved in, booked a D&C ~ updated, it went fine :)

[dan-o]

Well I tried my hardest to wait, but enough is enough
I'll be 12+5 when I have my D&C on friday.
My baby died around 8 weeks right after the scan which showed a slow HB.
My body then reabsorbed the baby.

I really didn't want this (mainly due to the risks) but they don't have any beds in the next 2 weeks for an induced MC, they wont let me do it at home & my body seems to be hanging on this pregnancy for dear life!
It's starting to affect me psychologically now, so I've been given fridays cancellation slot for a D&C.

I'm going for some bloods today & I'm in for the procedure on friday morning. I'm scared, but hoping this will bring me the closure I need to get back to normal. My life has been on hold for over 5 weeks now (after the misdiagnosed blighted ovum) I think it's time to move on.

Unfortunately it's friday 13th so I hope I'm not in for any nasty surprises!! Yikes!

Any tips on what to expect would be greatly apreciated xx

 

[babybuffy84]

Am so sorry, i had a D&C nearly 3 weeks ago and it wasnt that bad IYKWIM i went to my room got changed into my gown,then they came in and put some tablets down below to soften the cervix then about an hour later i went to theatre where they gave me my anaethetic and then i woke up in recovery.
I only bled for about 3 days afterwards and no where near as much blood as i expected,i was in a lot of pain but that was only because the hospital forgot my anti inflammitry tablets but i just rested and took it easy it was very hard though waking up after the surgery and thats when it really hit me but i was like you i was 12 weeks when i had mine done and my baby had died at 6 weeks and i only felt i could move forward by having the D&C i wasnt prepared to wait 3 weeks for the other 2 options.Iwas the same as you too mine was a blighted ovum too i got comfort in the fact though at my hospital they cremate all the remains and scatter them at the baby cemetery and we go there and it helps us to deal with whats happened.

Am sending you tons of it will be hard but you can then begin to move forward in stead off feeling that your life was on hold because thats how i felt.
If you want to know anything else then pm me xxx

 

[Rebaby]

I'm sorry that things haven't worked out how you had hoped hun I can't imagine how hard it must have been for you these past few weeks, i hope the D&C is able to bring you some closure.

I don't have personal experience but my younger sister had a d&c for mmc at 8 weeks in january and although the whole thing was obviously devastating for her psychologically, from a physical point of view i believe it was very quick and straightforward. She was in quite a bit of pain after i think, but was given painkillers and last week she told me she has just had her 1st af since the operation, it took just over 5 weeks. I hope that helps a little.

Massive

 

[orange-sox]

oh sweetie i'm sorry it's come to this - i know you didn't want to go down this route.

I'll be thinking about you on friday, i really hope this gives you so closure on the whole situation.

Take care hun xxx

 

[Peach Blossom]

Hey hon,

As you know I had an erpc the day I found out about my mmc. I went private, but I can't imagine that your experience will be much different. It was really straight forward. I got in to my gown and then they took me down to theatre. They gave me the anasthetic and then I woke up. I was crying when they put me under and then burst in to tears as soon as I woke up, but there was very little physical pain. The hospital forgot to give me the painkiller too. I didn't have too much pain the first night, but the from the second night for about 2 days I was in quite a lot of pain. I went to the Dr and got the Co-Dydramol that the hospital should have given me and it spaced me out, but took the physical pain away.

I'm so sorry that this has gone on so long for you hon and that you have to wait until Friday to have the op. Thinking of you and sending you big

xxx

 

[honey08]

im plsd to hear this hun, sometimes things just dont happen natuarally, also as for the risks,when i spoke to my gp he said this op doesnt leave any scarring,which is very good, i felt i needed to have one,cos the wk i waited i was just in awful pain and i knew it was guna take a long time ......... they do lots of these op's hun,nothing wil go wrong,when u get ur strength bk u can start TTC again
i think uv made the best choice

 

[golcarlilly]

So sorry to hear things have not progressed naturally for you hun, lots of luck and love for Friday

 

[Rumpskin]

I had one honeybunch with my MMC in November. However, I had already passed LO by the time I had the op.

I did not have any pain afterwards but bleed quite heavily.

Thinking of you xxx

 

[MrsO29]

Awww hun I am so sorry.
As you know I had an induced m/c so I can't give you any advice, but I agree with you. If they had no beds free for me for 2 weeks I would have defo got a D&C too.

Good luck, I am sure everything will be fine.
I will be thinking of you.

 

[RobenR]

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss and what you have to do. My body also didn't want to let my baby go and the doctors told my DH that if they hadn't induced the m/c, I would have carried what was left of my baby to term and then had a heart attack at the end.

I'm sorry that you have to go through this. Stay strong! We're all here for you.

 

[dan-o]

Thanks guys, you've really boosted my confidence about the whole thing!

I'm looking forward to moving on to the next step & then finally.. recovery

 

[dawny690]

Im sorry it didnt happen how you wanted hun, I really hope this goes to plan and you can get your life back, I know its not the same but as soon as I was told at my scan the baby had gone I wanted the tablets to bring on af as I couldnt bear the wait, so I think you have made the best choice for you personally hun, I will be thinking of you and F'X everything goes as smooth as it can on friday xx

 

[MrsJD]

Oh Mrs,

Can't believe the stress your going through!

Good luck for friday. The proceedure is really quick and as you say you can stop putting your life on hold and move on.



XXXXXXXXXX

 

[golcarlilly]

Best of luck for tomorrow, thinking of you

 

[Shazzy]

Just wanted to wish you luck for tomorrow

 

[MissAma]

That just blows dude.... so very sorry to hear it all. The procedure ought to be rather standard and not that bad. My fingers are crossed for you.

 

[rachjim98]

I am sure things will go just fine for you dan-o. Thinking of you...xoxo

 

[lola]

Best of luck tomorrow Dan-o, I'll be thinking of you

 

[Cracker]

Just wanted to let you know that I'll be thinking of you on Friday
You have been so strong

 

[mazza2003]

Hi there. I havent had a D&C. I thought I mc but it ended up a ruptured ectopic. Surgery did give me closure as I was continuing to bleed from the suspected mc and it seemed to be going on forever (2 weeks). I feel much better psychcologically now I know its all over.

I hope it goes well, or as well as it can for you. I will be thinking about you. Let us know how you are doing. XXX