Changed My Mind

[~ Vicky ~]

Since sperm donor and I split up I always said i'd be happy to bring our daughter up on my own (which is true) and that I want nothing to do with him in the slightest, so therefore would not be seeking him for matinence money for Ava as I want him to have no hold over either of us. To him this was the perfect solution and we haven't spoken since August.

I also stated that when Ava was born I would come home and email him the news and send one picture, so he would know and I would have proof I sent him the news.

Anyway, after i'd given birth I was sending everyone messages saying my munchkin had arrived and being on cloud 9 and all emotional I thought sod it i'm going to text sperm donor too. So I did.

2 hours later he rocked up at the hospital and I agreed to see him. It was awkward but you know, Ava had arrived and I wanted him to see his beautiful daughter. He basically just sat there, refused to look at her, only held her for a minute and never took a picture. It broke my heart to see him treat his 6hour old daughter that way so I asked him what he wanted. His reply?

"Well I thought I best come down like and see IT now it's here"

Sorry? It? You mean your little girl? Right.

Then proceeded to add "Oh my parents will probs come down on the train tomoz to visit"

Again, sorry? What? I told him to leave and there was no chance his parents were visiting, he was lucky I let him in at all.

His behaviour just proved how much of a wanker he really is and still is to this day so now i've changed my mind. I'm making a claim and i'm damn well getting money out of him for his daughters upbringing. He's in the forces he can't hide.

Tosser.

 

[Charlotte-j]

get every penny u can out of him, what a wanker.
he doesnt even deserve your beautiful little girl

 

[xXDonnaXx]

What a tosser Yeah make sure you get every penny out of him.
x

 

[~ Vicky ~]

Thanks girls. He makes me soooo angry. Like I say, he's in the forces so he's got no where to hide this time.

 

[xXDonnaXx]

How can they be so shallow though, it confuses me.

A little baby he has created & he shoved his nose up at her.

Poor Ava. She deserves better than that.

 

[~ Vicky ~]

I know! He's done the obligatory visit now so he can look like the good guy and me the bad for refusing to let his parents visit - which knowing him will be exactly what he'll tell all his friends/family.

I don't know how any man can stand in a room with their newborn daughter right in front of them and not even bare to look them in the eye! What the hell is wrong with these people?

I only wanted him to say 'sorry' when he came in. If he'd said that I would've felt so much better but no sorry's, no how are you's, nothing.

 

[xXDonnaXx]

Tut, He sounds pathetic.

You won't look like the bad one hun. You only let him see her because it's his daughter. And the way he was with you & Ava, why should you let his mum & dad see her?!

Were better off without em.

 

[~ Vicky ~]

We definitely are. Still makes me laugh to this day how he said back in August time..

"I'm not a coward, i'm the forces"



So why can't you look at your own baby then? Moron!

 

[xXDonnaXx]

Haha, LOSER!

 

[welshcakes79]

Milk him hun, every fucking penny..your gorgeous daughter deserves it xxx

 

[xarlenex]

Get his pennies n spoil her rotten

 

[Younglutonmum]

What a twat

 

[marley2580]

Sounds like a twat. BUT I would let his parents see her - it's not their fault he's being a twat and Ava could have some really nice grandparents (unless parents are just as bad of course).

 

[tasha41]

Men are silly, stupid beasts sometimes

You're better off without him obviously, just get everything you can from him! (In Canada if they pay child support they can request and usually get visitation unless there's a problem of some kind-abuse, etc) which this guy sounds like he might try, maybe.

Good luck mama! Enjoy your little girl!

 

[xJG30]

Sounds like a twat. BUT I would let his parents see her - it's not their fault he's being a twat and Ava could have some really nice grandparents (unless parents are just as bad of course).

^ I agree.. if they've done nothing wrong, it's abit unfair to stop them from seeing their grandchild.

 

[Landingmach3]

*ass* he deserves to pay out every penny. why are some men such idiots when it comes to their children? They helped create the little person...doesn't that get them at all?

 

[nikky0907]

He's a jerk!
I think it's good that you're filing for child support.He is in no way allowed to dodge his responsibilities.

 

[Deb&Matilda]

my babys sperm donar is a t**t too xxx when I told him when I was 8 weeks gone he told me to terminate even though i had been told I could have any chidren xx so I said I would do it alone xx
What made it worse was I lost a lot of friends cause of him then the other week on my first night out saw him in town and he said hi !!! what not hows our daughter xx I wuld have preferred him to ignore me xx
Since my daughter is disabled it as beenm hard but you can do it alone xx I havent been to CSA yet dont want to give him the satisfaction xx