Hi ladies... I am 10mpp and this past Sunday I found 2 pink lines on a box of frers. I couldn't believe my eyes because it was unplanned and last time we conceived we had to use fertility treatments. I was so excited and so relieved that my body could do what it is supposed to do. However the next day my line got lighter and then the next day lighter again. I went to the doctor twice to have blood work which confirmed that I have in fact had a chemical pregnancy. This is been really hard for me even though I've only known for a couple of days. I was so excited to be expanding our family once again. Now I have a few questions. What are your best opinions and advice for getting through this emotionally? I haven't started bleeding yet when can I expect to do that? Also does anyone know why this could happen or how I can prevent it again in the future? And finally once I get my period Is that considered my actual period? Like like about two weeks later I could expect to ovulate or are things going to be funky for a while? Thanks for all of your help
Sorry to hear about your loss
I know how emotionally draining it is to get all excited over a pregnancy and then find out you're going to lose the baby, especially when you haven't even started the bleeding process yet. BnB is really the first step to getting through this. Honestly when I had my mcs I came to BnB and the ladies on here were so helpful because they've been through the same thing and knew exactly how I was feeling. Next would be, as the pp suggested, talking to a close friend you can confide in. Some ladies have good relationships with their own mothers and feel talking to her is comforting. I had to go on anti-depressants after my mmc in July because I was so upset by the sudden loss.
As to the bleeding, really it can happen anytime. With a chemical, usually the bleeding will happen quite soon after your expected AF, when hcg levels reach zero and your body realizes you are no longer pregnant. I would say you *should* start bleeding no more than 2 weeks from your expected AF date. Since your hcg is already starting to go down, that means your body has already recognized the loss and it shouldn't be too much longer. It'll more than likely be like a heavy period, maybe with heavier bleeding or it may be lighter bleeding but last more days than your period would.
As to why it happens, it could be a number of things. If this is your first one, I would simply chalk it up to bad luck. If it keeps happening, which is very rare, then you might want to look into all possibilities. On a positive note, you are more fertile after a pregnancy loss so your chances of becoming pregnant immediately and on your own would be much higher, but of course it is up to you. If you don't feel emotionally ready and need some time to grieve, I wouldn't rush into it. If you do decide to get pregnant again, I would try taking folic acid about a month before you plan to try again. Some people also say taking low dose (81 mg) baby aspirin helps build up uterine lining but I would ask your doctor before starting that.
Your cycles should return to normal after a chemical, since you weren't pregnant for very long and your body doesn't need as much healing time as with other types of losses. Once you stop bleeding from your chemical, I would wait one more cycle and then you should have a fairly normal period. You will probably ovulate as soon as you have this period but you may or may not ovulate between your chemical pregnancy and your first post CP period.
