Children arnt possessions rant

[Dream.dream]

It really bugs me when I hear certain friends of mine taling about their children and say well he's my child and I can do what I want with him. Or keeping them from the dad and referring to them as well he/she is mine . They are mostly single moms .

Honestly no one owns a child. They are a human being you get the provleshed of raising, not a object for you to do what you wish.

I hate it when people don't think about what good for the child and use well its my child ill do what I want as an excuse .

End rant

 

[blamesydney]

FOB's ex girlfriend is literally keeping all rights away from FOB (hasn't even gotten to see their daughter) JUST because he broke up with her. She cares so little about how her daughter might feel about this, it shocks me. He's a great father to my daughter, she's just bitter. He's going through a lawyer though, and once they establish paternity he should have no problem getting visitation.

 

[Dream.dream]

That kind of stuff bugs me

My sons dad wa an abusive ass, I still let him have supervised visit that were very hard for me to deal with because I knew it was important for my son to know who his dad was. I have done a ton to try and help his dad be a better parent and tried to help him get his life together because I hoped he could be a good dad some day for my sons sake.

He hasn't and he's given up on my son. However it makes me mad when women use their children as pawns.

My dad Tried to do it to me and it was so hurtful and cause me alot of psychological damage . I'm still working through it so I know that's its jot good for kids .

It should be about what's best for the child not what makes you feel like you've won

 

[Dezireey]

Those types of women really annoy me. If you have a man who is a good father, good role model, supportive financially and loves his kid/s, no woman should EVER stop him from seeing his children.

If he just didn't want a relationship anymore but wants to see his kids, then he has a right to do that, just as a woman who is unhappy with her OH, leaves him. Women like me fight tooth and nail to get FOB's to even acknowledge their kids. I would do anything to wave a magic wand and have my son have a great father in his life, as it stands, he is going to have no Dad as FOB just doesn't want to know (considering how awful a person he is though, its not such a bad loss). I think these types of women need to get their selfish heads out of their bums and think of their kids first and foremost.

 

[Louisandemma]

Made me tear up. This is how my ex views our daughter.. As 'hers'. I have no rights unless she says so.

 

[Calambria]

It's terribly upsetting.

I visit a lot of single parent forums and sadly I see it on there all too well - "He doesn't want to get back together with me anymore, and me and LO don't need all that stress so he can just forget about LO, she doesn't need that"

What doesn't LO need, your butthurt feelings over being rejected romantically? Nothing to do with your LO. That's all about you. YOU sort it out.

And it's no different when a woman uses her child to gain and/or punish. I can't stand that. It actually truly enrages me. Not only is it wrong, not only is it damaging to the father/child relationship, AND mother/child relationship, but it actually feeds the stigma of the "single mom" label - The negative connotations, I mean.

For fucks sake, we have enough ridiculous statistics trying to work against us. Stop making us look bad.

 

[Dream.dream]

Made me tear up. This is how my ex views our daughter.. As 'hers'. I have no rights unless she says so.

It's ridiculous, a child having a relationship with their other parent is important , if the parent wants to be there then they should be allowed.

Even dads who are complete assholes there is ways for them to have a relationship with the child and keep them safe

I agree its contributing to te stigma and making it worse . Even when were not talking about the other parent I know people who move there kids constantly from house to house , feed them crap , and don't take there kids o the doctor and use the its my kid ill do what I want excuse for their crappy parenting

 

[helen_beee]

In today's society people are too concerned about their rights and not concerned enough about their responsibilities.

 

[Dream.dream]

In today's society people are too concerned about their rights and not concerned enough about their responsibilities.

That's very well said. I like that

 

[Zondon]

I completely agree with this thread, but sometimes of course there are valid reasons to keep a father away from a child that have everything to do with the safety of the child and nothing to do with anything else....! I know they're not the cases anyone here is talking about, I just felt the need to say it is all!

Zondon

 

[Dream.dream]

I completely agree with this thread, but sometimes of course there are valid reasons to keep a father away from a child that have everything to do with the safety of the child and nothing to do with anything else....! I know they're not the cases anyone here is talking about, I just felt the need to say it is all!

Zondon

Completly agree . If it can't safely be that way for the child then that's what's best. Most people don't try they get mad ecause the other parent left them .


My sons dad was a physically and emotionally abusive ass. However he has always had supervised visits ( supervised by my mom and dad) .hes go a temper and would be dangerous to me an my son go ever left alone with either of us son I understand where people in those cases are coming from .