Christmas

[KiansMummy]

I don't no if there's been a thread like this but just wondering how your all gunna work Christmas with fob, my babies dad see's him once occasionally twice a week for no more than an hour and has asked to have him on his own for Christmas afternoon, I'd already made plans for Christmas day to go to family in the afternoon for Xmas dinner, and this is the one day I want to be special and just me and LO with my family (I know that sounds selfish) I've offered to take him round on Xmas eve or boxing day so he can see fob and fobs family, also he asked to have him on his own and he's kicking of that I've said no, becos he's still feeding from me and I don't feel Kian is ready to leave me as he hardly knows his dad x

 

[chels24uk]

my son will never be away from me christmas day. It works for some people to do alternate christmas's. but i love christmas to much. This year is our first year apart, but as hes moving to scotland next week, hes spending this christmas eve and day with us. But it will be the last. My son will also be going off to see his family on boxing day this year - we've always done alternate boxing days to see family. After this year, it will be me, baby and my son christmas day (he wont be welcome anymore) and carrying on with the alternate boxing days to see family.
If you have made plans, id put my foot down and say no. Maybe he can have baby for part of christmas eve or boxing day? Or just pop over christmas day for an hour or so if thats all he sees him anyway!

 

[MissRhead]

Me and LO are spending chrismas day at my parents, FOB will be coming round early morning to watch him open presants then will be here for chrismas dinner. But his family don't do anything for the day and when he's at home he spends most of his time with kam anyway as he's away most of the year xxx

 

[wishuwerehere]

Tell him that you deal with all the difficult times, you're there when he's poorly or hurt and upset, and if you want one nice day with your son and your family you're damn well going to have it! I thik if he sees him boxing day that's perfectly fair
My FOB is taking her to see his family on the 22nd, he knew he wouldn't get to see her Christmas day so he didn't bother asking, and he's working most other days round the Christmas period so it turned out quite well for us

 

[sciencemum]

Just tell him straight that you and LO are spending christmas together and if he wants to see LO any other time, that fine - but it's christmas and you are seeing your family ect. It's christmas, its not about bending round to his ways.

If he kicks off its his own fault, he will probably come round.

My and FOB are spending a day or 2 together before christmas and then I am having her for christmas day. He lives 3 hours away which is most of the issue, i did offer him to come stay at my parents, but it would have been for 3-4 days due to transport, however i retracted the offer the other night because - its christmas, i should be with my family and he if FOB but he is not my family and i dont have to accomodate him because i feel guilty - i want to see my family and friends and just not think about him for a little while.

 

[MummyJade]

I just split with FOB, I have told him he can have maizie xmas eve and boxing day...
like it or lump it, yes he is the dad but i deal with the 24 hour care of our daughter so she is staying with me xmas day i have offered him to visit xmas morning if he likes... xx