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[Peach Blossom]

Hi ladies, sorry not to be on today. It was Joe's birthday. We took Lili swimming, went out for lunch, and went for a walk. His seeming indifference is really getting to me now. I told him that the present I bought for him was a hotel and spa weekend, but he didn't react in anyway... didn't even say thank you... And for some reason, which I can't explain to my conscious self I appear to be cooking him dinner...

 

[babyloulou]

I'm sorry Jess Have you called him on anything! Mentioned his indifference? X

 

[lisaf]

wow... he's lucky there isn't going to be any poison in his dinner... (maybe some spit though? )
I really hope you can get him to come around tomorrow at your counseling session

 

[SBB]

God Jess you must be ready to punch him just for a reaction!!!

What time is counselling tomorrow?

X x x

 

[Peach Blossom]

Took Lili to be wieghed this morning... 13lbs 10! She's finally on teh 0.4th centile!! I asked about the 12 month review and they said they don't do it. They target certain babies, but not everyone gets one... That's living in London for you!!

 

[Peach Blossom]

There is no point in saying anything... he just keeps saying wait until tomorrow...

 

[Euronova]

Sounds like he doesn't deserve dinner or a bday present! Treat yourself to it!!
Are you telling him that he is indifferent? what does he say?

In France we would say it sounds like that postman "was farting higher than his own ass"

Horrible heartburn and nausea here, had to go and have a nap as it seems I am ok only when I am sleeping

Got my prescription for my 12 weeks scan will book it tomorrow once Oliver tell me his availability....
It was the last time I will see my gynaecologist until I need contraception and started to chat to Oliver about it. I know it's early days but I really don't want to go back on BC - it was making me depressed anyway.
I mentioned to him that I hope he will accept to get ligatured once we are done having children... oh well... that was opening a can of worms!
So it seems he is well against it.... so basically I can have the children, get ripped apart in the process but he won't have a small op to be supportive at the end....
He is such a chicken, he is even bad when he has his blood taken but I really think that we have to do all the rest, surely he can do that for his family! (anyway loads of time to argue about it but I won't be giving up!)
No way I am the one getting ligatured, his turn!

 

[Euronova]

Where did you give birth in London? I think I will go private at Chelsea and Westminster.
London can be so crap for health care... which part of London do you live in?

I really wonder what he will have to say... I hope he wants to work it out, but it does not sound like he is very keen at the mo Why can't men be like women and let it all out!

 

[Peach Blossom]

I live in Enfield. I gave birth in the 1970s, or otherwise know as Chase Farm Hospital... Complete dive of a place. I didn't even give birth in a birth suite because they said I wasn't in labour... Then we had to walk down the corridor in to a comon room and pick a frozen ready meal that they would heat up for you.... Even just after you'd given birth... and no one told me about it! If I hadn't asked I wouldn't have known... Really really glad they're shutting the maternity unit there!

I think his way of dealing with things is to build up barriers... I don't know what magic event will happen tomorrow night that will suddenly make him open up, but I am holding on to the thought that he wouldn't have suggested or agreed to counselling if he didn't want it to work... somewhere in the back of my mind I have a nightmare that actually he wants to tell me that he's leaving me, but wants a mediator there to stop me from going mental.... But I'm sticking with the positive thoughts until I'm proved wrong!

 

[SBB]

V wait til you've had the baby and he sees how hard it is - he'll def consider the snip then!!

I had a friend in London who had an independent MW and homebirth and it was great, no idea about hospitals though sorry! Not that helpful obviously! If you can afford / are covered for private go for it, just make sure they don't intervene more than necessary to get you in and out quickly or whatever!

x x x

 

[SBB]

... somewhere in the back of my mind I have a nightmare that actually he wants to tell me that he's leaving me, but wants a mediator there to stop me from going mental.... But I'm sticking with the positive thoughts until I'm proved wrong!

I really hope not Jess. That would be very cowardly of him.

x x x

 

[Euronova]

I am lucky I have this private insurance, although it is costing us a little fortune but it's been worth it ten times over!
I think I will go for midwife led care in the private wing of the chelsea and westminster, they should be more available than NHS midwife, you get a nice room and a menu to choose your food from and a TV etc Then if there is an issue, there is a consultant there at all time.

I really hope your OH will want to work it out, he sounds so strange.... you seems such an open person, and he seems so withdrawn.... I hope he speaks out tomorrow... you will have to make sure he has time to speak is mind... even if you have loads to say too.

 

[lisaf]

I worry that he'll say something like that Jess with him so shut down
Then again, maybe he did cheat on you and is shutting down out of guilt and figures he needs to tell you with a therapist there so you don't up and leave him and refuse to talk to him?

Horrible thoughts I dont' want to put bad ideas in your head.

 

[Peach Blossom]

They're all already there Lisa, so don't worry... Gonna be a long 24 hours!

I wish my insurance had paid for my maternity care... We have corporate healthcare... it did pay for a private FS though. Next time, if there ever is one, I will go to UCH or something... I am high risk so need looking after when I'm preggers!

 

[kcw81]

Hey Jess you know counseling takes more than one session right? I mean it's a process but tomorrow Is a good step. A positive step. Patience Is important. Joe is being a dildo. Acting like a child.

 

[Peach Blossom]

Dildo! Yeah, I know it's gonna be a long process... but as you says, it's a start!

 

[babyloulou]

I'm so disappointed in how he's treating you Jess I hope he sorts himself out!

(I still find it so weird talking about Joe and knowing I used to watch him on TV in Bad Girls when he was an actor! )

 

[kcw81]

Haha I thought actors were good at expressing feelings?

V- hold yr horses girl! U got a wAys to go before u need to tell yr dh to snip his balls!

 

[Peach Blossom]

Thanks Lou

 

[Euronova]

Yes non of the insurance here would pay for all my insurance pay... i managed to get under the french healthcare as I am an expat And as you are entitled to see a gynaecologist every year and every month if pregnant, it's really nice care
Plus I pay into an extra private bit that will pay for private room etc (also pays form my contact lenses, glasses, dental care).... As far as i can see, I wonder how they make business as I am literally ripping them off!
Once we will be married it will not be available to me anymore so we want to have our kids first.

He seems to really be holding his cards close to his chest and I think that is horrible, he must clearly see how much this is hurting you! Men can be such twats... go so angry when OH did not even want to talk about the possibility of him having the snip!
Wether he likes it or not, it will come!