Closed due to unnecessary comments and judgements (please dont comment)

[x-dannielle]

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[louise85]

No he can't take her hunny, his names on the birth certificate which means he's got parental rights but a court will only take a baby off their mother if theres major cause for concern.

Just concentrate on your little girl he's just trying to scare you!!

 

[x-dannielle]

Thanks hun,
Just wondering if you knew what major things he would be involved in for having parental rights?

 

[purpledahlia]

yeah he cant take her, he will get time to see her tho away from you (providing hes not abusive or anything) but he cant just take her, if your worried about it go to your local CAB office with your mum or dad and get all the advice you need there. x

 

[purpledahlia]

with parental rights he just has a right to her life as much as you, he cant take her, but say you wanted to put her into a school and he disagreed with the school choice he could argue she has to go to a diff school, for example if ones religious and ones not, he can stop you moving abroad but im sure thats not what your planning just now?

The courts will just say he can see her say... maybe every 2nd weekend for the sat night and a evening a week, or something, they will set a time he can come and take her out, see her alone, etc, but you will be her main carer, they wont take her from you unless your an unfit mother (which i dont think you are)

 

[louise85]

Yeah hun basically what purpledahlia says and also if she needs any medical care or you wanted to change her name for example you'd need his permission as much as yours.

Good luck with everything, I know it can be hard! x

 

[Ash_P]

No he cant take her, If he wants to take it to court let him. The courts will marjority of the time side with the mother. My ex pulled this one on me when we split up. I reminded him that He`d have no social life, me up during the nite, what the costs of having a child involved etc etc and it scared the crap outta him, he just pulled this on me to scare me, but he soon woke up, that he wouldnt have the fun hes having now if he was a full time father. I also told him to take me to court once LO is born and fight me for custody and when he realised the legal fee`s he`d have to hand out, he soon shut up.
Men are good at trying to mess with our heads, esp when it comes to our children, Call his bluff and im sure u`ll see a different side to him.

On another note, u shouldnt be with him hunny just for the sake of a child. When my husband announced his affair, i was close on forgetting it all (i didnt wanna be a single mum) but I soon realised that just because u have a child to someone means u should stick with them. If ur not happy theres no point. Life is too short, and ur LO is the most important thing.

Hope ur ok x

 

[suzanne108]

I deffo agree that he's saying this to scare you.

He could try to get sole custody but he wouldn't have much of a chance. I asked my friend about this who is a trainee solicitor and she said they never take babies away from their mums unless the LO's life is in danger.

xx

 

[Arielle]

He cannot take your child from you.

If he goes to court saying that you cant "provide" for your child they will put him on child support.

Natural birth mothers have first priority. YOu have to be a drug addict, abuser, or in-and- out of jail for him to take her.

 

[starbucks101]

I'm sorry, but for the length of time you were together that means you were 12 when you got together with a 16 year old? and the age of your daughter (so cute by the way) means that at the very very latest your partner was 19 and you were 15 when you slept together...

That absolutley screams problems to me... there is NO way on this planet he would get custody of your daughter, he'd be banged up as soon as it came out that you were under 16. ( I dont agree with that when your 15, you know your own mind at that stage, however I dont believe thats when you started a sexual relationship)

I'm not judging you sweetie, however i am concerned for your and your little girls welfare, you should not be with a man who is attracted to 12 year olds, no matter that he "was only 16" thats still old enough to know better...

 

[x-dannielle]

I do know i was very young when we got together but i/we have been through so much since we got together 4years ago that it has MADE me more mature for my age (that and having a baby at 16)

By the way you put it a cross your making it sound like hes interested in 12 year old girls now hes 20...which is so untrue and making him out to be a perv which he certainly isnt.

I came on this forum as we were having a rough patch and i wanted to know what he was actually entitled to, not to be judged and for people to have a go about my personal life when really you dont know nothing about me.

 

[Arielle]

I do know i was very young when we got together but i/we have been through so much since we got together 4years ago that it has MADE me more mature for my age (that and having a baby at 16)

By the way you put it a cross your making it sound like hes interested in 12 year old girls now hes 20...which is so untrue and making him out to be a perv which he certainly isnt.

I came on this forum as we were having a rough patch and i wanted to know what he was actually entitled to, not to be judged and for people to have a go about my personal life when really you dont know nothing about me.

Dont worry about it!, my husband is 36 and im 24 we have 12 years between us!!!!!

 

[x-dannielle]

exactly just because we're younger doesn't mean he's a perv or it isnt gonna work. all relationships have ruff patches which is why i was finding out what would happen to my daughter if worse came to worse and we did split up.

She'll say its different as your now 24 and im still only 16, but age is nothing but a number.

Thanks made me feel bit better xx

 

[Arielle]

I know how you feel we have been dating since I was 20 and SOME of my family called him a pervert, and even a child molestor! Come on!

4 years is normal, even if you were young, so was he! Its not like he was taking advantage of you! yall are both teens!

Good luck with everything.

 

[x-dannielle]

thanks so much least some people understand x

 

[starbucks101]

Danielle, i'm sorry if ive offended you. That was never my intention. Ive also not passed judgement on your situation as i do not know you or your oh.

I was pointing out that as im sure you and everyone else is aware, that if he tried to take your daughter, and it was to come out your age at the time that the law is black and white. Whether thats correct or not morally unfourtunatly its the law..

Do you see what i mean?

Hope things sort themselves out for you and baby xxx

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

I dont think anyone was judging sweetie

But good luck anyway
xx